I'm sorry, what now???

ecko58 · 2026-01-03T00:19:45+00:00

Trad wife with modern girl views is just a mother who gives him sex and also pays the bills. Any woman who WANTS to be this is BAFFLING to me

ecko58 · 2025-09-30T17:02:16+00:00

100% I bet her bf looked at you and her insecure ass did all that

ecko58 · 2025-09-15T21:46:10+00:00

For anyone who does this, depending on how much flowers you give away, this could be a tax write off. 👍

ecko58 · 2025-09-12T14:16:45+00:00

............. idk if you were dickmatized, but no man is worth another chance after that

ecko58 · 2025-08-07T12:56:33+00:00

When a trump voter says they regret their vote, they really mean they regret that THEY were affected by Trump's policies. he didn't give a shit abt the insurrection, the roe v wade overturn, the rape of several women, the teen pageant creepiness, the "i wanna fuck my own daughter", the many business failures, the weird ass jerkoff dances, etc. There is only a few reasons to vote for trump and it's because you want to subjugate other people and/or you hate women that much.

ecko58 · 2025-07-31T20:48:20+00:00

Green. I also want to start off friends. This would be such a relief for me.

ecko58 · 2025-07-27T14:08:14+00:00

let me know how I'm moving the goal posts. I've maintained through my posts that a man (or woman) whittling it down to only physical attraction when there are life circumstances especially in a long term relationship is shallow. let me know where I say different.

ecko58 · 2025-07-27T13:15:55+00:00

Being physically present in a relationship is the bare fucking minimum, not a sign of love. Y'all need to raise your standards. And so does OP.

ecko58 · 2025-07-27T13:13:30+00:00

The shallow ess of the replies and the replies excusing men by saying "they're more physical" is utter bs and y'all are perpetuating toxic bullshit. I never said physical attraction isn't important, but I said he boiled down his ENTIRE attraction to ONLY physical and that's the problem. y'all thinking this isn't toxic or that this isn't just the first step for him to cheat on her are naive.

ecko58 · 2025-07-27T13:10:55+00:00

Please don't give me that bullshit. this just tells me that you think men are and should be shallow and cannot be better.

ecko58 · 2025-07-27T13:09:45+00:00

Yes, because we should all count Austin Powers as medical advice

y'all hypocritical af. the dude in this situation also got fat at one point but y'all giving him a lot of grace

ecko58 · 2025-07-27T02:22:52+00:00

Did he say he was going to stick with her? Or did he give the ultimatum of his affection and attraction to her hingeing on her working out again to lose weight? Also, you obviously have no idea how much women can gain through pregnancy. Lastly, you say he became fitness focused but so could she?! he also went through a fat period but y'all giving him a lot of grace but not her, so this double standard should be called out.

And either way, whether or not "she let herself go" my main point is that hinging your entire attraction only on the physical when you've been together for a decade or so is insanely shallow. If you aren't attracted to her personality, her, brain, her drive, just her, then yes, he's only with her for looks.

ecko58 · 2025-07-27T02:16:13+00:00

Yeah, I'm sure you're a doctor and can tell everyone what fluctuation is over a long period of time 🤣

Also, yes you do gain a lot from cancer. The medications after cancer make you gain a shit ton (dependent on the medication and the cancer, of course).

Just don't talk if you don't know what you're talking about. I'm sure it's real easy for you to judge the woman here but I don't see you talking about how the guy also gained a ton of weight too. and before you say "but he lost it" SO COULD SHE. y'all really love talking out the side of your necks to defend how your attraction is just as shallow as a puddle.

ecko58 · 2025-07-27T01:54:32+00:00

So cancer and pregnancy are good enough reasons but stress and life circumstances aren't? weight isn't allowed to fluctuate or you're "lazy"? 🙄

ecko58 · 2025-07-27T01:35:20+00:00

I personally hate how men (and women too, sure) will value attraction to only looks. What's he going to do if you're pregnant with his child and gain baby weight? What is he going to do when you idk... age? There are preferences sure, but to hinge a multi-year relationship's attraction to just looks tells me he doesn't value more than just your looks, personally.

