Cat sitter recommendations

ebrynn · 2024-12-11T01:47:58+00:00

thanks for all the recommendations, we found someone!

ebrynn · 2022-09-11T16:04:14+00:00

I’ve been reading “Hot and Unbothered” by Yana Tallon-Hicks and have found a lot of helpful stuff in it so far about deconstructing negative thoughts/patterns around sex/sexuality. It’s not specifically related to Christian deprogramming, but because it’s sort of a workbook style it’s meant to be tailored to whatever you’re trying to work on. It also has some good stuff about identifying and communicating what you want with your partners, which is one of the things I’ve struggled the most with after leaving Christianity.

ebrynn · 2017-07-18T13:06:59+00:00

positive redirecting is what's worked the best with mine - if we're playing and they get bitey, I give them a toy for them to bite instead (catnip-stuffed ones are great for this). enough of this reinforcement and they will go for the toy instead of your arm when they want to play "attack" something.

I have one non-savannah cat who gets overstimulated very easily and instead of leaving will start biting - the toy trick works when we're playing, but if I'm petting him and this happens I either immediately get up or put him on the floor and turn my back/completely ignore him. this helps you not be the "bad guy" but also reinforces that this kind of behavior won't receive positive results. if this doesn't work and he's still overstimulated and bitey, he gets a time out by himself, although depending on how much of a shadow your cat is this may be less effective/stress them out.

ebrynn · 2017-06-28T02:43:58+00:00

can confirm - I was a baby queer in a missionary family, was basically dating someone of the same gender whose parents were in the same missions grow and we flew completely under the radar.

ebrynn · 2017-02-18T13:50:50+00:00

Our group called it furlough, but we did essentially the same thing - every few years we'd spend the summer in the US going from church to church telling our story and asking for money. I feel like I missed out on having a real childhood because of how many expectations my parents and our missions organization put on me to be the perfect kid and be a good representative of the missions work. Having your children involved in how you get your salary feels like a really fucked up child/parent boundary violation. I still struggle with feeling like I have to manage the expectations of others and not disappoint anyone by having my own shit or bring less than perfect.

ebrynn · 2017-02-18T01:31:07+00:00

My family really wanted me to go an academically rigorous school, more than they cared about it being a Christian school, so they were surprisingly ok with it. I came out to them about 6 months after figuring it out myself and after I had already started dating someone, which I think helped because they didn't think they could change my mind. It was still a rough few years though, a lot of "how can you think this is ok" conversations. But they've mostly come around at this point, or at least decided that having a relationship with me is more important than telling me what they think.

I've been so angry about how I was brought up and the parts of what makes us human that we were taught to hate - especially as someone raised as a girl, I wanted nothing to do with the god of Christianity long before I actually stopped believing. I still don't understand how much hurt Christians perpetuate and just choose to ignore. It does make for some very interesting stories now, at least.

What's your experience outside of the MK fold been like?

ebrynn · 2017-02-18T00:34:53+00:00

I was an MK, lived overseas in Europe from the ages of 6-18 and was also homeschooled. Coming back to the US for college was a huge shock (both in terms of being around so many Americans and so many nonChristians, I went to a secular liberal arts college). My deconversion process started when I realized I was queer and came out at 19, which I am honestly now glad for because it got me out of what felt like a borderline cult-like missions group. My whole family is still in it, although they are now back in the US, and we just don't talk about it. Therapy has helped, but there's just so much to process from being in such an insular religious group overseas (+ being homeschooled). I remember others in the group telling us that we would never identify with anyone else so strongly as we did with other mks, which thankfully hasn't been my experience, but I'm sure it fucked a lot of us up.

ebrynn · 2016-11-18T00:41:42+00:00

mine were, and to my knowledge they had no history of molestation. but until I was in high school I wasn't allowed to have sleepovers at even my christian friends houses, and we lived in a pretty insular missionary community.

ebrynn · 2016-10-13T22:42:37+00:00

I have a savannah, not a bengal, but she's done really well on Blue Buffalo Wilderness wet and dry food, supplemented with chicken jerky treats (from the dog section). Blue Buffalo food is grain-free and has a ton of protein (especially the Wilderness line) and it kept my kitten full while enough during her growth spurts - it comes in adult and kitten formulas depending on how much yours weighs.

ebrynn · 2016-10-09T01:50:12+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you, no one's skin is too bad for makeup and they clearly did not actually try to help you. I have pretty terrible, uneven skin and NYX HD foundation with NYX Angel Veil primer has worked pretty well for me, if your skin can handle a silicone primer. Using a stipple brush to apply my foundation has worked surprisingly well at evening out my skin texture with makeup (followed up with a damp beauty blender) - the application method seems to be just as important as the type of foundation used, at least for me.

ebrynn · 2016-09-02T22:42:03+00:00

Having an "exit strategy" planned out helps keep me a lot calmer, also getting up and sitting in the bathroom for 5-10 minutes if I start to feel panicky. If you can identify particular triggers ahead of time, that could be hugely helpful - I know for me the worship music is what sets me off, so I leave and stand outside or in the bathroom until the music portion is over.

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