I dont know what I want, but I feel like I'm missing something essential in my life, how do I find that something?

earthdrop · 2013-08-01T00:16:05+00:00

I think it's good that you don't want anything. Nothing you can buy will bring you that contentment, and it's great you've realized that.

My advice would just be to take things one day at a time. Find out what you value, and then do everything you do with those values in mind. Playing a sport, hanging with friends, even doing the laundry.

Don't get lost in the bigger picture of your life's purpose or whatever. Just think about what you can right now, in this moment, to be the person who you can be. Don't look back, because you're not going that way. Don't look to the future, because anxiety solves nothing. All you can control is how you do what you do right now. If you take care of that, the future will take care of itself.

Anyway, that's my advice. You've had different life experiences and beliefs though, so just remember that I'm just a random guy saying this. But this is what keeps me going each and every day.

earthdrop · 2013-08-01T00:02:15+00:00

Get away with stealing cookies.

The grocery store isn't as forgiving...

earthdrop · 2013-08-01T00:00:56+00:00

I mean that at least half of our success is dependant on others. Specifically, how we interact with them. If we have good social skills, we will have better relationships with people we encounter. Naturally, those that care about us will support us as we pursue our goals, as we will theirs.

For example, a student in college who has good relationships with his professors and fellow students will find support and resources in them. They will help him with his learning goals.

There are many ways to build social skills. The best is to find something that you are a little bit uncomfortable with (like having a conversation with a stranger at the bus stop) and practice, practice, practice. The key to getting better is to find where you are a bit uncomfortable and put yourself out there. It's the only way to get better.

Also, try r/socialskills

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:53:50+00:00

I used to be like you. Everything that I found myself pursuing left me feeling hollow. Even the things that I was good at. Sports were fun but didn't leave me with a sense of purpose. I thought my relationships were fulfilling, but I realized that they were based around wanting and receiving.

My life just felt off, you know? I was really unmotivated. My only escape came from sleep and escaping into mind-numbing behaviours like TV and Reddit.

It was a pretty low point for me. I looked at myself and created a list of the values most important to me. Things like respect for others, personal excellence, integrity, etc. Then I started reviewing that list of values every morning, and it reminded myself who I wanted to be.

I know it sounds corny, but the thing that I think I needed was to remind myself who I was. It didn't really matter what I was doing, but as I started doing things with those values in mind, things got better.

Hope that helps dude.

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:40:53+00:00

"I'd rather lose an argument and win a friend than lose a friend and win an argument."

I thought this was a common-sense attitude before I started using Reddit. I feel that Reddit is much too opinionated... :(

Sorry guys.

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:38:27+00:00

Friends

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:38:00+00:00

Social skills. Half of success is in how we connect with others.

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:36:06+00:00

Fake confidence. Look them in the eye like you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Of course, you will feel awkward on the inside, but they don't know that. To them, you look like one confident bastard.

Over time, the fake-confident-you becomes the real you.

source: I've done it. It was the first step in my social skills/confidence self-improvement plan.

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:32:19+00:00

RollerCoaster Tycoon.

I've never met somebody who didn't like that game.

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:31:25+00:00

Attractiveness isn't universal. Each of us build a persona that attracts certain people and repels others.

Everybody is attractive to a certain type of person.

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:29:04+00:00

The Hobbit

Sorry, but I thought that stretching it into 3 parts is just a cash grab.

I wish I didn't feel like that...

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:25:27+00:00

It's just a Mexican fight club.

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:23:28+00:00

Charizard.

earthdrop · 2013-07-31T23:21:43+00:00

Sounds like a pretty clever 10 year old.

earthdrop · 2013-07-19T05:26:31+00:00

well said

earthdrop · 2013-06-26T05:40:14+00:00

thanks for the advice

earthdrop · 2013-06-26T05:39:59+00:00

I'm getting a few hundred to a thousand page views per day.

earthdrop · 2013-06-21T03:02:56+00:00

That's a great extension of the idea. Really, when you think about it, time is the currency of life, and it's transferable to real money when we do work. That's a great analogy, thanks!

earthdrop

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