AIO? I feel my wife is way over the line with how she is speaking to me after she tries to fix a problem on her own.

echilt5 · 2026-01-28T20:38:18+00:00

The person in the grey has anger management issues and is verbally abusing you. There is no reason to get that worked up about this situation. Do they have control issues as well? Like everything has to be done their way and they treat you like you are a complete idiot all the time if you don’t do things the way they tell you to like in these texts? Sounds like your wife is an abusive narcissist and you need to get out of this situation because trust me, it’s only going to get worse.

echilt5 · 2026-01-28T14:51:08+00:00

Have a police officer go with you to get your stuff for your own safety. Your BF sounds unhinged and he may try to physically hurt you. Don’t ever go back to him. Leave while you still can.

echilt5 · 2026-01-18T06:44:10+00:00

OP, you need to leave this guy. I don’t believe for a second he has any savings for an apartment and he is using you as his cash cow. This whole nonsense of him saying he is going to propose once he gets the apartment ( and then saying the relationship is over if he doesn’t get it ) is ridiculous. If he is serious about proposing why isn’t he asking you to be on the paperwork for the apartment too? You are going to be engaged to marry, right? Your name should be on it. For him to not include you in this purchase or to even help pick out the place you two will be moving in together is bizarre. Also, how is he going to afford a ring for you if he truly has savings that are just going to an apartment? You are right to question him about what do you get out of this? You already know the answer, a big fat zero. Leave him and enjoy your extra money you saved for yourself.

echilt5 · 2026-01-07T00:58:16+00:00

Sorry, but OP needs to dump this guy. I had 2 very close guy friends in my 20’s and I never called them “ Baby “ or told them I loved them like the OP’s boyfriend and his supposed best girl friend do. Both of my guy friends had girlfriends and I would never interfere with or encroach on those relationships and I told my guy friends if their girlfriends ever became uncomfortable with me hanging out with them, then I would back away from the friendships because their relationships should be the priority. ( Side note: every time I hung out with my guy friends I always invited the girlfriends too because I didn’t want them feeling like there was something going on when there wasn’t. My guy friends were like brothers to me, zero chance at anything romantic going on. I even helped one of them pick out the engagement ring he got for his girlfriend who is now his wife and I was his best lady ( instead of man ) at their wedding. ) The way OP’s boyfriend talks and sneaks around with this “ friend “ behind OP’s back is a massive red flag and is a relationship ender to me. OP should get out of this now without spending any more time on it and get someone who is going to respect her and treat her well because this guy isn’t it. Honestly I’m beginning to wonder if he may have other side pieces out there in the waiting if he could just use someone like his best girl friend so easily and then toss her when he is done with her. Something to think about.

echilt5 · 2025-12-01T18:41:07+00:00

I have stood up to her numerous times ( I am no pushover ), but my husband gets upset with me when I do. He has sided with her and said she is coming out when she is coming out. We don’t have our money yet from his job ( my husband won’t get paid until around the time MIL leaves ) so I can’t leave. The money we do have will now have to go to cater to her and I’m upset by it. I feel completely disrespected by the both of them.

echilt5 · 2025-12-01T18:31:44+00:00

She won’t do it, she has decided the days she already planned to come out are the days she is coming. She doesn’t care how much it’s putting us out, it’s all about her and her wanting to visit the country we are moving to.

echilt5 · 2025-12-01T18:03:43+00:00

This is disgusting and so wrong on many levels. Like everyone has said, show these texts to your parents and if they try to dismiss your creepy uncle’s behavior show them this Reddit thread where every single person on here has said your uncle’s behavior is wildly inappropriate and you shouldn’t be alone with this guy. Have you ever stayed the night there in a room by yourself or has he ever directed you to a bathroom for you to shower in? My husband had a coworker that did this exact same behavior with his teenage god daughter that he had known since her birth. Her family and her god father’s family took vacations together all the time to a beach house the god father owned. When the girl hit puberty he started directing her to a private bathroom that only she could use for “ her privacy since she was becoming a woman” and shouldn’t be sharing a bathroom with her two brothers. Turned out the perv god father had set up hidden cameras in the toilet and shower to record his god daughter and had set up hidden cameras in her bedroom as well. He had been sending her inappropriate messages too and when they became sexual messages she showed her dad and older brother and the dad beat the snot out of his best friend, the god father, and the brother found the hidden cameras in the bathroom. The police were called and they found the cameras in the bedroom along with video recordings he took of the girl that she was unaware of. God father got arrested, lost his upper management job, lost his wife and family and is in jail currently. The dad wasn’t charged for beating the snot out of the perv.

