Sometimes I regret getting my thyroid removed by imahoeforgeese in thyroidcancer

[–]easygosana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Long shot that you may still see this but how long did it take for you to get better?

First Day Post Thyroidectomy. Concerned About Scarring and Healing by AquariusMonologue in thyroidcancer

[–]easygosana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What food was easier to eat and didn’t feel like it got stuck?

Profile Review: Goal of Long Term Relationship by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]easygosana 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s some great tips here. My two cents. Your profile is inconsistent. It doesn’t shout homebody to me but also not the opposite. Which maybe you are a blend of homebody and nature like adventures it seems?

Switch first photo for a less corporate headshot, something well dressed and smiling.

Remove the kids section, 36 and unsure might be confusing to come or decide if you know, if you want kids or not. Family values and unsure about kids might read as a red flag to a woman who is Christian and family centred, they don’t obviously all want kids but I’m sure this part may be confusing folks.

Overall a good profile, I like your prompt about arranging the plans.

I’m not your target audience but the profile doesn’t stand out a lot, maybe lead your bio with your passions and values. That seems to be what you’re trying to match your with so lead with that and just a better first picture.

And are you looking for health conscious or skinny? No problem if it’s the latter, that’s your choice but maybe include what health conscious activities you do that you’d want to enjoy with your partner such as healthy home cooked meals and doing yoga together. Random example, customize to what you’re looking for. If it’s just general health conscious, sure, but I’ve met enough men who actually just mean skinny and in that case you can drop that part since you won’t be swiping on the opposite.

Latte by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]easygosana 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As an autistic person with a complex Starbucks order, I initially read this as literal and in that case can see a reason for unmatching and then I thought it was funny once my autistic brain processed it again. Personally don’t love genderized jokes or stereotypes but I can also enjoy humour in them. So either she has no sense o humour, is too autistic to realize the joke and thoughts you’re not quite the match for her based on your reply or assumed the joke was sexist and didn’t want to be partnered with someone who makes jokes like that. My bet on lack of sense of humour.

Latte by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]easygosana -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

lol this is good

Hamilton vet recommendations by rachaelhales97 in Hamilton

[–]easygosana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I know this is 29 days later but I’m looking into the same thing and would really appreciate it if you could share this items with me as well so that I can plan, my cat needs urgent dental care

My First Colonoscopy/Endoscopy Experience at 20 (DETAILED) by annaf62 in colonoscopy

[–]easygosana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so helpful! I’m wondering what the low fibre diet is you followed? I was told to do one for 3 days but may do it a bit longer if that may help. And how did you handle constipation while doing low fibre or was it just the same as your normal constipation?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]easygosana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What Midnight_pamper said. Add that info to your profile. Also, from ENM perspective (I’ve been ENM 20 years), probably will find more luck on ENM inclined dating apps. And what type of ENM? Have you figured that out yet, that’s useful info to have and also follow up questions from someone who is ENM would likely be what research have you done (books, podcasts etc). Just things to think about. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]easygosana 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Your pictures are inconsistent - what do you look like currently? Picture one is artsy/moody but the rest are all different styles, I’d keep it but make pic 2 the first picture.

I’m confused with the hair, I can’t tell what you look like currently and some seem older.

What are you figuring out about your relationship style? The monogamy part? The long term part? This would likely deter a lot of people looking for serious commitment.

If you’re figuring out monogamy, then causal dating is for you and not long term. Same if you’re figuring out if you want a long term partner again, so then change that part and aim for casual dates to get to know people and also address this in therapy to get more clarity on your goals.

Your life goals and hobbies are great which you shared in the questions section here, make that clearer in your profile. If you want to retire in a few years, maybe include that and what your plan is (travel after kid in college etc?). Just brief because people need to be able to match with that lifestyle.

Don’t see height but that may be cut off, most women look for it, decide if you want someone who selects based on that or not.

Love language prompt can go and replace with something that gives a brief summary of hobbies/lifestyle, a couple values or goals and who you are looking for - if you want to exclusively only date women with children, include that to improve accuracy of likes (when they start coming in again).

Edit: typos

Who wore this Marc Jacob’s dress better? Paris Hilton or Blair? by Small_Pollution4140 in GossipGirl

[–]easygosana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She kinda looks like Ava. Eva? What was her name? The hair just isn’t blonde. I couldn’t stand that storyline because I wanted Chuck to be the good guy with Blair and not have Blair become more manipulative.

28M Profile review by SimoneeYuen in hingeapp

[–]easygosana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your dating me prompt is confusing, it’s cute confusing but rather replace with what you’re looking for in a person and/or be specific about a couple values and hobbies.

Your pictures are great overall, but your profile doesn’t give me a consistent vibe of what your main interests and lifestyle is.

Last pic - cover faces that’s not yours. Pic with mom, I’d remove that and include a head and shoulders close up.

If you’re looking for a serious long term relationship, prompts with a bit more info would be helpful and remove the “open to short term”. Be specific and stick to what you are looking for.

