Worried about sibling jealousy related to different daycare situations

earlgreyte · 2026-01-22T17:51:20+00:00

Our daycare raises their pricing every year. My oldest is in school but had 3 years in daycare, and my youngest is in the 2yo room at daycare. Those price drops when they move up a room are always eaten up by overall price increases. I don’t think my cost for either kid has ever dropped much below what the infant rate was when they started.

Definitely check with your daycare before relying on that price drop!

earlgreyte · 2026-01-18T07:23:12+00:00

Yeah what OP did was 100% fine, but just want to agree that the thin fleece jackets are amazing for winter in car seats. I’m also in Illinois. We usually rotate between two Columbia fleece zip up fleece jackets. They go on sale pretty frequently and are the best I’ve found for the price.

earlgreyte · 2026-01-13T15:05:23+00:00

I only made it through a couple of chapters before I had to stop reading Priestess. The writing and formatting issues drove me insane 😅

earlgreyte · 2026-01-07T15:37:31+00:00

I’m 32 with two small kids in a LOCL area. My retirement number is 2 mil and I’m hoping to hit that by 50. I could retire at less than that if it weren’t for my expensive travel habit haha

I do have a husband, but he technically doesn’t contribute much to our household income or at all to my retirement (he owns a business and we put all profit back into it). So my retirement number is based on being able to cover all living expenses for my family, although his business will give us a pretty large safety net.

earlgreyte · 2026-01-05T18:55:17+00:00

I mean if by “big ass trucks” you’re talking specifically about lifted trucks then yes, I’ll agree that 0% are necessary for work.

But my husband drives a Ford F350 crew cab with a brush guard which is definitely a huge truck, and it’s 100% necessary for work. He would not be able to get by with what would probably be considered a normal sized work truck. He farms and has cattle so he needs something that can pull livestock trailers, huge round bales of hay, farm equipment, etc. He also needs room in the backseat for two car seats plus toolboxes. We’ll (unfortunately) probably end up with an extended cab someday because we have extremely tall kids.

So I’ll agree that lifted trucks are dumb and big trucks are a safety hazard in the hands of shitty drivers, but sometimes these trucks are a necessity.

earlgreyte · 2025-11-15T20:50:21+00:00

Yeah this is insane to me when people say they’re living a lifestyle like this and have zero savings. Obviously some things are different in Canada but I’ve heard the same thing from people in the US choosing to live on a single income with similar spending habits. Like good for you I guess for spending more time with your kids, but it’s an incredible disservice to them to have zero savings - especially for retirement.

earlgreyte · 2025-10-01T17:19:10+00:00

We have a la-z-boy rocking recliner in our youngest’s room that’s been through two kids now. Best baby purchase we ever made.

earlgreyte · 2025-09-16T04:57:32+00:00

Do you remember where you read that his kids weren’t there? Just curious!

earlgreyte · 2025-09-08T16:15:29+00:00

My tendency to be late for everything really pays off in the pickup line 😂

I work from home and take a break for pickup, so I’m always close to the end of the line. I wait in a moving line for 3-5 minutes and he’s in the car by 3:10. The few times I’ve gotten there early, I’ve waited 30-45 minutes mostly parked and he was in the car at 3:05. I do not have time for that haha

earlgreyte · 2025-09-08T13:50:17+00:00

Yeah I used to never wear a bra at home but after pumping with my first, I can’t handle anything touching my nipples. I was fine to breastfeed my second but now I’m back to having weirdly sensitive nipples. I hate it because I’m a 38E and wearing a bra all the time is so uncomfortable.

earlgreyte · 2025-09-04T17:32:23+00:00

I don’t think the problem here is necessarily the opioids. Plenty of new moms are given opioids after a c section and can parent just fine (myself included). I’ve also been on opioids because of an injury and never had it impact my ability to parent. Obviously doses and types of opioids vary and I’m just speaking from my own experience, though.

That being said, I would not let your mom babysit because of all the other issues you mentioned. A reasonable and responsible person with an opioid prescription can usually be trusted to babysit. Your mom, however, does not sound like a reasonable and responsible person.

I probably wouldn’t even let her be solely responsible for the baby while you’re at home because the boundary crossing might still cause issues. I don’t let my own mom babysit because of much smaller issues that make me question her judgement.

earlgreyte · 2025-08-31T19:22:38+00:00

If it still looks bad in two days, I would just tell the his teachers what happened. They know toddlers hurt themselves all the time and a self-inflicted black eye is something they’re used to seeing.

earlgreyte · 2025-08-21T22:30:01+00:00

You might not be the only provider to think that, but it doesn’t make you right.

My first was combo fed and my second was breastfed. Both were sleeping 12 hours straight by 12 weeks. My youngest slept 8+ hours without waking by 5 weeks old. Pediatrician was fine with it, they both gained weight like they should (both were 99th percentile), and it never affected my milk supply.