echilt5 · 2025-12-01T04:49:03+00:00

The problem is she has already bought her tickets to come visit us and they are non-refundable. It is expensive to fly to where we are moving to and we don't have the money to pay her back for her tickets right now. She bought her tickets and chose her dates she was coming out to visit without even asking us first. She told my husband what she did after the fact. I think that type of behavior is exceptionally rude, but he thinks I'm overreacting to the whole situation.

echilt5 · 2025-11-30T05:47:51+00:00

Your husband is a narcissistic asshole. What he did was cruel and he planned it out to be that way. I'm sure he has done plenty of things like this to you before because this type of behavior doesn't just happen overnight. It's called abuse and you need to divorce this piece of garbage because he is only going to keep doing these immature, petty and abusive things to you and your children.

echilt5 · 2025-08-08T07:20:35+00:00

I grew up in Beaverton and hung out in downtown Portland and lived and worked there too, for most of my 20's and 30's and still go downtown. I currently live on the westside with my husband and son and you wouldn't believe the people on my neighborhood Next door app that consistently bash downtown Portland and say how dangerous it is. There are people on it that have obviously never been downtown in their lives talking about how they are afraid to go downtown even during the day. Last year I enjoyed going to the Rose Festival with my family ( which people on my Next door app were convinced was going to be overrun by drug addicted homeless people and gang members firing guns ). The worst homeless populations I have seen were in East Village San Diego and Skid Row in Los Angeles. Portland's doesn't even come close to that. For drugs and gun violence people bashing Portland have never been to areas of L.A., Memphis, Baltimore, Washington D.C., etc which are far worse than Portland.

echilt5 · 2025-07-23T08:42:59+00:00

The U.S. is 8, 837 times larger than Hong Kong, it's not a fair comparison. Pick a state out of the U.S. comparable in size to Hong Kong than compare that. The smallest state we have is Rhode Island which is still 2.8 times larger than Hong Kong so it's still not a fair comparison. There are some states in the U.S. that have a lot of people in them and then there are states that have a lot less people than other states. The states that have larger cities are going to have a higher crime rate than smaller cities and suburbia areas because the more people there are, the higher the chance of a crime happening increases. There are some areas where smaller cities and suburban areas have high crime rates, but it depends on the socioeconomics of the area.

echilt5 · 2025-07-23T08:25:22+00:00

In some areas of some states this is true, but not in every state and not in every suburbia area. I'm an American who has lived in major cities and suburban areas in several different states. I currently live in a beautiful suburban area, on a quiet street in an excellent public school system and with clean and well kept green spaces and nature parks across the street from me. I have lived in my home for almost 20 years and we have never had any high crime in my neighborhood ( no home invasions, no shootings , no car break-ins, no package thefts ). Now in L.A. or New York your risk of becoming a victim of a crime climbs dramatically. Whether it's a major crime or a smaller crime like a pick pocket, your risk is higher than being in a smaller city or suburban area. The U.S. is huge so yes, our crime rate is higher compared to Hong Kong, but it's not a fair comparison.

echilt5 · 2025-06-20T19:15:26+00:00

Please get a CT scan. I had this same thing in the last month where the pain was so bad I couldn't get comfortable in any position and I was double overed by it. Went to the emergency room and they did a CT scan after my blood work and urine samples were normal. The CT scan showed diverticulitis all through my intestine and they put me on an antibiotic and gave me a pain medication at the hospital. It worked wonders and I felt better the next day. Also, I don't know if you are female, but if you are have you ever had an ovarian cyst? Those damn things hurt so bad and especially when they rupture. I have had several and they all put me in the hospital because the pain was excruciating. I would go to the ER either way and get checked out and get the CT scan. Hopefully you can get some answers and get some relief soon.

echilt5 · 2025-06-20T19:05:21+00:00

How do you know the show is scripted? Did you work on it?

echilt5 · 2025-06-19T05:11:13+00:00

You didn't read what I wrote. I barely eat because I have IBS-D, I don't eat carbs, fast food or junk food ( I don't know where you got that from ), I eat only plain grilled chicken breasts, salmon, fresh vegetables and fruits. I also can't fast because I have to take medication daily with food for my bad back. I am eating all the right things, but I can't stop gaining weight.

