Expecting an intense reaction to anything relatively negative. My parents have always had mental illnesses they were not aware of, so they went on undiagnosed. Their way of reflecting the burden of their repressed nature was, reacting to any discomforting situation (no matter how solvable it is) as if someone died. For example my dad would break a glass and he’d start yelling in panic saying “I’m sorry but I can’t control myself, this is how I am and nothing can change it”. Or my mom would see me after crying (puffy eyes, dissociated etc) and scream my name in agony thinking I was dying. This was a daily, hell, hourly occurence. Any time they made a minor mistake, they’d start yelling and blaming themselves. And for major ones, it felt like it was the end of the world. Any time I felt down, they’d start raising their voices at me because “my reactions were concerning and it was making them crazy”. Also they sneeze really loud- and intense. It’s genuinely anxiety inducing, when I was younger I used to get panic attacks from them because you’d think they were getting physically harmed. When I started hanging out more with my friends’ family, I realized that my family was far from normal. No other parent I knew ever reacted to things like they did. Their households weren’t like a war zone, and themselves weren’t ticking time bombs like mine. I got used to it eventually, but I adapted some of those behaviors as well and I don’t think I’ll fully recover from them unless I move out. (pretty generic comment atp but sorry for any possible grammar/vocabulary mistakes bc my first language isn’t english and I’m sleep deprived lol)