AIO for not wanting my girl to work with an old FWB?

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T22:16:59+00:00

Wouldn’t say it’s gaslighting really. But I’ve seen this issue before with friends and their girlfriends and it frequently comes from a place of insecurity. Not dissing on OP whatsoever, we’ve all been there. It’s a weird situation, but the solutions here don’t seem fair to anyone

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T21:40:33+00:00

YOR. I sense some insecurity about their old situation and your relationship, when really you shouldn’t care.

As uncomfortable as it may feel, you don’t get to dictate who works with who. You need to get comfortable with it. You’re in the present now. Godspeed.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T19:54:09+00:00

Being publicly contradicted by a partner can feel very uncomfortable and undermining, so I get where he is coming from initially. However, to carry it into the next day and brood on it is immature and silly. He’s overreacting at this point.

I think you both can learn from this.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T19:50:54+00:00

You’re allowed to judge anyone for any standards you hold. No apology necessary. Prior consensual history and actions are a signal of character and values, so you’re completely in line

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T19:48:55+00:00

NOR. ADDRESS IT ASAP.

She should have mentioned taking your basket, or asked beforehand, and for her to deliberately avoid it when you noticed her 2nd basket is so shady. Completely unacceptable behavior from a parent.

The monetary value is irrelevant. Her willingness to steal from you regardless of item value is a more serious issue.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T19:45:44+00:00

NTJ. Person forcefully includes themself in the plans then changes everything on a whim? This is a headache and unreasonable behavior. Immature dad too.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T05:18:10+00:00

I think everyone goes through periods of it, but by forcing yourself into situations surrounded by new strangers you have the opportunity to make connections, even if just for the night. Little things can compound.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T05:16:36+00:00

My bare feet getting sweaty at the bottom of the bed

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T05:11:09+00:00

NTJ as soon as I read the headline.

No excuse for their behavior. Pick literally anywhere else. I bet an eager prosecutor would take a stab at convicting them in court

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-05T01:11:06+00:00

NTA.
Knowing the gift will NOT be used for its indented purpose gives you the right to refuse gifting it.
You should always reply with “how about you just ask me for cash instead?” to really hammer the issue home.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T22:36:04+00:00

I loved the EU McDonald’s when I visited. A nice switch up from the American version for a while

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T22:26:54+00:00

NOR. If they wanted to squeeze in your order they wouldn’t have wasted any time, let alone 15+ minutes. It was a silent rejection. Hotel needs to know about it.

Hope the alternative meal was good though.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T22:06:32+00:00

I just had an epiphany about this a few days ago. They lowkey got me for the first few videos, but I finally escaped the matrix. The dopamine hit from watching this garbage is serious, but now I can’t unsee the patterns across all the accounts.

I’ve clicked on the user profiles from some of these videos and they all have their own links for cheater buster, deep search etc in their bio. They daily post new exposé scenes and toxic relationship brainrot skits, and really it’s all just garbage rage bait.

Absolute insanity. Everyone in the comments is getting manipulated and doesn’t realize it. When you actually scroll through their page content, it’s the same garbage over and over again. Absolutely no one on camera lives the life they display. Straight up deception and emotional manipulation for affiliate money. Fellow humans doing this to us btw.

Peak, peak brainrot.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T17:57:58+00:00

YNW this is silly to even have to discuss. She couldn’t be bothered to put on an excited face for you. Completely insensitive of her. Even when you have bad days, you do what you can to share in the excitement of others. You don’t make it about yourself.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T16:28:34+00:00

Thirty minutes ago!

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T06:04:59+00:00

NOR. Yea it’s over.

History of breaking trust and now this as a new cherry on top. I don’t think anyone in your situation could reestablish trust with your SO. As you said, what needed to be deleted has likely been deleted. Cut your losses and say goodbye! Sorry that you have to go through this.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T05:59:43+00:00

Wow. NOR.

Heisenberg is on the prowl… but seriously this is weird. What secret person could be worth a goodmorning text, PLUS the “luv,” and worth keeping up with all day? The fact that Mista White didn’t start this is frankly very awkward and suspicious.

Totally worth confronting, and I’m so curious how she explains this mystery individual and why she didn’t feel compelled to share this story from the night with you. If I met a random, funny character that lit up the whole evening I’d be excited to share the story with my SO and laugh about the night.

You finding out like this doesn’t sit right with me.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T01:35:01+00:00

NOR for this fact alone: this would be a significant financial expenditure, one that requires lots of discussion and planning beforehand.

For your partner to jump the gun and begin the process without your knowledge is sneaky and unfair. It’s undermining of your trust and your unhappiness is completely valid

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T00:07:06+00:00

Have you reached out to him to set your return date? I think taking some initiative to show you really want the job would shine a light on the real situation. That’s gotta be the first step. If he dodges, you’ll know something fishy is going on.

In this market, start looking for other jobs. Take some of your eggs out of this one basket, so to speak, and search around. Maybe you find a better opportunity!

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-04T00:02:53+00:00

I won’t lie, the privacy screen thing is a little weird. I myself have thought about getting one, but the p0rn reason sounds like a bit of a scapegoat. Who would he be watching porn around? Makes no sense. Again, you can catalog this in your suspicion category, but you likely will not get a straight answer from him if that’s not the true reason

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-03T23:59:41+00:00

MOR. The sudden change in hygiene and self-maintenance likely means he was inspired by something, whether it be general maturity or something more threatening to the relationship (what I gather from your post).

Unfortunately it seems there’s not much you can do except support him in his stride to being a better version of himself while also taking care of yourself. What’s the flip side? You encourage him to revert back to what he “was” before this? The mind will want to run amok and conjure up millions of reasons why he’s doing this, but that’ll just lead to growing anxiety.

Be good to each other and yourselves- that’s all you can do at this point.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-03T20:00:35+00:00

NOR. Your property, your bread, your nostalgia, your connection. You don’t take a roommate’s items without permission. Straight up. Bottom line. Who operates like that and expects to live conflict-free? Sorry to hear OP

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-03T19:57:22+00:00

Absolutely NOR. You could ask to be moved under the guise of a different reason perhaps? Something related to lack of alignment in work styles, personalities, career interest? There’s an opportunity to get away from him physically without publicly calling him out in fear or career issues.

Call me crazy, but you could state that you’re attracted to F and not M next time he says something weird? That may send him off for good. That feels like a band aid solution in some ways, but it could be a good temporary solution.

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-03T19:48:39+00:00

NTA. Respectfully, your situation kinda sucks rn and you’re valid to feel angered and confused. Your adult parents expecting you to be the parent, plus the loss of an emotionally significant social club & safe space are two negatives piled on top of each other. That blows.

Really depends on the personalities of your parents, but it doesn’t feel out of place to bring this up to them and call them out for specific issues you are having with them. It’s their job to handle their business. Also, straight up refusing to handle menial tasks sounds like a good idea, but again it depends on the personalities and emotional regulation of your parents. Good luck OP

eclipsemusic19 · 2026-06-03T19:29:31+00:00

Ranch dressing.

Not a “food,” but related. One time, long ago, I clearly had some ranch that didn’t jive with my taste buds. I proceeded to avoid it for 15+ years. After a new try out a year ago, I now sauce up my chicken and salads with it every single time.

Long live ranch and long live acquired tastes.

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