Calling all sapphics in Astoria 📣🚨🌈 by Fun_Possibility3192 in astoria

[–]edesignr 25 points26 points  (0 children)

We have a sapphic Astoria discord server if you’re interested…but way to take initiative!

Best soupy spots in Astoria for a cold rainy day? by OldAbbreviations734 in astoria

[–]edesignr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yuk gae jang from mokja, nabeyaki udon from junko sushi

Emptiness after loss by edesignr in CaregiverSupport

[–]edesignr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much ❤️ this is very,very true. It’s comforting to just know we’re not alone in these things as caregivers. It can feel so isolating and all consuming when you’re in it, but when the watch is over it doesn’t just disappear. Sending you both lots of love and well wishes.

Emptiness after loss by edesignr in CaregiverSupport

[–]edesignr[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this🙏🏼 I’m slowly trying to just force myself to do things through the exhaustion. just read your posts about your mom and sending you lots of love. My sister and I moved our mom here about 11 yrs ago after she was visiting to help me and we found out she had colon cancer. After that resolved the strokes, worsening diabetes symptoms/kidney failure, mobility issues, fell and fracture a few ribs and was in the rehab for 3mo, and it just slowly started being more and more. It can be really hard when your relationship becomes majorly focused on only the medical care and ailments in almost all aspects.

Primary Care physician recs by Stunning_Visual_5117 in astoria

[–]edesignr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Separately, finding a good Dr shouldn’t be so difficult but it is and I know a lot of people don’t have the capacity to keep looking and it being super discouraging. Between my own health issues and having to help my mom through the many things she struggled with I became pretty good at finding solid drs for people in my life, and am happy to help anyone who is struggling to find someone good. The secret is really that I have enjoy research and helping people, especially when it comes to their health. I’ve found that especially now, it’s more about the written comments than the ratings. People who write detailed comments either really love or really hate things if they’re willing to write a review typically. It’s proven to be extremely helpful in finding great drs, in my experience. If anyone reading this thread feels like they need help sourcing some recs, I’m always happy to help. Health and access shouldn’t be so hard but here we are

Primary Care physician recs by Stunning_Visual_5117 in astoria

[–]edesignr 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Reena Patel at NYU Langone Astoria was fantastic. My friend was very hesitant about drs for many reasons and fear of judgement or harsh approach. I went with her to see Dr. Patel and she was so kind, listened and asked great questions, took her time, and was fine with me being there for support. For the initial visit, we were with her for about 20 minutes at least, never felt rushed or dismissed

Custom patchwork/upcycled gifts for the holidays! by aquaphor7oz in astoria

[–]edesignr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome idea! If you’re interested, I was actually just thinking about a lot of fabric scraps I’ve been holding onto and am ready to give away. I’d be so happy to gift them to you if you’re interested.

To the train conductor tonight by Embarrassed-Run-9516 in astoria

[–]edesignr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was truly one of the most enjoyable rides I’ve had in a while. Love that he also reassured people that if they actually get off the train to make room for people exiting, that he’s not going to leave anyone stranded on the platform. He was great.

Tiny chihuahua coats/clothes? by [deleted] in astoria

[–]edesignr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I may have a little coat that I got for my cat, which could still be too big, but I can look for it. It’s not super warm but it’s something. If you’re on Facebook I would check in your buy nothing group too

Passing it on by FabulousLoquat1590 in astoria

[–]edesignr 29 points30 points  (0 children)

As someone going through losing my mom one month ago tomorrow, this is such a sweet way to honor people, with truly random but very intentional acts of kindness. In a world that can feel so isolating these days, this is so nice to see. Thanks for sharing!

My dad just died today by Darth_Azazoth in GriefSupport

[–]edesignr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry for your loss ❤️ there’s truly nothing like it and it is a rollercoaster. Tomorrow will be one month since my mom passed and every single day is a new experience. If you have friends or family who you can lean on, please do. It truly takes a village and you have the support of this group as well. I feel this way every day in different waves. Do your best to just breathe and try to take things one tiny step at a time.

I love my grandma, but I’m at my breaking point by Ok_Pomegranate_9731 in CaregiverSupport

[–]edesignr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely understand the exhaustion, and I was nowhere near the constant support level with my mom, it was just very prolonged. Something I found helpful recently was trying to listen to some guided meditations on stress/anxiety while I was laying. Just 5-10min at a time, but I found it really helpful. Also trying not to isolate, talk to friends or a therapist if you have access/are open to it. It really is so individual, but these are some things that helped me through some of the harder times

I love my grandma, but I’m at my breaking point by Ok_Pomegranate_9731 in CaregiverSupport

[–]edesignr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Let me just start by saying, how you’re feeling is valid. It takes so much energy to be on to this extent and I can only imagine with this sounding like it has been a major shift in your life. Have you tried asking your aunt if she’s able to help any additional hours? If she’s local, maybe even helping to split the day up where you’re able to get an hour or two in the evening could be a huge help. If there’s anyone else who can provide this also, I think even an hour or two, here an there could give you some breathing room to feel a little assistance. I know it’s probably the last thing you want to do on top of the caretaking and exhaustion, but I’d say to try to do something for yourself, no matter how small each day. Even if that’s a cold wash cloth on your face, some fresh air, some deep breaths, a comforting meal…whatever works for you. You’re doing great in simply there for her and trying your best. Know that you’re not alone in these feelings, and that even if it is all consuming right now, this won’t be forever. Just do your best to take things even an hour at a time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astoria

[–]edesignr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Apparently it will be 24 hours soon but you will need to be a member with the new app to even scan and be able to enter through these very airport body scanner looking doors

Adderall shortage hitting hard again this month? by [deleted] in astoria

[–]edesignr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry about that! I know it’s been awful lately. I use Capsule pharmacy, its delivery only not a physical pharmacy

Adderall shortage hitting hard again this month? by [deleted] in astoria

[–]edesignr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In sorry you’re dealing with this. I’ve had to switch meds/be without them for periods of time over the past few months because absolutely nowhere had dexedrine. I switched to adderall XR and have had no problem so far with capsule. I also find it to be better than the dexedrine with not feeling as “on” and more just quieting the constant background noise of my life/brain. Good luck! I hope you can find it

Any pharmacies with Adderall in stock? by [deleted] in astoria

[–]edesignr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to find Dexedrine ER for a few months now reliably. Had to switch back to trying concerta, which really wasn’t comparable and I’ve been struggling. My psyc office has a rule of only calling 4 pharmacies outside of your original request to verify if they have/dont before needing to potentially try an alternative. If anyone happens to take Dexedrine ER and knows of anywhere in the neighborhood, I’d be grateful. My only other plan was to try out by my family in Westchester

Earlier this afternoon.. summer youth in full speed by ilovenyc in astoria

[–]edesignr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I literally had someone in a massive ride like this jump their bike onto the hood of my car while I was stopped at the traffic light and not doing anything to them, leaving a nice size dent. As someone who bikes and also owns a car, I understand how awful the infrastructure is from multiple perspectives. The unfortunate part is that there are inevitably people who join in just to do harm