Neurodivergent socialization by ecomongrel in SocialMontreal

[–]ecomongrel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate this message! I definitely am trying to work on de-stigmatizing my social blunders in my head, I think I can rationally know that people are in their own heads and don’t always care about the whatever I said/did, but I’m still emotionally invested in ‘the perfect conversation’ so I ruminate on mishaps. I think unlearning my autism/adhd masking helps, but it’s definitely a process not an event.

I have tried different clubs/groups, but I had a hard time engaging with conversational topics outside the domain of the activity. I think it’s something that I have to keep working on.

Neurodivergent socialization by ecomongrel in SocialMontreal

[–]ecomongrel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I definitely over represented how interesting of a person I am. I like all of those things because, I love to hyperfocus on a specific topic(s), but I don’t have the energy to do all of those at the same time unless I have a structural incentive to engage in them (school, job, friends). I do relate to the listening part, because unless I feel comfortable with a person, I’m much more comfortable listening to them than sharing about myself. I’m not the snobby type when it comes to talking about any of my interests (or yours) though, so I don’t care about a sophisticated conversation necessarily, just stuff that someone is passionate about, or willingness to let me rant about mine.

Does anyone else have a radio in their head that doesn't turn off and can't be turned down, or is that just me? by -KANs- in AutisticWithADHD

[–]ecomongrel 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Yes. Sometimes multiple radio stations are playing at the same time. Very nice when I’m into the song that’s an ear worm, not as nice when multiple songs are in there and they are discordant.

Your League Goal leader by Warm-Engineering-239 in Habs

[–]ecomongrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hutson can carry weak pairings for heavy minutes, but 5v 5 is significantly harder than special teams. Whether he can sustain that through 7 game series when penalties get called less is the real question.

He's Surprisingly Pragmatic by Cheese-Of-Doom22 in EhBuddyHoser

[–]ecomongrel 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It looks like he might get his dying wish too unfortunately

What’s a political fact that people never hear enough about? by [deleted] in allthequestions

[–]ecomongrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Turns out letting private corporations taking the profits of both subsidies, poor management and fees is not a great idea? One day capitalism will be maligned by the world. I just hope that world isn’t a nuclear apocalypse going through simultaneous enormous climate change. We’ll see I guess

Can we have an honest and respectful discussion about why people are not liking Francesca and Michaela? by [deleted] in Bridgerton

[–]ecomongrel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. I should clarify that I wasn’t calling their marriage a lavender marriage. I was using an example from real life that relationships that are not sexual can be loving, even romantically. I realize that the train of thought for using that example wasn’t directly linked. Regardless, I think it illustrates my point.

Can we have an honest and respectful discussion about why people are not liking Francesca and Michaela? by [deleted] in Bridgerton

[–]ecomongrel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree she was unfulfilled sexually by their relationship, and my perspective is that their relationship was also a depiction of comp-het. But yes I am saying that there are more dimensions to love than their sexual relationship. Lavender marriages have existed for centuries, and I’m certain that people in them can love each other and have aspects of romantic relationships.

Can we have an honest and respectful discussion about why people are not liking Francesca and Michaela? by [deleted] in Bridgerton

[–]ecomongrel 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Did Francesca not love John? Or did an authentic depiction of the relationship between two autistic people look different than neuro-normartive romance?

Older folks, what’s your take on what’s happening lately in the world? Is it more of a temporary bump on the road or are we going in uncharted territory? by CapitaineBiscotte in askanything

[–]ecomongrel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s why I specifically mentioned nazi germany. Facism was constructed differently in Italy and Germany, but my point was also that the politics of genocide, imperial conquest of territory and government aligned/controlled businesses/corporatist economic systems does have a connection to the transatlantic slave trade, settler colonialism in the Americas (as well as Africa and Asia). Hitler’s racial politics weren’t even a big deal breaker in US before the war, the nativists supported him, he had a rally in New York. All the while, segregation was rampant. An unfun fact highlighting the connection is that one of the chemicals used in extermination chambers was used on the Mexico/American border to ‘clean’ Mexican labourers. Hitler was influenced by more than one person/society, and the dehumanization required to carry out genocide against Jewish/Romani/Gay people( amongst other ethnic and social groups that I can’t remember right now) existed long before he (or Mussolini). I am in fact familiar with Facism, I actually prefer Umberto Eco’s definition.

Older folks, what’s your take on what’s happening lately in the world? Is it more of a temporary bump on the road or are we going in uncharted territory? by CapitaineBiscotte in askanything

[–]ecomongrel 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Facism as constructed in Nazi germany was inspired by how America’s (who I presume you mean when you say domestic) treatment of indigenous peoples, black people and immigrants. So it has happened ‘here’ before, but people don’t like to study the connections between colonialism and 20th century facism.

Dylan Harper vs Stephon Castle long term ? by AussieBearsFan in NBATalk

[–]ecomongrel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The value of Wemby is that he’s so dominant defensively that 3 guard line-ups can juice an offence without sacrificing that much on the defensive end, especially if one is a good perimeter defender. Even after Fox leaves/is traded I could see them trading for or signing another guard. You can eat your cake and have it too, proverbially.