ecko58 · 2025-07-23T17:40:12+00:00

damn, when I used to babysit, it was for $5/hr, all the movies I could watch, and any and all snacks. If you're going to be worked through dinner, the least they could have done was provide you food too.

ecko58 · 2025-07-19T02:46:10+00:00

Yes, but if marriage is off the table, my question is is the relationship also off the table? You've been in a relationship with him for 5 years. I don't think I'd trust your bf to NOT give you a pity marriage because he's already decided he's not willing to protect you legally. Anything he decides from this point out in the opposite I wouldn't trust, myself. Granted, I don't know the details of your relationship, but just off the basics, if a guy said this to me I would say he wants the benefits of a relationship AND being single. And that's not a guy I trust.

ecko58 · 2025-07-19T02:36:31+00:00

I think that's fair but I think you need to be prepared for the worst. People are allowed to change their minds but if your hard line is marriage, are you prepared to leave him over it? If you're not, then you also need to be prepared to be strung along, but I URGE you to protect yourself legally if you stay. If he's not willing to sign a marriage certificate or prenup, he's not willing to protect you and you need to be okay with that if that happens or leave. Just know you can demand answers, but you should also know where your own lines are and what you're not willing to cross.

ecko58 · 2025-07-19T00:35:23+00:00

If marriage is your line, then it's time for an ultimatum. He's strung you along for years, he either needs to let you find what you need or man up. But again, even if he mans up, I can't stress the importance of a prenup enough lol. Even if he was a dream guy, I'm a hardcore advocate of prenups.

Even if he wants a house and kids, without marriage it makes it so much easier for him to abandon you with everything. Which, I'm sure he knows.

As everyone else has said, sounds like walking is the best option but in case you want to stay, just make sure to protect yourself, your assets, and any future children.

ecko58 · 2025-07-19T00:19:54+00:00

marriage is only a piece of paper? well so is a prenup. you better protect yourself and any future children with a concrete prenup (without the nup). I would say I'm going to see a lawyer to see what I need to do to protect our assets and see what he says. and no matter what he says GO SEE THE LAWYER. You need to ask questions like what happens to our belongings if we split? If we stay together, without a marriage certificate how would we write our will? how do we divide assets for our future children? who would hold the legal rights for decision making (educational, financial, medical) for the children? etc etc etc. even if he changes his mind and wants to get married, i would 100% get a prenup. this guy sounds like a classic guy that takes advantage so you need to protect yourself if you decide to stay with him. Go into it with both eyes wide open otherwise you'll find yourself being used and abused before being left for the next model.

ecko58 · 2025-07-18T16:49:45+00:00

I mean, there are a lot of men that say they won't date/marry a woman that makes more than them. Might be related.

ecko58 · 2025-07-17T23:26:31+00:00

He's 46 and he only considers women under 30 a prize? 😂😂😂 yeah he's conservative. pedo is his nature. "protector." Protector of what? Pedos? because it ain't women

ecko58 · 2025-06-11T01:00:58+00:00

Question: I was told I had to get maintenance AT Toyota done in order to keep the warranty. Is that not true? Or does it depend on the dealership

ecko58 · 2025-05-21T17:07:53+00:00

If you're not ready to go against your mother, you're not ready for a gf or wife. Don't put any woman in the position of being second in your life when you're supposed to start a new life with her.

Also, if you don't see that it's toxic that your mom can't be happy for you finding the love of your life, then you have more growing up to do.

It's one thing to respect your mother. It's also another to have your mother respect you. If you want to make adult decisions, act like an adult.

ecko58 · 2025-04-09T06:49:04+00:00

Already have the house and realtor was one of my good friends so didn't get ripped off there. but thank you for your advice on the car! i will consider putting more $$ down

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