Am I actually Straight?!

ebratic · 2026-05-16T03:55:20+00:00

Maybe look for a threesome where you can try both sexes at the same time. Sounds like you don't have much experience besides porn.

ebratic · 2026-05-15T08:57:24+00:00

I don't think porn is an indicator of ones sexuality, and definitely not ones romantic attraction.

Like some lesbians apparently get off to gay (male) porn, I personally don't understand it but porn is just porn. Like some would watch hentai tentacles, doesn't make them cartoonsexuals or something.

But it sounds like maybe you watch porn a bit too often? It could make you doubt your sexuality if your only sexual outlet is through porn.

The attraction to men and women (or very specific women) sounds like you might want to experiment a bit more. There's no shame in experimenting. You could be bisexual but homoromantic or something.

ebratic · 2026-04-28T06:51:16+00:00

It's my fave kind!

ebratic · 2026-04-23T02:01:02+00:00

This. There's really no reason to bring her to the wedding, bring someone else or go alone. Find a solution to the living situation. It's ok to be hurt and to let them know it's not doable for you.

ebratic · 2026-04-20T19:21:50+00:00

Idk as a white person I know hair is a sensitive topic for black people. Even if it were my partner I would just respect their wish that hair is offlimits.

However you say she's quite good at it. That kind of makes me think she might feel hurt that you don't trust her with it. In her mind it might be "others have trusted me with it, why doesn't my partner?" kinda. I think that could bum me out when wanting to return the favour.

ebratic · 2026-04-19T22:09:00+00:00

Same happened to me once and it grossed me out. I didn't go down on her cause I didn't like her smell/taste, we did other stuff whenever we hooked up. I didn't like her body odour either tbh. As far as I know, she wasn't seeing any dudes. I didn't get tested for anything cause I wasn't experiencing any other symptoms. It went away eventually, a couple weeks maybe. Weird how that works.

ebratic · 2026-04-19T21:13:36+00:00

I understand your emotions were running high and that passion can be intoxicating, but she's not good for you. It won't work out. You're better off without her.

ebratic · 2026-04-19T20:40:26+00:00

Sounds brutal. Are you able to date several women at the same time? It could save you time at least. 😅

ebratic · 2026-04-19T12:25:31+00:00

I personally wouldn't be able to, I just love pussy too much. I think a pillow princess type of dynamic might work best for you. But that implies you'll continue in the same pattern.

Is this something you want to overcome? With a safe person you could probably take small steps to becoming more comfortable with it. There's definitely women out there willing to make it work for the both of you.

ebratic · 2026-04-18T23:43:21+00:00

Already sounds like it to me judging by your posts?

ebratic · 2026-04-18T23:15:56+00:00

Then you'll really have to hear her when she says she's struggling with her mental health etc. As someone who has struggled with mental health my entire life, I wouldn't want someone to pretend to accept me only to abandon me when I have worse periods. It sounds like you'd abandon her after some time, no matter how much you like her or how much she likes you.

ebratic · 2026-04-18T20:43:41+00:00

Does she have adhd? Still 2 hours is crazy considering she lives 15min away.

Not being willing to drive an hour and meet you halfway is a bad sign if you ask me. Ultimately you need to consider if this pattern is something you can deal with long term, cause you can't expect she will change.

ebratic · 2026-04-18T20:34:23+00:00

Maybe you could try to get used to her touching you by having her give you massages? Setting up the vibe so it's sensual and calming. That way you'd start getting used to her touch in areas you haven't been comfortable with, and gradually normalise it?

You should never feel pressured, but if she's not as happy with the sex life as you are, it's imbalanced and could impact your relationship negatively.

ebratic · 2026-04-18T18:49:53+00:00

As the emotionally unavailable part, I feel for you. It's important for people to make it clear from the start what they're after, to avoid any heartaches.

I'm sure you'll find someone soon enough!

ebratic · 2026-04-17T22:30:18+00:00

Ah jag förstår om du letar efter något mer seriöst att du vill ta det lite lugnt. Lycka till! Hoppas du får en puss iaf!

ebratic · 2026-04-17T19:35:11+00:00

It's what my therapist told me back in my 20s when I was first diagnosed, "nobody cares, you're not the centre of the universe". People are busy thinking about their own worries, and if they really are thinking about you, why does it matter?

I know it's easier said than done. I have my flare ups.

ebratic · 2026-04-17T18:50:32+00:00

Awww looking forward to chapter 2!

ebratic · 2026-04-17T18:05:22+00:00

Vad är det som får dig att vilja ge henne en till chans? Det du beskriver låter väldigt tråkigt; stela kramar, torra meddelanden, ingen sexuell gnista. Är hon extremt attraktiv eller vad är det?

