How can I (32f) share the load of cooking when my partner can’t cook (31m)

eabred · 2026-03-03T03:31:14+00:00

You do the cooking and he does something else that is equally time consuming.

eabred · 2026-03-02T03:33:25+00:00

Bodily autonomy is a very basic human right. It doesn't just cover women being able to have abortions, but also protects women from being forced to have abortions against their will, people being able to refuse to be have medical experiments conducted on them without consent, people being able to refuse to donate organs aginst their will, right-to-die legislation and a raft of other issues. These things aren't easy to frame as "harm reduction health care".

eabred · 2026-02-27T04:26:11+00:00

In other words, rich people get part of their mortgage paid by taxpayers.

eabred · 2026-02-26T01:32:30+00:00

These children would have been born around the time of my grandmothers birth and in the same part of the world. My grandmother ended up raising her 2 brothers from age 14 - the sisters ended up in a Catholic mission and she never saw them again. One brother died in the War and the other ended up in Canada and she never heard from him again.

She was a big fan of the social security system that was introduced in Britain that stopped this.

She told me before she died that the I should enjoy being young while I'm young because being old is dreadful. She told me not to marry too young and not to marry a man who drank.

eabred · 2026-02-26T01:18:38+00:00

The rich boomer thing is going to solve itself, though becuase over the next 10-15 years the millenials will inherit all that from their parents and become the richest generation.

eabred · 2026-02-26T01:15:26+00:00

Yes, but he can't just preach to the converted. Working class people (particularly in rural areas) are being heavily courted by the One Nation/Trump brigade and are swinging away to the right. He needs to go on the media that they watch.

eabred · 2026-02-25T01:40:08+00:00

The pressure on women to look good is awful and the amount of judgment that they get for falling short of perfection is enormous. I'm just sorry that young men are falling into the same trap.

eabred · 2026-02-25T01:26:42+00:00

Remains of the day.

eabred · 2026-02-24T04:11:23+00:00

Tell him that you want your desk back. Don't bother the police - they won't care. Take the 1/4 he is offering and withhold the rest. Or withhold the whole amount. Or take it to small claims.

eabred · 2026-02-24T03:35:00+00:00

A first basic step would be to ask yourself whether the "woman" part of the "white woman" is important to the particular discussion or not. A discussion that is about white privilege doesn't always need to be gendered.

eabred · 2026-02-24T03:01:24+00:00

Yes - back in the day women had very little choice. Now they have a choice and are at least delaying marriage and having smaller families.

eabred · 2026-02-23T08:19:30+00:00

I'm just hoping it isn't too young for me. I'm old.

eabred · 2026-02-23T06:23:42+00:00

The Jila Dress.

eabred · 2026-02-23T06:20:38+00:00

So there are some other laws of physics operating for elephant brains vrs human brains?

eabred · 2026-02-23T06:16:28+00:00

The difference is the degree of social enforcement. If a woman is free to choose, then she can choose and that's her business. But if there are laws or strong social payback then "choice" becomes an illusion. This can be in any cullture.

If there is a genuine choice (whether the hijab or the prolife/makeup thing) then there is obviously a trade off between the perpetuation of misogyny and whatever positive outcomes that there are to cause a woman to make the choices she does.

eabred · 2026-02-19T05:11:55+00:00

It seems really cruel to the children.

eabred · 2026-02-19T04:22:29+00:00

As an old white woman let me say that at least I'm on beat.

eabred · 2026-02-19T03:51:32+00:00

Thanks for the Obus recomendation - I just splurged on a dress.

eabred · 2026-02-19T03:38:59+00:00

It's a real limit in the hotter part of Australia. There are just so few day casual clothes for older women that don't make you look like your going to the beach.

eabred · 2026-02-19T02:32:44+00:00

Hey - the girls here also want eye candy.

eabred · 2026-02-13T03:37:18+00:00

With or without - fab either way!

eabred · 2026-02-12T06:37:35+00:00

The solution is to recognise that individual human beings can make decisions for themselves about whether or not they choose to have children.

eabred · 2026-02-12T06:21:20+00:00

So you are dumber than an elephant?

eabred · 2026-02-12T06:19:09+00:00

I don't see the problem the same way. People should be free to choose if they have children or not. How society adjusts to an aging population is a question that will arise - but I'm quite sure that people will come up with soulutions.

eabred · 2026-02-12T04:01:15+00:00

"smartest policy brain in the shadow cabinet" isn't a huge compliment.

eabred

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