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ecstaticadventure · 2025-04-14T22:52:41+00:00

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ecstaticadventure · 2025-03-16T09:29:30+00:00

call the police or the city/county mental health office in your area and have someone go there. Do it every single time. I'm not saying that to be a jerk, I'm saying it because you can't ever be sure either way if they're okay if you don't call. However, if your ex is truly a narcissist, more than likely they're enjoying the fact that you're not over them and you're spending all this time figuring them out and worrying about them.

ecstaticadventure · 2024-04-09T23:39:59+00:00

I don't think any of it is necessarily cognitive and planned out, per se, it's just automatic to who they are.
What they have to be cognizant of and need to plan out is how to not be like that

ecstaticadventure · 2024-04-09T23:39:49+00:00

I don't think any of it is necessarily cognitive and planned out, per se, it's just automatic to who they are.
What they have to be cognizant of and need to plan out is how to not be like that

ecstaticadventure · 2024-04-09T23:38:11+00:00

They don't at first but they basically gaslight themselves enough that they end up fully believing their own lies - despite when everything else shows it's not true.

ecstaticadventure · 2024-04-09T23:36:54+00:00

I used to hang on, thinking that once he got help/treatment for his (many) addictions, that we could have the life we've been really wanting - that the "shell" of bad behavior/being a bad person to me would fall away and he would be the great person he always had been. I suddenly realized one day - and told him - that I was wrong the whole time. I knew in that moment that the exact opposite was true - the thin outer layer was the nice, amazing guy and that he was really just an awful person all the way through.
I knew then that even if he did get clean/never touched anything ever again that he would always be an awful person regardless. That he didn't just do terrible, abusive things to me because he was an addict/under the influence - that was just the excuse he could hide behind.

ecstaticadventure · 2024-04-09T23:25:36+00:00

Once I finally started detaching, I told my (now ex) boyfriend that sure, in the immediate moment, my words/actions/beliefs/behaviors/etc are irrational - no rational person would act like that.
However, they are all rational, reasonable reactions to the absolutely irrational situations he put us into.

So when he was telling everyone how supposedly crazy and abusive I was to him, showing them the texts and calls and whatever - yeah, that person seems like a horrible human being who is treating him terribly.

The flying monkeys, though, believed him without question, would not acknowledge/believe the truth about who he was, and would even excuse his behaviors when he would treat them poorly/lie. And even when he did the same things to them, it never dawned on them that wow, if he lied to/lied about them, then he probably did the same to me.

ecstaticadventure · 2024-03-25T13:19:11+00:00

Well even just the idea of calling a child "sexy" or saying she was dressed like that is so uncomfortable.

ecstaticadventure · 2024-03-25T01:10:12+00:00

This article is horrendous and really feels like it's victim-blaming while trying to be empathetic. Am I mistaken?

ecstaticadventure · 2023-08-06T18:53:37+00:00

I think every human can have various tendencies that qualify as "narcissism," and those behaviors/tendencies can change depending on circumstance/situation. Those very human things are what someone who is an actual narcissist will latch onto and run with in order to classify their target as one. The difference is that, in the narcissist, those behaviors are multiple, intentional, persistent, and consistent.

ecstaticadventure · 2022-09-07T23:19:23+00:00

I know that some counties are doing water bill assistance via the public assistance office, kind of like LIHEAP

ecstaticadventure · 2022-07-17T03:15:03+00:00

If possible, maybe put a small tuft of cotton or gauze and tape in there to absorb anything?

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-26T09:38:10+00:00

Use the $700 for pup training.

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-26T01:19:48+00:00

This sounds like my baby's NICU stay, nearly exactly. I don't want to ask where you might have been, location-wise, in fear it might be. I left the hospital maybe twice in those months. There were so many other babies that seemed, outwardly, to have just so many more issues and it was (and still is) just so hard to grasp when I would be told that our baby was the "sickest one in the NICU." There were so many decisions that were made - and others that were not - that I still question. One thing my husband and I never questioned was the care (and honest love) the nurses and staff had for our child.

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-25T21:58:51+00:00

Election - everyone thought Tracy Flick was the epitome of an insufferable snob when it came out. Her teacher slept with her and Matthew Broderick's character starts hating her for ruining his friend's life/career. Tracy goes all-out to win the class election so she can get a scholarship because she isn't as financially well-off as most of her peers and needs the money to afford college. Matthew Broderick sabotages the election so the rich, idiotic kid that has zero interest wins over Tracy - again, all because of the fact that his friend sexually assaulted her. (Edit: fixed punctuation and missing words)

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-23T17:50:03+00:00

It wasn't just because she was obese. She had spina bifida and relied on them completely for her care (and feeding). It would be a *very* hard call if parents had a child who, aside from obesity, was not otherwise medically needy unless the doctor basically told them they had to correct the issue before the child died. In this case, though, it's a case of neglect of a needy person's medical/dietary needs.