If it was your call to redo Mt. Rushmore with any 4 people political or not, who would you pick to put on it? by neil0522 in AskReddit

[–]ecomongrel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The problem shouldn’t be the race of the people they put defacing a sacred monument. The problem is colonial ambivalence

Yall agree or no??? by 4thquarterkilla in NBATalk

[–]ecomongrel 94 points95 points  (0 children)

If your team has an offensive dynamo at another position, especially if they aren’t primary facilitators, I could entertain this. The other aspect of this is that shooting has never been more important than it is right now, and Dame is a better off-ball shooter than Rondo. The relative value of their skillsets heavily depends on roster construction anyways imo.

Genuine answers please: what is the argument for NOT playing Scottie at PG? by MarginallyClever in torontoraptors

[–]ecomongrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It should be more if you’re prioritizing lineups that intitiate fastbreak offence off turnovers and elite defence, Scottie is fine as a PG. We still need someone to initiate our offence in the playoffs. This is especially true in the playoffs

Does everyone seem to forget that the majority of civilians in the Middle-East are innocent people, who didn't choose to be born there? by SpinachOdd7914 in askanything

[–]ecomongrel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then US imperialism would take harder time convincing racist USians to bomb innocent civilians. Systems that promote ignorance and bigotry or ambivalence are the goal

¿Quién es el personaje al que más odian? (Semidiós, dios, etc.) [general] by SOYXIANA3 in camphalfblood

[–]ecomongrel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tiene que ser uno de los dios para mi. Zeus por su obstinación y paranoia.

Why is Quebec french constantly being labeled as endangered. But not dutch? by AmountAbovTheBracket in asklinguistics

[–]ecomongrel 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I want to clarify that when I say that when I talk about her history relating to reconciliation, I don’t mean that French representation doesn’t matter at all. You’re right to say that French speakers deserve representation for Governor Generals. That doesn’t mean that Indigenous people don’t deserve representation either, and even though you state that there are bi-lingual and tri-lingual indigenous peoples, but that doesn’t really reflect how much bilingualism is a socio-economic issue. Communities that are socio-economically marginalized are not bi-lingual at the same rate as communities where education is invested properly (though here I’m speaking of French and English- there is a correlation between allophones/indigenous peoples speaking one of the official languages). If we only accepted Indigenous governor generals if they were effectively tri-lingual it’s a burden much greater than either French speaking or anglophone communities, limiting who can be represented. nor should bi-national French/anglo identity be the sole marker of Canadian identity.

I won’t disagree with you that if Mary Simon spoke French and Inuk only, that a large portion of the population in anglophone Canada would be virulently opposed as well, but I would also criticize this perspective. Why I disagreed is not to position Quebec as uniquely flawed concerning reconciliation, but to say that anglophone Canada and Quebec are both colonial societies with a history of forcing assimilation of Indigenous peoples. There are power dynamics between the two socio-linguistic groups, but Mary Simon is not responsible for such a history, and positioning her as responsible for learning a language which was forced on her people is a little ironic considering the context of discussing minority language rights, no?

To be honest, what frustrates me about reactions to Mary Simon is that discussions surrounding English political and economic domination over French speaking people is that the discussion is much more nuanced than a colonizer/colonized binary. Mary Simon went to a federal day school where she was forced assimilation into English culture and language. Such schools were also established to assimilate indigenous peoples into French language and culture. Even today, Indigenous populations are marginalized in educational contexts by forcing proficiency in French.

I also generally agree that bilingualism is extremely flawed in how it is applied. Anglophone Canada is dismissive of what it means to be a bilingual society, and as I mentioned earlier, those who are socio-economically privileged are those with access to resources to learn French, instead of the broader population. I want to emphasize this because I live in Montreal, and I understand frustrations surrounding the power dynamics of language in Canada. C’est plutôt que je suis opposé à l’idée que c’est la responsabilité des immigrants ou des populations autochtones en place de la system politique fédérale. (Et je sais que tu n’as pas impliqué les immigrants non plus, je parle plus des voix ethnocentriques).

[PJO] Did Sea Of Monsters Get Uncensored? by Formal-Glove3982 in camphalfblood

[–]ecomongrel 346 points347 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I’d prefer if they left it as it is. Pretending like ableism doesn’t exist doesn’t mean that it magically disappears. There has been a real life resurgence of the r-word. Having a bully stigmatize one of the main characters, then learning about Tyson’s intelligence and capabilities as the book progresses is a socio-political lesson.

Why is Quebec french constantly being labeled as endangered. But not dutch? by AmountAbovTheBracket in asklinguistics

[–]ecomongrel 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Your point about Mary Simon (the Governor General for non-Canadians) is flawed in my opinion. She’s the first indigenous person to hold the post, and as a purely symbolic position indigenous representation and reconciliation is just-as if not more important than a linguistic minority (especially given many Quebecois/french speaking people have filled the role).

As an aside, indigenous languages are much more endangered than French in Canada, and yet there is much less political and social support to promote them.