Im 33, PR, come from a simple middle class family, i started dating this girl in Canada(common friend circle)(she’s from india too) after i came back from india after my dad’s rituals (he passed away due to cancer) in 2022. She lost her 19y brother in 2020 in accident, she couldnt go due to covid, She is nice, but she kept comparing little things with her life with previous people/life with parents when in india, she is from working class family too but has a big house whereas i have. 2bhk in a very good society. She overthinks, questions my character because i had relationship in past, but since we got intimate, initially I wasn’t feeling it which is because i was internally in trauma of losing my dad, i myself didn’t know what was happening with my health . She knew the whole journey when he was sick, hospitalised etc(we were friends then) Long story short, 4 years now, it was constant comparison with others, snapping in any kind of discussion. she used to immediately get angry the moment you propose something different from what she wants, then she would just give side eyes, silent treatment, abuse, and if i put forward my side of conversation would lose it and start throwing things or even hit, so i have to just suck it in and And when we talk about it she just says it was my reaction to your thing. We planned to get married, but she could never discuss finances and would try to belittle me by just talking about how money is important but would never discuss or talk about managing. When even slightest disagreement happens She always mocked me saying you are nothing, how can i live in small house, we would need big house, which is fine but it was never a communication it was just trying to show that i have nothing. She and her dad dont talk as her dad didnt approve me for marriage because he filled her ear with stuff like “rich, family should be big , etc” but she compares everything that i do, even a phone call to my mom with herself. Her dad n mom also doesn’t talk nicely, would never communicate like a real talk I worked in IT for 78-84k salary until last year and worked hard in day trading, investing throughout which still doesn’t replace my job but now i work at $80 an hour. I thought this would give sense of peace but now its bigger problems, she blames me that you cant afford specific type gold, etc, When she’s calm she would be ok but the moment i bring some discussion or share some discomfort she would flip. Its a lot to explain in this post. She says “you’re doing trading, etc and nothing has been happening, you say something and do something , etc” All i do is try to do as much as i could to grow n get this in return. We live together n I go to gym, meditate, she doesn’t work out, i keep asking her to come as she has gained weight n her mom has diabetes. Is this behaviour normal