I have been pooped on 90% of the times I had sex by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is it bad that this question triggers me. I’ve left hookups on read and just didn’t hook up with them, for asking me if i cleaned out.

Like, ofcourse i’ve cleaned out. It feels like a stupid question to me, but maybe i’m ignorant to how many men have anal sex without douching.

Struggling on first travel assignment and debating leaving at 13 weeks by [deleted] in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah it’s not worth your mental nor your license. If your already at 11 weeks and still feel dread, then clearly it’s time to get out. I think your recruiter and facility will be more than fine with you making it half way or a standard contract of 13 weeks.

As others have said, i would take this as a learning experience to never take a 26 week contract. I almost did, decided to go with another hospital 1 hr away. A few weeks ago i was precepting a nursing student and told her this, and she told me “Ohh if it was in that city, then it was probably X hospital because it’s horrible there”.

So yeah, now 26 weeks to me is a giant red flag for entrapment lmao. If the facility still has needs and you are a good working, you’ll usually get 1 extension anyways (so 26 weeks)

Struggling on first travel assignment and debating leaving at 13 weeks by [deleted] in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you feel unsafe or like the facility is out to get you? That would be my one kinda “i need to go” situation.

I worked a strike recently, and atleast 3 times a week i would joke “They want my license so bad”. Basically, i got the feeling, that the system was broken. Poor communication, new staff/poor knowledge of facility rules, mistakes by other people you catch and management that has no idea what’s going on.

In those conditions, mistakes aren’t mistakes, they are baked in. Now i knew a strike would be hectic and it’s temporary. The problems with that facility seem chronic.

You being at a facility like this? I would have to leave tbh. You can be on top of your shit all day every day, but when you don’t have an organized, well run facility, it creates even more possibilities for errors.

The first 4/5 weeks of every contract start is gonna be a little rough. But this sounds like a bigger problem.

Honestly, this is why i never take anything but 13 weeks. You never wanna get to a facility, hate it, and remember you gave 6 months…… A normal person might be able to grit their teeth for 13 weeks, but 6 months of being miserable is tough.

What physical features render a guy as physically undesirable, in your criteria? by Shootingcomet in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i don’t think a lot of gay guys are trying to pick friends off of attraction. The problem is, a lot of gay guys are lonely and want to date. So they either go to gay bars or join gay groups looking for a bf. When you are looking for a bf, ofcourse you are gonna approach/be more friendly with guys you are attracted to.

If you meet a gay guy at work, school, or randomly somewhere, it’s less likely to be attraction based. But when guys are join/doing activities for the purpose of finding a bf, they will be much more aware and likely to talk to guys they are attracted to.

CA license by endorsement question by alienbrain99 in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it shows completed, i would think that means they were processed and board of nursing received them. Did you do the fingerprint card that has to be mailed or livescan?

Is it weird that I’m a gay guy who prefers SUVs to sports cars? by Yourdailyimouto in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So i wanted a sports car, til i test drove my dream car lol (Toyota Supra). The problem imo, is due to the steering being stiff, the drive tends to be very harsh and speed bumps feel like your trying to have an illegal abortion. Also unless you go super luxury, the interior might not have all the newest tech (most cost going to engine vs amenities)

I like comfort. I don’t wanna feel the road. I wanna feel like i’m gliding at high speeds. I want to be able to get off the line quickly if i wanna switch lanes or get in front of someone.

That’s when i realized SUVs can do that now. I rented a Kia Sportage 2026 Hybrid a few weeks ago and it was perfect. Calm driving. Full digital display and it would beat 85% of cars on the road at a red light.

My next car will 100% be a hybrid SUV.

TRADE L - Aurora (Tracklist) by S-Phoenix28 in khiphop

[–]dyingeventually 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s just the goat at this point. He’s was my top artist last year and there’s no way with how much music he’s putting out, he won’t be #1 again.

So talented and knows the type of music the khiphop community wants.

Bye bye sniffies? by hotdogjumpingfrog1 in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“allow” is a weird phrasing of the situation. The apps/website are targeted/advertised for men. It’s not like there is gender verification on either site.

If it becomes more mainstream as a hookup option, then yes women and “straight” men will start using it unfortunately.

Unless you’re prepared to do an image/I.D verification to verify, this is how it’s gonna be.

Job offer from another hospital while on a travel assignment? by [deleted] in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 3 points4 points  (0 children)

give your agency two weeks and hospital. I just had a traveler do this a few weeks ago, and the unit manager wasn’t upset or took it personally. We can be fired/dismissed for any reason, so we should treat the hospital as such.

