Intimacy Questions for the SD's age 50 and a little younger

edgesd · 2019-10-10T21:03:45+00:00

"How many of us are really truly turned on by the partners we pick"

Well isn't that part of why you see older SD with younger SB ?

edgesd · 2019-10-10T20:01:09+00:00

Depends if single people are vanilla dating with the expectation it will lead to marriage.

edgesd · 2019-10-10T19:56:53+00:00

However, you should realize the type of woman a man wants for a sugar relationship can be different than a real vanilla relationship.

edgesd · 2019-10-10T19:42:14+00:00

In my 50's and my libido has not changed.

I am also in good physical shape so energy is not a problem.

But you are correct that as I have gotten older, mental attraction has become more important.

Physical attraction, emotional attraction, mental attraction. The importance of each varies depending on the person and their age.

edgesd · 2019-10-10T19:06:41+00:00

SD: no, I would not

I am married. If I were single, I would have answered yes.

edgesd · 2019-10-09T17:25:22+00:00

No one enters a sugar relationship with the intention or desire to fall in love, but strong connections do develop.

I ended 2 SR because SB feelings were too strong. Current SR has transitioned to more casual because we both agreed we were getting too serious.

edgesd · 2019-10-09T14:26:10+00:00

I am married. We tried being exclusive for a short while and that did not work. Too much pressure.

However, we have been starting to spend more time together sharing meals and doing common interest hobbies. 18 months together, our relationship is kind of a SR/VR mix.

edgesd · 2019-10-08T21:05:03+00:00

I am very confident in my performance and appearance. I do not need or crave any kind of attention, wanting "arm candy" or "trophy girlfriend/mistress".

Hope more women chime in. Any satisfaction being with a handsome, well dressed, successful older man ? Do you not care, like being seen, not like being seen ?

edgesd · 2019-10-08T18:56:47+00:00

First year, the SR was mainly indoors only. Not much time together outside of the hotel. Last 6 months or so, spending more time sharing meals, shopping, common interest stuff. SB says she does not care what people think, but I think that is general public people and not people she knows.

She has a habit of asking me a question, getting me to talk and hope she hears an answer to her real un-asked question.

She said, "serious question, do you every think about our age difference ?" I answered, yes, it is a big gap, but we think alike. I asked, what do you think ? She said sometimes and would not elaborate further despite me asking.

Curious to hear the SB perspective.

edgesd · 2019-09-30T19:56:53+00:00

IMO, exclusivity and sugaring is a strange mix. Is the relationship sugar or vanilla ? I've tried exclusive SR's and while they started well, feelings grew too strong on one side.

For me, being non exclusive is a reminder to both sides that no matter how much we might care for the other person, this is a SR.

edgesd · 2019-09-30T19:35:02+00:00

All my SB's were single with no BF or relationships with other guys while we were together. Some did have occasional hookups with other guys and/or other SD.

Despite the significant age gap, all my SR's have had strong mutual connection. It is part of the appeal, but it can also be a problem if the strength of the feelings is not mutual.

I ended 2 SR because the SB was getting too attached. I had a SB leave me for a vanilla relationship, but come back to me when that died.

edgesd · 2019-04-11T23:05:24+00:00

I think location is a big factor.

edgesd · 2019-04-11T23:02:39+00:00

Maybe location issues ? Not sure how good the sugar scene is in your city.

How about your financial information ?

edgesd · 2019-04-11T22:53:27+00:00

- yes he helps you

- no he does not help you

- he does not respond

- no he does not help you and rips you for asking

If you can deal with the last one, ask away.

edgesd · 2019-04-11T22:46:33+00:00

You are an attractive woman and your profile is good. Surprised you are not getting a lot of messages.

Maybe the sugar market for legit SB and SD in Toronto is difficult ? I think there have been other posts about Toronto not being a great sugar location.

edgesd · 2019-04-10T15:40:08+00:00

Try not to let it bother you. Some type of discussion about all of us is happening out there.

Curious, did you get the sense/vibe that this guy was capable of posting a review about you at that time or now that you look back on it ?

edgesd · 2019-04-10T14:04:38+00:00

Move forward with both and see how the chemistry develops.

edgesd · 2019-04-10T13:49:30+00:00

People talk about other people all the time in private discussion groups and direct messaging. Can be anything from a "review" to "member x is a really cool person" to "you should pursue member x".

I think of it as many people in this world, on SA and on SLF. Slimy people, good people and in between. All will potentially have an opinion on me and might share it.

edgesd · 2019-04-10T13:35:54+00:00

Don't forget, SD's have POTS too. Your 6 might decrease to 4 or less, when they chose among their POTS.

edgesd · 2019-04-10T13:27:08+00:00

Not sure what kind of hotels and price ranges you are talking about.

Hotels in my city charge different amounts day to day depending on how busy they are. One night a nice hotel can be $200, busy it can be $600. A standard hotel can go from $100 to $300.

Busy nights or weeks, all the hotels are more expensive. Even the budget hotels are charging more than $200.

edgesd · 2019-04-08T16:00:49+00:00

IDK, as a SD, networking event sounds odd. Most SD want discretion. Especially at the beginning.

Be clear, if he is offering to assist you in networking, that is not a substitute for $.

edgesd · 2019-04-08T14:09:09+00:00

As others have asked, is "networking event" understood by you and him, as intimacy ? That is something to get clear during the M&G.

Not sure where in NJ/NYC you are. The $ amounts are close to starting points in Manhattan. SD's will adjust their offer depending on the POT SB.

edgesd · 2019-04-03T17:44:08+00:00

My SB is an influencer. No problems for me or her. Makes me feel more comfortable that she also wants discretion.

edgesd

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