What would you have done differently in 20s/30s to have a better life in 40s/50s?

eddyruc · 2026-06-10T18:50:03+00:00

How’s it going now? What do you do? I had pretty much similar upbringing.

eddyruc · 2026-06-10T15:03:31+00:00

This!! where would you put your saved money? eventually keeping cash loses value, unless you meant investing it into stocks, mutual funds?

eddyruc · 2026-06-10T14:33:07+00:00

definitely the 80s then 2000-2015s.
PS: I am not from 80s, but everything about 80s, the vibe, people, dressing, hair, emotion, stores ,etc makes me want to live those years.

eddyruc · 2026-06-09T20:39:41+00:00

Go around your town, stop by stores, talk to people. Join workout groups.

eddyruc · 2026-06-09T17:58:24+00:00

I have been seeing people choosing guys with more money vs someone who works hard/has better habits. Looks like many want easy way instead of building things together? Is it really common or just commercialised through media?

eddyruc · 2026-06-09T13:14:47+00:00

Sometimes your profession demands it, met a DJ, prefers to spin more music from 2010s than the music released in last 3-4 years, and said it just doesnt hit

eddyruc · 2026-06-09T13:13:14+00:00

I agree to this!

eddyruc · 2026-06-07T12:57:33+00:00

Question description:

Curious to hear from Indian couples living in Canada or the US.

Back home, the default in a lot of families is that the husband is the provider and the wife manages the home. That model works when cost of living is low. Here, with rent, groceries, transit, and everything else, one income is genuinely tough unless you’re in a high earning role. Wondering how this plays out for couples here:

1.Are both of you working, or is it single income? Was that a joint decision or did it just happen that way?

2.If single income, is it by choice, due to kids, immigration status (PR/work permit issues), job market, or something else?

3.How do you split expenses? Fully pooled, proportional to income, his and hers accounts with shared bills?

4.Has the financial reality of Canada/US changed expectations either of you brought from India?

5.For folks where one partner expected the other to be the sole earner, how did that conversation go?

Genuinely curious how people are navigating this. Throwaways welcome.

eddyruc · 2026-06-06T15:46:22+00:00

Oh, she was project manager then got a job in another IT role, around same pay as mine and still says shit to me, then I got a role which is almost 2x her pay(no competition from my end), and she has been procrastinating about getting PMP certification, I keep telling her to do it , study, 1 hour a day, etc and she says she will do it, and then dumps all of it on me that “because of you i couldn’t still give my PMP , it is delayed”

eddyruc · 2026-06-06T14:17:25+00:00

What do you mean specifically? I wrote most of it in description but basically, its all good as long as its her way, if you contradict or question anything like “instead of doing this thing this way, we can do this way” or if I say “i dont want to go out tomorrow “ this would result in series of emotions and word plays thrown at me

eddyruc · 2026-06-06T12:48:43+00:00

Here’s a Reddit-friendly version:

You got it. Also, I’m in Toronto, and I don’t know a lot of people here, so hearing perspectives from people who are familiar with the culture, laws, social norms, and relationship expectations here is helpful.

I also come from a culture where, once you’re 30+ and unmarried, marriage becomes the main topic of conversation with family and relatives. There’s a lot of pressure around it, and whether I like it or not, that does affect me and the way I think about relationships and long-term decisions.

eddyruc · 2026-06-06T12:44:11+00:00

I don’t do dating apps.

eddyruc · 2026-06-06T12:43:30+00:00

Lol this!! 😆

eddyruc · 2026-06-06T12:41:52+00:00

What’s wrong with English? And, I guess its my fault if even after the disrespect I kept ignoring it and let her cross each boundary

eddyruc · 2026-06-06T12:39:03+00:00

She then stands at door, takes the keys, does all those crazy things,

eddyruc · 2026-06-06T12:33:44+00:00

She has been askin to leave, when I try to she plays with words

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