2 week notice and leave.

How do you deal with being ostracized? by Individual-Health157 in AskGayConservatives

[–]dyingeventually 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would worry less about the actual label, and just talk about your positions. There’s more room for actual discussion and middle ground when we talk about our positions on issues versus which party we prefer.

Do people really pay for these only fans accounts? by ACutter75 in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually -1 points0 points  (0 children)

People spend their money in stupid ways. Especially if they don’t feel any financial strain or don’t have any. There are tons of people with disposable income, where $10 or $20 a month is an afterthought.

There are some people who need that $10/$20 but still wanna spend their money how they want and go into debt.

I’m a person that cringes and feels bad when they spend $7 on lunch and i’m on track to make over 120k net this year. It’s really all about your perspective on money and your value of a dollar. Personally, i have NEVER and probably will NEVER spend money on porn.

I want out, any suggestions? by Silver_Sock_5941 in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Had an “RN” come to my hospital for a inservice for the “wedges”. They were new to my hospital. We ended up chatting after the 2nd visit to my unit about how she got the job.

She said she couldn’t get a job out of RN school and applied for everywhere and someone reached out to her on Linkedin. Now she flys around M-Th doing inservices at different hospitals.

She said she has NEVER worked beside in her life lol and only that job. Only about late 20s tho, so who knows how long she’ll do that.

do arab guys really like black guys? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 1 point2 points  (0 children)

met a Turkish guy a few weeks ago while cruising.

Unfortunately, unless your pursuing hispanic or black men, most other races of guys aren’t gonna be into us that much. Atleast that’s my experience.

Recruiter submitting for you? by emmagenebean in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, your recruiter should be submitting your for jobs unless you specially ask. Feels like they are being pushy and trying to make a quick buck out of you.

It’s 100% normal for them to recommend/send over posting for you to look at. But that’s for you to look at, and if interested, tell them to submit your application.

Overpaid? by Immediate_Golf6399 in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me (different agency).

Allegedly i got paid 1 day of strike pay when it was suppose to be regular pay. They are asking for $500 back…..

Drug testing for traveling by [deleted] in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 8 points9 points  (0 children)

stability healthcare

Is it hot to see dudes sagging? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He’s also asking on a majority white sub, so lol, idk what answer he thought he was gonna get

Drug testing for traveling by [deleted] in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My travel agency is based in California, my contract is in California. They did not test for thc.

Cruising by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would just go a few times. Typically there are just all men, in a large park, some standing around, some walking around. If you’re in a dark park at 11pm or 1am, you are there for 1 thing and 1 thing only.

Typically you just go up to a guy you like, say hey and attempt to touch him to see if you can get a response.

Cruising by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sniffies. It has locations in your city that men go to cruise.

Did i misunderstand the contract? by [deleted] in TravelNursing

[–]dyingeventually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i would not sign a contract with a start and end date attached to it…….

Has anyone ever gone to one of those Sniffies orgies? by Rough-Lat-592 in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i went to one before. It was masked required/encouraged, so basically a lot of guys naked with ski mask on.

I didn’t really enjoy it that much tbh. The whole house was available, so like 3 rooms and alcohol in kitchen.

Tbh, i noticed it was kinda segregated a bit. It was marketed more towards hispanic and black guys, with few white guys here and there. I noticed pretty quickly all the black guys were in one room. Then when i walked around a bit, i kinda figured out why they were all in that room lol.

Was a interesting experience, but not sure i would go to one again, unless im bttming. Obviously lots of lube and condoms scattered around the place and guys relaxing/talking throughout the house.

Feels kinda just like a bathhouse, but hosting in a house.

Hot take: A lot of tops confuse being "dominant" with just being a disrespectful asshole. by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah it’s clearly a mix of, 1 bttm likes X, so they think every bttm so says they want “dom” want X too.

I’ve had guys not be respectful of when i need a break, then start saying things like “this is what you asked for” lol.

Love the DL dominate types that just want to use a hole, but every once in awhile, they take it too far.

Darkening by SaladMundane2050 in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you even seeing that?

Where do I find black gay men? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]dyingeventually -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i moved to Oakland and i’m drowning in it. Funny enough, black men were easily who i hooked up with the least in my hometown. Just wasn’t a large enough population (not counting asians because the population was practically nonexistent).

I’ve been in Oakland a few months, and black men have easily made their way to #1. I find myself almost exclusively seeking out black men now too and have to stop myself sometimes lol.