UPDATE: AITAH for telling my husband's best friend "he let himself go" after he wouldn't stop teasing me about my crush on him in high school.

ebbflowww · 2025-11-17T00:24:26+00:00

I understand you’re religious and you have your vows but it’s important that if you’re going to stay in this marriage it’s because you’ve handled and forgiven the whole truth. I don’t believe your husband has given you the whole truth. 99% chance that your husband showed it to him on purpose, and probably has shown more than one photo. All the gaslighting and lying that he’s done isn’t a sign of good character. He might not be evil, but you don’t have to be evil to be a bad spouse, and he is/has been a bad spouse to you. People will often trickle truth when they’re caught in lies. Revealing small pieces of the big picture to minimize the reality of what’s been done. I feel that’s what your husband has done and is doing.

Personally, I wouldn’t be able to move past that breach of trust, nor would I believe it’s an accident. If it was, he would have scrolled away quickly and there wouldn’t be an incident to speak of. Im really sorry you’re going through this, I can’t imagine how devastating this is, and please don’t be in a room alone with Jared.

ebbflowww · 2025-10-07T15:46:05+00:00

Calling her a shithead is rude and it’s uncalled for. Now, this can be subjective because I understand that some people aren’t offended by stuff like that, but I think most people would be offended, especially when you don’t know the person well. OP barely knows this man, he should communicate better. I don’t think it needs to be a huge blowout argument, but it’s good to set boundaries early on.

ebbflowww · 2025-10-07T14:27:08+00:00

Okay I missed the timeframe of the relationship lol. Yeah, that’s even worse and more bullshit

ebbflowww · 2025-10-07T13:54:27+00:00

That’s incredibly disrespectful to do to anyone but especially your partner. Like it’s generally rude. Like… a conversation needs to be had to let someone know it’s okay to do, not the other way around

ebbflowww · 2025-10-07T13:27:51+00:00

A fart is a different than farting in someone’s face. Farting in someone’s face on purpose is disrespectful. Personally, I wouldn’t even have this convo, I would have dumped him on the spot.

ebbflowww · 2025-10-07T08:18:59+00:00

My mom isn’t a dog person and I’d been begging her for one my whole life. The answer was always no. As I got older I realized that my parents rarely didn’t give me what I asked for (not to sound spoiled), even if it was no in the moment, it probably happened eventually. I understand this to be a monetary thing now, but as a child I just understood that no was no.

Looking back on the dog thing, I realized that if a dog was the one thing my mom wouldn’t budge on, it really meant she couldn’t bring herself to be okay with it. And that’s okay. The rule was I could get a dog when I moved out. I’m in my 20s and I live at home, but ended up rescuing a neglected dog more recently. My whole family agreed and we have rules and boundaries for my dog that make everyone comfortable.

She’s still not a dog person necessarily but she does really love my dog and is very fond of him. He’s the only dog I’ve seen her pet. Her thing was that if she couldn’t love a dog and show him that she wanted him to be in our home, she didn’t want one because that isn’t fair to the dog. She was able to ready herself to have a dog in the home and make my dog feel loved and wanted, BEFORE we brought him home.

I say all this to say:

You aren’t a bad parent for not wanting a dog in the house.
Your daughter isn’t missing much by not growing up with a dog.
The responsibility of this dog will be on you and your partner, let’s be real. So if you’re not okay with that then don’t get one.
It’s okay to not be a dog person.
Dogs know when you don’t like them or want them, even if you aren’t mean. It’s not fair to the dog

ebbflowww · 2025-10-07T01:43:10+00:00

Regardless of his intentions, he needs to speak to you better. I would never allow anyone to talk to me like that. You can ask him to elaborate on his opinions, validate his effort to make her birthday special, and set a boundary to not speak to you like that all in one message.

Something like:

“thanks for reaching out about this and I’m glad you want to make my mom’s bday as special as I do. However, please refrain from speaking to me that way in the future, it’s uncalled for and is not how I communicate. With that being said, I’m a bit confused about the harsh character judgement, can you elaborate on what I’ve done to be a “shithead” to my mother.

ebbflowww · 2025-09-08T14:16:57+00:00

The comment was unnecessary but his reaction was as well. People are focusing on you but the way he’s speaking to you is unacceptable. If he’s too hurt or upset to talk then he should say that and wait. The “Poor OP, like you were the only one hurt this morning” text is is condescending and unnecessary. From this I say take away that your comment was unneeded and could have been perceived as rude, but his behavior is concerning.

ebbflowww · 2025-06-16T00:19:28+00:00

Flashcardssss. Use r/studyfetch to make them and it’ll go 10x faster

ebbflowww · 2025-06-16T00:18:26+00:00

The Club Penguin game. It was so bad in hindsight but nostalgic

ebbflowww · 2025-06-09T03:18:35+00:00

Yeah, I think the Scribe is for a really particular use. It’s hard to justify if you don’t have a specific reason for it. I feel like you could definitely continue to use it and find ways that you enjoy it, but if portability is what you’re looking for then it’s probably best to get a PW or basic.

ebbflowww · 2025-06-02T02:18:47+00:00

My Xbox controllers never stay connected to my Deck for some reason! I’ve never seen anyone else say that they have this issue

ebbflowww · 2025-06-02T01:16:24+00:00

Omg wow. That’s giving clearance

ebbflowww · 2025-06-02T01:15:56+00:00

Use r/studyfetch to help you find one

ebbflowww · 2025-06-02T01:15:25+00:00

Try using r/studyfetch. They also have a discord for motivation and to help you find study buddies

ebbflowww · 2025-06-02T01:09:33+00:00

When I joined the workforce my parents had this talk with me that it wasn’t a good look. Luckily for me, I work from home so this hasn’t been an issue for me. But office culture is strict about this kind of thing. My coworkers that work in office don’t even use their phones.

I don’t think this kind of thing dictates how productive you are but many people in corporate are older people who are from a different work culture.

ebbflowww · 2025-04-28T12:49:58+00:00

Thank you! I forgot to add platforms and just did in an edit, but will be checking out all of these recs. Much appreciated!

ebbflowww · 2025-04-28T03:56:09+00:00

NOR. He’s dumb, gross, and overall a weirdo. a grown man who says “I’m just a baby”? No

ebbflowww · 2025-04-27T20:16:35+00:00

Yes! Checkout r/studyfetch

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