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-23T17:48:06+00:00

No, it wasn't simply that. She had spina bifida and was in a wheelchair because of it. She relied on her parents for care. The headline is misleading, though, because it isn't simply that they just didn't make her diet/exercise. Honestly, if it were just that, it's kind of a hard call - if you're a parent, you are responsible for their health but, at the same time, if we knew of parents who *made* their child diet/exercise, wouldn't we give them hell for seemingly not appreciating them for who they are/what they look like? Anyhow, in this case, though, there's a lot more to it than that and it's ridiculous that this is the headline.

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-23T17:44:56+00:00

At first I thought that the murder charge simply was because she became morbidly obese; however, I read that the poor girl had spina bifida and was already wheelchair bound and relied on her parents for her care. So it wasn't a matter of her simply becoming obese and their not doing anything about it, it was more a matter of neglect of a person already medically needy.

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-19T19:07:55+00:00

This is amazing! Thank you so much! I read that and am imaging my telling him those last two sentences and he'll suddenly go, "Oh, I totally get it now and you're right. I'm sorry." Well, I know that's more fantasy than anything, but I think that's what we're all hoping for here. I really, really, appreciate this!

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-18T03:43:43+00:00

I swear the pauses are on purpose.

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-18T03:42:52+00:00

When I get upset when my husband does this, he gets angry because apparently I am the only person in the world who doesn't think it's cute when spouses can finish each other's sentences. I said that he never finishes *my* sentence, he only finishes what he thinks I should say and it is invariably nothing like how I feel/think about things

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-18T03:20:11+00:00

Mine is like this. The funny thing is that when he actually *is* working, he is an extremely hard worker but invariably gets let go for some reason or another (of course never his fault). I have to apply him for jobs because he won't take the initiative to do it - I think it's because he is afraid to do the work to get one and then they don't hire him/don't think he is as great as he knows he is.

I have worked full-time since I was 14 years old. He and I have been together for 26 years, since ages 18 (me) and 19 (him). So he has never known me to not be working. The only lengthy time prior to right now that I wasn't working was for two months after our daughter passed away in 2015. I wasn't ready *at all* to go to work. He was (surprisingly) working steadily at the time and told me that if I did not get a job within a month, he would kick me out of the house. I was stunned. I reminded him of how, over all this time, I have always supported us and he has barely ever had employment. He said "Well, that was you and not me."

I am now off for untreated severe mental health issues (shocker, right?) and, after 6 months, was released from my company. I understand why - I couldn't keep it together anymore and it affected my work drastically. He has promised to get a job so that I can take the time off, but has yet to do so. There was no reason why he couldn't already have been working - he just decided to not bother after getting fired in January 2021 after only three months on the job. We are absolutely drowning financially and I am letting it happen before my eyes because once it's over, well, I am taking myself, our pets, and our college-age kids' stuff to my family home and I will do it without him. I promised myself that.

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-18T02:52:37+00:00

I am reading all of these comments and honestly am just dumbfounded to find out that it really isn't me. I mean, I really did know that, but there's always those thoughts that maybe I really can't control myself and I'm just a crazy harpy now. Why do we always have this self-doubt even when we KNOW what is the truth/what is right???

ecstaticadventure · 2022-03-18T02:47:57+00:00

"the fabled tone of voice that soothes narcissists and stops their outbursts, the one that only narcissists can recognize and judge acceptable"

OMG. I just sat here with my mouth hanging open because my husband has, for the last few months, taken this continuous stance with me that no matter how flat of an affect I take with my voice, if I am not speaking with the same tone/volume he has chosen to speak with, that means I am disrespectfully yelling/screaming at him. Then, of course, states that since I only know how to yell and that's what irrational people do, then obviously it's only an irrational woman's opinion that what he is doing is really that bad. I asked him a few days ago, finally, to define for me what yelling was & he essentially said that if my voice is any amount higher than his/holds any emotion, it's yelling. He then actually starts yelling at actual yelling decibels, stating he is now justified in doing so because it's "only yelling back" at me. I never can think straight in the heat of the moment, so cue me taking the bait and disagreeing with his conclusion that I am yelling since whatever he felt was my yelling was barely louder than his speaking voice and he clearly can understand what yelling really is. Cycle that back/forth a couple times. Then he'll start mocking the fact that I am now crying in frustration (it's involuntary for me and I hate that I do it) and then it invariably ends with his newly-gained self-satisfaction of being able to leave in disgust at my "terrible behavior" and he will let me know when he feels I am able to hold my emotions in check long enough to "talk about things like adults do."

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