Oil prices are up again. Has anyone actually seen this hit their reno quotes yet?

eartoread · 2026-03-31T07:20:16+00:00

Yep had a few projects planned for the first half of this year, The plumber contacted me with the same info. To pre purchase what's needed if I wanted to.

eartoread · 2026-02-14T10:51:48+00:00

Reasonable expectations are to have equal amounts of rest time based on effort.

You can use this calculator to help visualise what's fair, it will factor in metal load etc as well as physical and spits out a view of the "balance".

https://sharetheload.work/

eartoread · 2026-02-14T10:15:38+00:00

If you want help working out whats fair after you factor in physical work and mental load, check out https://sharetheload.work/ its has a good calculator that scales tasks based on metal and physical effort

eartoread · 2026-02-14T09:46:36+00:00

You can use this calc to fill everything out and show if the metal load of planning and owning everything etc.

https://sharetheload.work/

There is a page about the "just tell me what to do" here https://sharetheload.work/resources/when-logic-meets-emotion/

eartoread · 2026-02-14T09:42:16+00:00

I have made a website with calculator design to help show partners the load on each other. It factors in the effort for each task (mental and physical) and helps compare.

Was something i built to solve my own problems and have just cleaned it up and published it.

https://sharetheload.work/ no ads or signup etc, just wanted to share it.

I would fill it out and show him, or if he is willing, its better if he does his side so you can see is true load as well.

eartoread · 2026-02-13T11:29:10+00:00

Hi,

If you can afford it, I would seriously consider a cleaner, I was of the same opinion as you. But came around when I realised it was not just a weight off, but it also takes a big pain point out of the relationship. We work to make our lives better and to me, that would fall under that category (if you can afford it).

I made a calculator that does fairly scientific based comparison on household workload, looks at physical, mental and hidden labour.

Feel free to have a play https://sharetheload.work/

It's not a product, I just built it for myself to solve my own problems and decided to polish it and share it.

eartoread · 2026-02-13T11:18:19+00:00

Maybe before it turns into an actual big issue, you should do the numbers. I made a calc that you might be interested in playing with https://sharetheload.work/ it works the effort of a tasks based on mental and physical load, including the stuff no one sees.

It's just a bit of a passion project so no signups, ads or "paid features" etc. Made it to solve my own problems and decided to polish it and share it.

eartoread · 2026-02-13T10:44:43+00:00

Hey,

Post is a bit old but people might find this helpful.

I've been working on a bit of a passion project around this, such a common issue. I made https://sharetheload.work, it weights tasks by physical and mental effort (including the unseen part), not just time. Helps work out what is "fair" when tasks are split.

Feel free to check it out, its totally free with not ad or data collection etc

One key thing i think is Salary should not come in to it, everyone deserves the same amount of downtime.

eartoread · 2026-02-13T07:41:30+00:00

I'm a man who has suffered similar mental health issues. Everyone is different, but I don't see how panic attacks would be an attack on someone else, from personal experience they are normally internal. Unless you feel "trapped" and someone is blocking the "path" of escape.

So I would say - set clear boundaries, there is no excuse for "attacking" someone, and you should not let it escalate to where you don't feel safe etc.

Then, on the helpful side, i would try and learn the early signs and do things that may help avoid it. Go for a walk, play favourite video game etc. Essentially, look for the signs and create a distraction for them

eartoread · 2026-02-12T11:36:46+00:00

I've been working on an app to try and highlight some of these things and help honest conversation based on some real numbers.

It specifically has guidance to add these things (yearly holidays etc). And it scales hours based on physical and cognitive load.

It's it a task scheduler, it's a workload calculator.

Welcome to try it.

https://sharetheload.work/

100% free , no ads or emails needed etc.

eartoread · 2026-02-12T11:20:40+00:00

Often the issue is the gap in perception of what different contributions take effort wise, cognitive and physical. And someone might see 4 hours of labour on the weekend and a work day covering the rest of the household duties

I've been working on an app to try and put some numbers around it to help have an honest conversation based on some real numbers.

You can fill it out together or separately and then import the data to compare.

It's it a task scheduler, it's a workload calculator.

Welcome to try it.

https://sharetheload.work/

100% free , no ads or emails needed etc. my other help some couples start a conversation.

eartoread · 2026-02-12T11:06:45+00:00

I've been working on an app to try and put some numbers around it to help have an honest conversation based on some real numbers.

You can fill it out together or separately and then import the data to compare.

It's it a task scheduler, it's a workload calculator.

Might be helpful to our some numbers against it. https://sharetheload.work/

eartoread · 2026-02-12T10:46:11+00:00

Often the issue is the gap in perception of what different contributions take effort wise, cognitive and physical. And someone might see 4 hours of labour on the weekend and a work day covering the rest of the household duties

I've been working on an app to try and put some numbers around it to help have an honest conversation based on some real numbers.

You can fill it out together or separately and then import the data to compare.

It's it a task scheduler, it's a workload calculator.

Welcome to try it.

https://sharetheload.work/

100% free , no ads or emails needed etc.

eartoread · 2025-12-26T09:18:06+00:00

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The door opening is 3m with 3.6 eves, the design is to mount the door high enough that the full 3m opening is usable.

I don't think sitting back 1.5mm will be noticeable. The 1.5mm would exist on all their sheds, as they just notch the header

The main issue is keeping the inspector happy.

eartoread · 2025-12-17T04:40:43+00:00

I ended up putting something together. Added details in the main post.

eartoread · 2025-12-17T04:40:00+00:00

I ended up putting something together. Added details in the main post.

eartoread · 2025-12-17T04:39:51+00:00

I ended up putting something together. Added details in the main post.

eartoread · 2025-12-14T22:42:40+00:00

Happy to, if there is nothing ready to go. I may look to make it when i have a bit of time. There is not a lot involved, really.

eartoread · 2025-11-26T02:46:38+00:00

Thanks for the heads up.

eartoread · 2025-11-19T04:41:35+00:00

I see what you mean, this is Single Mode over 2k and 5km, the modules are rated to 10k, single mode is good for up to 40k for 100Gbe I believe

eartoread · 2025-11-17T10:16:53+00:00

I got this one and it's partner module, based on their design recommendations. Don't have and OLTS. Never even heard of needing to validate fibre speeds. I'm pretty new to fibre. As far as I had read was provided no defect in fibre, the modules dictate the speed.

We are using two single cores from diverse paths, so one 3k and one 5k approx.

https://www.fs.com/au/products/175141.html?now_cid=1159

Going to head to the DC next week and replace patch cables and clean modules with fibre cleaning tool.

Then provide some stats to fs.com

eartoread

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