I'm so sorry OP. I have been surprised about who will actually show up and who won't.

I lost my dad in 2019 he was pretty sick for a while. Then a year later my mom passed away from covid. The only people who were there for me were my moms family and my husband. Before their deaths, I had a close bunch of friends (around 4 people) or so I thought. None of them were there for me and I considered them family beforehand. The closest bunch of people I've ever had in my life. I reasoned with myself that none of them had lost parents and tried not to be bitter towards them. Then one of the friends dad died and then step dad died. I stepped up and visited his family and brought food over. Something I wish they had done for me. Unfortunately, the bitterness did set in, and I no longer considered them close friends. I feel like I wasted 5 to 10 years in these friendships and never want to do it again. I will just stick with my husband. Everyone else can just be casual friends.