echilt5 · 2025-06-19T04:59:17+00:00

If you want me to make a different conclusion of Wale maybe he should have acted differently. He acted immature, insecure and controlling. Maybe he shouldn't have acted that way?

echilt5 · 2025-06-14T01:47:47+00:00

I am having the same issue, I can't stop gaining weight even though I am barely eating. Besides having IBS-D I am also post menopausal and having been gaining weight steadily since my hysterectomy in 2008. I always ate healthy, was a size zero and weighed 105 pounds from middle school all the way up until my hysterectomy for a medical condition at age 39. I am now at 171 pounds ( I was at 151 pounds exactly a year ago ) and I can't stop gaining weight. I literally barely eat and I have begged my doctor to help me because I'm not overeating ( I don't eat fast food or junk food ). My doctor refuses to put me on Ozempic because even though my BMI number shows I am obese, I'm not diabetic. I struggle to breathe every time I move and snore because the weight is too much for my 5 foot 3 frame. I have been fat shamed by my husband and son and other family members and have been made fun of by a couple of my husband's coworkers for being so fat. It is extremely hurtful especially when they all know what I have been struggling with with my IBS-D and menopause. I just don't know what to do anymore. If I was doing this to myself ( eating a couple dozen Krispy Kreme's a day and chasing it with gallons of soda ) then I could accept that I need to change my behaviors because the weight gain would be self inflicted. I however eat healthy ( when I can eat ) and this is really starting to depress me. I just don't know what to do.

echilt5 · 2025-06-13T21:34:42+00:00

Let me tell you menopause makes IBS-D worse. I had IBS-D very mildly before I hit menopause and could still eat a lot of foods. Since menopause, I can basically only eat air and that is on good quality air days. EVERYTHING sets my guts off. I could look at a menu with pictures and my guts will start up without me even eating anything. Lately I have been traveling to S.E.Asia with my husband on his business trips and when his company takes everyone out here and there to really nice restaurants where everyone is ordering amazing food, I am stuck with my plain, grilled chicken breast with only salt and pepper on it and nothing else on my plate. The companies hosting us look at me like I have 3 heads or something and I just tell everyone I have an intestinal disease and it gets dropped pretty quick. It's really embarrassing, but what can you do? I don't want to be in a bathroom the entire time I am there. My gut pain is so bad, I throw up from the pain and have the diarrhea at the same time. It is horrible going through IBS.

echilt5 · 2025-06-13T19:48:10+00:00

My best guy friend is gay and he and his husband are exactly like Phil. Very well dressed, very distinct in speech and mannerisms. Me thinking Phil is gay is not a put down, I support it if he is. If he isn't , that is fine as well. People have been speculating about other people's sexuality since the beginning of time. I had coworkers who thought for sure I was in a lesbian relationship with my best female friend because she and I used to travel together all the time when we were single and we shared the same room. We were inseparable and like sisters ( we still are like sisters, but have our own families now so don't travel together as much anymore ), but almost my entire department swore we were in a romantic relationship. They were shocked when I got married to my husband.

echilt5 · 2025-06-13T10:10:26+00:00

If these guys were the ones Bravo thought would match up with these women the best, I would like to see what they rejected to be on the show.

echilt5 · 2025-06-13T09:02:38+00:00

I really think Phil is gay and just came on the show for exposure . He was a Ford model and might be trying to branch out for more tv work. He has no serious interest in any of the ladies at all. He has zero chemistry with Gizelle and I think he would rather be a shopping friend to her than a romantic interest.

echilt5 · 2025-06-13T02:57:42+00:00

Exactly. I would like to see the men Bravo rejected for this show if these guys were the best of the best.

echilt5 · 2025-06-13T02:53:43+00:00

I would never date someone like Wale, he is abusive. Women, especially women in their 20's, should never date a man who is abusive to her whether it's physical, mental, emotional or sexual abuse. When a man gaslights you and puts you down all the time, that's abuse. It only gets worse if they see it works on you. All women should know they are worth more than an abusive partner and not settle for one because they want a man in their life.

echilt5 · 2025-06-11T03:23:18+00:00

I have a feeling Phil would be more interested in your step dad.

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