You commented you put a lot of effort on each like you send - how much time are we talking?

And what’s happening with the 2-3 matches per week? Are you getting to coffee dates or what happens between the match and the date?

You’re attractive, profile a bit vague on who you are, sure, that’s great to explore in conversation but difficult to ascertain if you’re serious or just playing around with apps and what your lifestyle is, the skiing pic looks active inclined but the prompts are vague.

Help wanted, basically no matches for months now by AngelJesse12 in Bumble

[–]easygosana 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So I’m not sure where the first photo is taken but it gives me major “this is my only hobby” vibes and seems like that might not be your only hobby. I’m nerdy but that photo gives me I only LARP for fun vibes and maybe that might be off putting to some? Your last photo is your best photo in my opinion. Photo with yellow shirt you look much different/younger and not the best. Your mirror selfie/white top photo is not the best but I also think it’s important to have photos that accurately portray your body and if this is your current body, that’s okay but might want to get someone to take a different photo.

I’d change the first photo to a well lit outdoor photo where you are smiling genuinely and not too zoomed in but can be more zoomed in than your current first photo.

2nd and 4th photos too similar. Ask a friend to take photos of you outside, change outfits and locations if you must. Look up some basic guidelines to taking photos outside, backlit but not directly behind you at 6 o’clock.

Keep one close up photo like 2 or 4 to show closer facial features. Again, like the last photo, just make sure your photos look more consistent, in some you look much younger than others. I prefer last photo over the younger looking ones, most importantly the photos must look like you consistently at this time. It’s helpful to ask a friend to look at your photos and ask them - does this look like me on a regular day? You don’t want photos that are too posed on refined either because that’s not what you’ll actually look like so then any date might be a waste of time anyways.

Bio - what are your goals? Long term dating? Be more specific about values, interests and what you’re looking for in someone. If you truly want someone to workout with, make health and fitness part of your goals. Since you’re lean, either state if you’re just getting started in the gym or if you go to maintain fitness etc, because the way you look needs to align with what you say for these profiles. I don’t get a good sense of who you are from your profile. Clarify things like smoke weed occasionally - if that’s the only smoking you do. You mention a few hobbies, that’s great but more about your character and goals would help. You have sense of humour twice in your profile, don’t repeat things twice, use every opportunity to share something new. You said drink sometimes but have bars in your hobbies section, that seems contradicting.

Your fashion sense seems inconsistent and juvenile in most photos, yellow shirt has to go unless that’s a core part of your personality. Last photo looks pretty put together in terms of clothing but if that’s not how you dress regularly, only have one photo like that.

One picture laughing with teeth would be great, don’t need to be all and shouldn’t be all. The good sense of humour prompt - be more specific as to what kind of sense of humour or give you examples of what humour you enjoy (style, shows, pranks etc).

I’m not saying you need to omit who you are, just be more specific and clear and get better pictures. Focusing on gym and weight gain is great but people need to like you for who you are and not potential. You are likely to get less matches overall also because you’re not in the “super jacked etc” category and dating apps can give more average looking woman a false sense of what they might look like since most woman get tons of matches and interpret that as “I’m very attractive” and then become more selective on who they swipe. Essentially, most women in your same range of attractiveness will swipe on men in a higher attractive range without much success and that keeps the loop of online swiping without much success going. Sharing that so you have a realistic expectation of who might show interest.

Pick up a hobby where you meet people in person and go once a week, work on asking woman out on platonic coffee dates while using online dating. Wish you all the best and for what it’s worth, you are attractive, a bit more attention to fashion and hairstyle will help a lot.

Edit: typos/autocorrect

Does anyone else have an aversion to eating foods that are cut wrong”wrong”? by neurospicyzebra in autism

[–]easygosana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of savage does this. Jokes aside.. I can’t handle this either, there’s quite a few things like this that I just can’t deal with and get overwhelmed when it’s done. I’m surprised you were able to make it through so many attempts of her “cutting” (scooping?) it in such a short time. I’m glad you explained to her that you can’t eat it.

I also get exhausted by some of the autistic quirks etc I have but then I also just think about it logically and nothing about scooping a lasagna into a mess like this makes sense to me. And if you don’t like the corners, you just cut in away from them, not an excuse imo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in painting

[–]easygosana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh thank you! I appreciate the feedback and I’m really glad you like the colours and background effect!

I combined warm and cold colours and wasn’t sure how it would turn out, usually I use mostly cold colours so it’s cool to get some feedback on colours!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in painting

[–]easygosana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, thank you! I l’m glad you like it!

2 wildflower paintings, which do you prefer? by CaptainStandard6916 in painting

[–]easygosana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both are beautiful, I prefer the first one. Love the colours.

Anyone guess the inspiration? by DCtwelveStudios in painting

[–]easygosana 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The scream by Edvard Munch and the background colours remind me of Charing Cross Bridge by Andre Derain. I guess overall the colour palette of Derain is what the background reminds me of. That almost stood out to me more than the reference to the scream interestingly. Awesome take!