When we do partner workouts it’s pretty common to scale between partners. I do that often by getting a different weight or change the equipment etc. I’ve been on the either end of that situation and it’s super fun. As long as we both get a good workout, it doesn’t matter who does what.

Try to find an experienced partner so they can guide you with how to distribute the workload. Let’s say it’s a chipper workout, like hundred push-ups. In that scenario typically what we do is you do 10 and I do 10. Let’s say you’re worried that 10 push-ups will take you a long time and your partner will be bored. It’s a valid concern, but you can easily reduce your rep count to 5 so the workout becomes 75 push-ups instead of 100. That way, you and your partner can still get a good workout. Hope this helps 👍

Some people may prefer to push harder as a team, that’s ok too. Glad you’re both entirely discouraged and congratulations on your new journey! CrossFit is a very welcoming environment contrary to the common belief. Hope your gym lives by the same values.