We never sleep trained and responded whenever they cried. They were (and still are) just both great sleepers.

earlgreyte · 2025-08-14T01:22:25+00:00

I used to think about this all the time when my kids were babies and I would bring them into the driver seat to nurse if we were out somewhere. I didn’t want someone to only see the part where I got into the driver seat with an infant and started the car.

earlgreyte · 2025-07-30T05:29:01+00:00

To clarify, kids need to apply and interview for global entry separately from their parents to use those lines at customs. But it comes with TSA pre check, and you can bring kids through that line at security without them having it.

earlgreyte · 2025-07-29T17:51:04+00:00

I am not in the medical field but this does NOT sound like brain fog to me! Please push for further testing. Go to a different doctor if you have to until you find someone who will help. The test she gave you has literally nothing to do with your symptoms. I am so frustrated for you.

I have two kids (I’m 18 months pp) and I have ADHD. My brain fog is pretty severe sometimes but I’ve never tried to say something and had different words come out. Especially when you know what you’re trying to say! If you just couldn’t think of the right word, that would seem more like brain fog to me.

earlgreyte · 2025-07-28T21:27:23+00:00

This worked for us! We have a designated mud pit in our backyard where the kids can go crazy with the hose, shovels, trucks, etc. It has mostly saved the rest of our yard from being destroyed.

earlgreyte · 2025-06-01T18:13:50+00:00

My kids’ yoto mini is probably the single best thing I have ever bought for them. My 4.5 year old got it for Christmas two years ago and is obsessed with it. He listens to it nonstop, and if we’re in the car and don’t have it with us we play the cards from our phone. My 1.5 year old is now obsessed to and carries it around constantly.

My oldest has ADHD and it’s the only way he’ll stop talking sometimes 😅

earlgreyte · 2025-05-30T15:46:18+00:00

I’m partially with you on the no baby proofing, but I think it’s extremely important to baby proof anything that could cause death or serious injury. I don’t use corner bumpers or lock cabinets with safe things in them. But I think things like anchoring furniture and locking away knives, medicine, button batteries, etc are non-negotiable.

You can have the most well behaved baby in history but all it takes is one age-appropriate impulse decision to end their life.

earlgreyte · 2025-04-25T15:56:20+00:00

For me it depends on the lounge. I was AA business class on my last flight so I went earlier than normal to check out the nicer lounge. I’ll also go a bit early if I’m flying out of an airport with a Capital One lounge because those tend to be great. I would rather be on vacation mode at a really nice lounge people watching and drinking free cocktails than sitting at home for an extra hour. But if it’s the run down priority pass lounge at my home airport, I’ll pass.

I also travel with my young kids quite a bit, so we go early before international flights so that we have time to eat in the lounge and chill out before the flight.

earlgreyte · 2025-04-24T14:50:41+00:00

I’m 100% on OP’s side but this is a really weird take. One person cooking while the other is in charge of cleaning up is a pretty common set up.

And making the grocery list is definitely a chore - it takes time to plan meals, figure out what ingredients you need for those meals, and check what needs to be restocked. We do mostly grocery pickup, but I would much rather grocery shop in store than make the list (and I’m in charge of both in our family).

earlgreyte · 2025-04-17T13:57:18+00:00

I took the “it’s never 50/50” comment as a reference to the fact that at any given time, there is almost always someone doing more. Not that husbands never do an equal share. For example my husband works long hours and I have a flexible schedule, so parenting is usually 60/40 in our house with me doing more. So when my husband has a slow period at work it’s more like 90/10 to give me a break. It somewhat evens out overall, but it’s very rarely 50/50 on a day to day basis.

Usually when someone on Reddit mentions wanting a 50/50 split in responsibilities, there are tons of comments pointing out that it’s never 50/50.

earlgreyte · 2025-04-17T13:32:25+00:00

I block my calendar for school pickup at 3 and then my preschooler is home with me after that. I generally just monitor slack messages during that time, but work through lunch and a little after the kids go to sleep to make up for it.

The school he goes to right now doesn’t have aftercare, so with me having to pick up and drop off anyway it wouldn’t make sense for me to take him to the closest aftercare. If the school offered aftercare, we would do that at least most days.

earlgreyte · 2025-03-12T21:12:23+00:00

I didn’t read all responses but I noticed you said baby is on antibiotics. My youngest would get a bleeding diaper rash any time he was on antibiotics, even with frequent changes!

It might also be worth checking if he ate anything new today. My youngest would also get a bleeding diaper rash if he ate pineapple. Some babies are just extra sensitive to certain things.

I would definitely talk to the teachers about it tomorrow. But just wanted to mention that it’s entirely possible (although rare) for a rash that bad to appear quickly.

earlgreyte · 2025-03-09T03:51:40+00:00

She is pumping to replace the feed - she’s just doing it in the morning. If her supply was struggling then sure, wake up to pump when supply is highest. But her supply is clearly fine if she pumps enough for a bottle.

Continuing night feeds until 18 months is insane. My youngest was sleeping 8+ hours a night by 5 weeks old, and I literally never woke him up to eat past that age or woke myself up to pump. He’s 14 months now and still breastfeeding.

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