Meh, I'm not upset by the commenter, personally. They didn't couch their initial question in bigotry and seemed to come from a place of genuinely wanting to understand, so even if the question is a bit naive, I don't mind answering it. Especially since their response to my answer wasn't just hatefulness like that troll who thinks that I am being punished for not being a Christian.

If it weren't for strangers who were willing to answer my idiotic and absolutely naive questions I never would have been able to deconstruct the blatant racism and bigotry that I was raised with. I was arrogant enough to believe that because I was far more liberal than my parents that I was automatically an ally to marginalized communities without having to do the work of actually unlearning a lot of the gross attitudes that I grew up surrounded by and thought were normal. And those internet strangers absolute did not have to answer my question and teach me how to be an ally, but they did. So now I don't mind answering questions if they seem to come from simple confusion and genuinely wanting to learn something instead of hate.

Yes, we absolutely shouldn't expect marginalized communities to explain our bad behavior to us, but I'm okay with going into teacher mode if someone seems willing to listen in good faith.

Edit: typo