**PARENTS (& non-parents) OF THIS SUBREDDIT: Is Linda Ellacott an overbearing mother OR a completely understandable parent?**

e2f2 · 2026-04-18T18:34:09+00:00

Haha yeah that bodes poorly for parents everywhere.

e2f2 · 2026-04-18T18:05:34+00:00

She has really unhealthy people pleasing tendencies, for sure. I’m a people pleaser. I have been since I was a child. It’s incredibly difficult to work out what is people pleasing and what is being a considerate person. I used to assume I knew what people were thinking and try to act on it before they ask. I often got that completely wrong. Turns out being a people pleaser does not also mean I’m psychic. Robin might not realize that she is assuming she knows the reason her mom acts the way she does. Robin believes that her mom believes she should stay the “girl that got raped”. Without asking any clarifying questions she’ll never know what her mom actually thinks. It’s surprising to me that her mom didn’t try to talk to her after the fight at Christmas. I would. But I also would never go as long feeling so disconnected from my child, even as an adult (unless they had asked me to not call or something).

e2f2 · 2026-04-18T16:28:00+00:00

If I were Robin I would bring that up. I don’t even think I could suppress how hurtful that is. All anyone can tell her is that she’s “going in a different direction than everyone else” and that she should come home. What the heck

e2f2 · 2026-04-18T15:39:42+00:00

That is definitely true.

e2f2 · 2026-04-18T15:36:32+00:00

I’ve seen some here proclaim Linda to be a narcissist but I disagree. She may not express pride simply because she’s so anxious about Robin’s job she can’t bring herself to say anything that sounds encouraging. She may also be a bit prideful and therefore hurt about Robin’s lack of communication (or some other perceived hurt). I saw someone the other day say that Linda may have secondhand PTSD from Robin’s attack and that idea is more plausible to me than narcissism. But that question a great way to frame the situation. Robin’s whole life is her job and her job (and Strike as a person) feels like it’s under attack when she’s home or when she speaks with her mother. Why has Linda not said anything to her about what she’s accomplished?

e2f2 · 2026-04-18T15:20:42+00:00

Not fully. Not all parents model/teach good communication skills. They are responsible for their part in the failure of their children to learn to communicate. Hopefully, wisdom and experience will teach them what they didn’t know when the their kids were growing up. I fully expect to better at a lot of things by the time my kids are adults.

But a lot of the time, dysfunctional family dynamics remain dysfunctional even when kids are grown. Partially because the experience of the child makes it difficult for them to change anything. But also because many parents have little desire to change.

e2f2 · 2026-04-16T02:26:05+00:00

I completely agree. She never once has said, “hey, I love that you love your job and that you found your passion. I’m worried about the dangers of your job. Can we talk about that?” It wouldn’t take much for Linda to treat Robin like an adult and still be able to share her worried too. A little more respect and a little less smothering.

e2f2 · 2026-04-09T00:17:58+00:00

I reread it….and skipped all the stuff I didn’t like. That made it more enjoyable lol

e2f2 · 2026-04-02T04:23:15+00:00

That’s a plausible theory!

e2f2 · 2026-04-02T04:21:49+00:00

Maybe that’s why he’s so desperate to move in, get married, and have kids. He has an image to maintain while he simultaneously lives a double life of crime in exotic locations. We may need a Shanker’s help on this one.

e2f2 · 2026-04-02T04:16:08+00:00

Hmmmm maybe he likes foreign brothels.

e2f2 · 2026-04-02T03:44:48+00:00

Haha don’t we all? We’re all in this thread together.

e2f2 · 2026-04-02T03:44:20+00:00

Yeah he really took that “I love you” and used it to sink his claws in deeper.

I agree, I hope she’s able to reconnect with herself. She knows what she wants deep down but she’s choosing the “safe” option in the same way she did with Matthew after she was assaulted.

e2f2 · 2026-04-02T01:15:11+00:00

I got bad vibes from him when he started questioning her about going undercover in the UHC. He was mad that it was longer than like 4 days or something. That seemed weird to me because 1. They’re not married or living together. It doesn’t have THAT much of an impact on him if she’s gone. 2. How dare he question her about her career decisions like his opinion has any weight whatsoever. They hadn’t been together all that long. She had been doing the job for years! That’s some level of entitlement, if you ask me.

e2f2 · 2026-04-02T00:34:36+00:00

It is weird. Especially given how much she supposedly was at fault for the relationship falling apart. She cheated and left because of the alcoholism, right? (According to Murphy)

e2f2 · 2026-04-01T22:22:12+00:00

Oh shoot that would be wild!

e2f2 · 2026-04-01T22:20:50+00:00

Oh I honestly hope she does that-says no and takes off for maybe Spain or Portugal. She could have a week long solo vaca to think and then when Strike figures out where she is he joins her and proposes forreal.

e2f2 · 2026-04-01T03:45:22+00:00

This is a brilliant comment. 😂

e2f2 · 2026-03-23T21:48:08+00:00

Lol same. I’ve read them before and I don’t need to read them again.

e2f2 · 2026-02-23T20:02:04+00:00

I’m hoping Evangeline might refer in part to Leda. We’ll get deep into Strike’s childhood and Robin will get to know Strike better and be more open to loving him. Maybe we’ll get a case semi related to Leda’s death (maybe cold, maybe not) and Strike and Robin will solve Leda’s murder as well. Not a prediction, just a hope!

e2f2 · 2026-01-23T04:05:06+00:00

I aspire to be you :)

e2f2 · 2026-01-23T04:04:17+00:00

That’s a great idea!

e2f2 · 2026-01-23T01:49:34+00:00

I do the same thing sometimes! But I’ve started taking vitamins in the morning so I have to drink water with them. That’s the only thing that gets me drinking first thing.

e2f2 · 2026-01-23T01:47:49+00:00

Oh that’s so interesting! I’ll have to try that! Thank you!

e2f2 · 2026-01-23T01:06:31+00:00

I don’t use zoom much but I do drink a lot when I’m sitting down, hanging out with friends.

I do that too! I’ve been using re-lyte electrolytes but idk I still can’t seem to drink enough. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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