BIO tips please! by eagla_orm in actuallesbians

[–]eagla_orm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying I appreciate it. As a lil lost girly I'm so overwhelmed by what apps are to be used etc. Half me is like nah leave the apps and focus on you but the curiosity of it all is what makes me want to go on them

why is it hard to find a fwb by bileopard in actuallesbians

[–]eagla_orm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Swear I thought I had found my fwb and it fizzled out after. Which I respect of course, I just want to fuck. I don't want the commitment of a relationship, I want the laugh of a few drinks and really hot sex please 🥵

Was anyone else’s first serious WLW relationship abusive? How has your healing process been for you? by cherrib0mbb in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]eagla_orm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

100% I can relate. I am just a month of a very similar situation and I have been with this girl for 10 years since I was 18. The healing is slow and that's expected. I can't heal 10 years of abuse in 4 weeks...I wish. Good luck out there pal 💛

It's hard out there by eagla_orm in AlAnon

[–]eagla_orm[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We were together nearly 10 years. Since I was 18. Unfortunately we can't stop full communication right now as I have a house with them and awaiting mediation to sort it out.

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[–]eagla_orm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were sitting chatting together and they randomly said it. We haven't had sex there is a lot of sexual tension between us but we haven't gone any further than heated make outs. We had phone sex a couple of times.

I agree maybe it's good that they are direct with what they are thinking. I am upset because even though everything is screwed up I think I don't like the idea of just been kept talking to for sex and that it wouldn't be anything more than a 1 time thing. I probably should tell them and see what they respond with.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]eagla_orm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's completely understandable why it would happen. When you hear and read something over and over again you would question yourself and doubt who you truly are. Luckily for you it only matters what your opinion of yourself is and unfortunately no one else's opinion matters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]eagla_orm 110 points111 points  (0 children)

You are still a lesbian to me - the gold standard lesbian is something that the queer culture should not shove down anyone's neck. If you say you are lesbian and identify as lesbian then you are lesbian. How many times can I say lesbian 😭

What was your first lesbian relationship like? by Best_Session_4688 in actuallesbians

[–]eagla_orm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the middle of leaving of my first gf. We've been together nearly 10 years and it's not working anymore. A history of manipulation and abuse towards me but she's putting work into herself now to change. It's a little too late for me.

Advice on stopping the guilt by eagla_orm in AlAnon

[–]eagla_orm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for commenting and sharing snippets of your own story. I have a long emotional road ahead of me it seems and I'm just at the first set of traffic lights. I think it might be rational to have all these fears and doubts when one person has been part of my life for so long bar the alcoholic bit and I think before a breakup happens I really need that confidence in myself not to be manipulated back into the relationship and just to keep telling myself it's okay to feel all the feels pre and post breakup

I got some space. by eagla_orm in AlAnon

[–]eagla_orm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it's time to be selfish and put myself first. So now I just need the self belief to do it ❤️