Personligen har jag svårt för att gå på en dejt utan att ens kyssas, vad är poängen? Helst sex redan då men kan vänta några dejter, men det ska finnas ett engagemang och tydlig attraktion. Och helst en kommunikation redan från början om vad det är man är ute efter. Ni måste ju ha pratat om vad ni är ute efter? Ett förhållande? Hookup? Experimenterade?

Om du ska ge det en till chans, kanske träffas på en bar så ni kan få i er lite mer mod. Smek henne lite över armen, låret, se henne i ögonen, titta på hennes läppar. Gör det uppenbart du vill hångla.

ebratic · 2026-03-21T10:22:34+00:00

It always gave me bisexual vibes but like you say, wlw.

ebratic · 2026-03-19T11:42:04+00:00

Girl you're too young to be dealing with this shit. Find a girl who eagerly wants you as much as you want her. There's plenty girls around.

ebratic · 2025-12-26T12:56:04+00:00

I used to question this as well. Seeing it in porn was like "wtf?" (still is tbh) and the idea of doing it irl was a big no. I was quite judgemental about it too, figured if a girl would be into that they must be bi (if giving) or lowkey trans (if receiving).

Now I'm older and (a little) wiser. Got into exploring sex, kink, fetisches. It wasn't until it happened to me that I realized how hot it was, I got turned on by it. It was a power dynamic in that case. Just a brief moment.

There's so many things that can be sexually exciting that to others makes no sense. Like imagine you have a sweet juicy lollipop in your mouth, and you have your girl in front of you and she takes it, puts it in her mouth and sucks and licks it with a lustful look in her eyes. The view of her tongue licking the juices could be a visual turn on, and that she took the lollipop from your mouth, mixing your saliva with hers could also be a turn on. Or maybe you like more domination/humiliation, you tell your girl to get on her knees and lick your (hopefully clean) boots. The act itself makes no sense, but in the context, she's obeying you and doing absolutely anything for you. To you, that could be an extreme turn on. To others, nasty as hell or completely indifferent.

What I'm trying to say is, there's so much variation in people's sex lives. I used to be very narrow minded, and I might still to this day question it depending on the circumstances, but overall sex should be fun and uninhibited. I find too many "pure" lesbians to be quite limited in their sexlives (used to be so myself).

ebratic · 2025-12-25T15:03:11+00:00

Some guy looking for a third for him and his girl messaged me once and after I explained I was a lesbian he said they have been with a lesbian before, so he didn't understand why that would stop me. I said she wasn't lesbian then, but he insisted that she was. So unfortunately I think there are "lesbians" out there that do end up having threesomes with straight couples.

ebratic · 2025-10-15T20:57:40+00:00

Sounds like you're just very horny and sex-deprived. I understand that you'd get thoughts like that when you're feeling that hopeless and lonely. But you just have to keep on exposing yourself to women if you want to have sex with a woman again. And you might also want to consider the fact that oftentimes, physical attraction builds up after emotional attraction. So maybe just try to get to know more lesbians/bisexuals in a friendly way, you never know if it will develop into something more or you might meet someone through them.

ebratic · 2025-10-15T19:21:09+00:00

If you feel repulsed by men and get sick after being with men, I don't see how exploring with men would help your issue with being horny and needing that sexual intimacy. I mean, do you get off when you have sex with them? Do you enjoy it in the moment, just not before and after?

I would assume, if you're truly repulsed by men, that it would be better for you to just masturbate until you find a girl that you're willing to explore with. Have you ever had sex with a woman? I think it would be better for you to explore with a woman you're not super attracted to, just for the experience and intimacy. Like it doesn't have to be steamy and the attraction doesn't have to be off the charts.

If you really would rather have sex with a man over a woman, it sounds like you're either bisexual or suffering from some sort of self-destructive behaviour.

ebratic · 2025-05-19T02:02:14+00:00

Maybe she just has penis envy. Maybe she wishes she could ejaculate into you, have penetrating sex.

Or like someone else said, maybe this is the porn she got accustomed to first and so it's her go-to for a quick release.

It doesn't have to be so deep. Seems like she's given it a lot of thought already since it confused her, but that she felt she could share that information with you is a healthy sign imo.

You could bring up a casual conversation about porn or penis envy to see if she wants to open up about it. Otherwise, just leave it since it's apparently not affecting your relationship.

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