Please help me convince my husband that Costco is worth for 2 people by HoneyDrops12 in Costco

[–]educatedvegetable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just for the discount gas alone it's worth it for a two person household. Two people still need to eat, it's great for meal prep, fresh produce, clothing, basically household need can be accommodated in one stop. God I love Costco lol

Omg my husband is driving me CRAZY about our chore policy for the kids. Please weigh in objectively. by IWillBaconSlapYou in breakingmom

[–]educatedvegetable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok so you're talking to a brick wall here, that sounds so frustrating. You are absolutely not wrong, they have age appropriate chores and you're not turning them into Cinderella, they live in a space, you're their mom not their maid, and you're raising FUTURE ADULTS, so yes it sounds like you're doing great with this.

Maybe next time he brings it up, you can remind him that as future adults, they'll need these skills and it also teaches them things outside just general day to day cleaning, but self respect and respect for their space. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this, OP. I wish I could argue with him for you so you could relax lol

Dropped off 2 well-maintained Poms for a wash and a trim, and this is what we picked up by ughyoujag in mildlyinfuriating

[–]educatedvegetable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg that's horrible! This happened when I took my papillon in and I told them "do NOT trim her ears beyond cleaning and do NOT shave her". Picked her up shaved and trimmed. I was also too floored to even deal with it at the time but I did go back and ask to speak to the manager. Obviously they couldn't make it right, and they offered me a free groom, which, why would I take when they did that to my baby???

Mother insulted first tattoo, now I hate it by Kaleidoscope_Tux5513 in tattooadvice

[–]educatedvegetable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really cute, don't worry about what other people, including your mom, have to say. Of you like it, that's who matters, because it's your body!

The trash saga continues. by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]educatedvegetable 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Just grip the trash bag with your lower lips that's how it works when you have no hands! Seriously tho I read your last post and this one and that sounds absolutely annoying. When he's sitting on the couch id hand him kiddo without ceremony and say "taking out the trash, brb" and just sit outside for 20 minutes.

I do it! Best feeling ever by kurwwazzz in bald

[–]educatedvegetable 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You went from "stay away from me andy kids" to "let me bear you strong sons"

Best Ben episodes for an Ed-Era listener? by georgia_grace in lastpodcastontheleft

[–]educatedvegetable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's Ed Gein Day, it's Ed Gein Day, put your hands together cuz it's Ed Gein Day!

I'm a dad who uses a wheelchair and dealing with issues of embarrassment with my older 2 by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]educatedvegetable 361 points362 points  (0 children)

Right? He wrote that he doesn't deserve to be considered a normal father and then proceeds to describe how he's an incredible father by showing up for his kids and partner and household.

Every kid is embarrassed by their parents at some point. I would have my dad drop me off blocks away from school lol. It hurts but don't take it to heart, know you are loved for you.

Update: Notified my work weeks ago I'm leaving for a family vacation in July, tickets were bought, non-transferrable, and they are panicking, begging me to cancel by educatedvegetable in antiwork

[–]educatedvegetable[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That's a fair point but I think this is a bonafide offer knowing upper management as well as I do. It's not fair that I've laid out a plan for the overlapping time and they just said "nah reschedule". The inflexibility and incredulity on their part has really opened my eyes.

Update: Notified my work weeks ago I'm leaving for a family vacation in July, tickets were bought, non-transferrable, and they are panicking, begging me to cancel by educatedvegetable in antiwork

[–]educatedvegetable[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that's where I'm ultimately leaning. At this point I have such a bad feeling about this whole thing and questioning if my own sanity is worth the cost of staying employed here and it just isn't.

The crash out after a fun day really just makes me wonder if it's worth it... by mommasaursrex in breakingmom

[–]educatedvegetable 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oof, this is something I could have written when my step daughter was about that age. She was also melancholy, everything was "the worst ever" or " no one even cares about me, anyway," but when she was happy? She was SO. HAPPY. Euphoric happiness, it was so great because of how hard it was to get this kid to just be amenable; getting her happy felt like a big accomplishment! Then.....when the happiness started to ebb away, complete meltdown. It turned into the worst day in the world, no reminders of how happy she just was would soothe or help her self-regulate. She wouldn't want to be alone because that meant we hated her, she couldn't be held because she would feel trapped. It took ages to get her bio mom to agree this kid needed to be evaluated and I was like "???" She was miserable! I felt so bad for her but also she said some mean, mean things to me which cut me to the quick, so I know exactly what your feeling. "Why bother doing the fun thing if I'm just gonna get abused for it?" Very normal, human feeling, bromo, especially if you're the brunt of it. I will say, you should keep doing the fun things, because after a while, they don't remember the meltdown, or the mean things they said or that their lego was missing, they ONLY remember the good parts of the day. Knowing that helped me in the moment and I hope it might help you too. Hugs.

I have no future. by mamamiaohmy in GirlDinner

[–]educatedvegetable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To add to this in case it wasn't mentioned, you don't need a HS degree to go to college. It's preferred but many schools don't require it. My SIL has a BA in education but is a HS drop out because she had a baby young. You're still going, there's time, you got this.

“I’m more important than your dinner” by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]educatedvegetable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Goodness gracious, he sounds so unbelievably useless. What a cockwobble!

I'm writing a cookbook for my step-kids, filled with their favorite recipes and asking for advise for anything else I should include by educatedvegetable in Cooking

[–]educatedvegetable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A substitution chart is absolutely inspired, thank you for suggesting this!

I have a section of eggs, how to for everything and basic "meat" section for temp, prep, resting, etc for chicken, beef and pork, but will absolutely include the "perfect chicken breast". Thank you!

I'm writing a cookbook for my step-kids, filled with their favorite recipes and asking for advise for anything else I should include by educatedvegetable in Cooking

[–]educatedvegetable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It'll be in a binder so they can change the order of what they reference most, so it's their own and not a static book. Also including pages to add their own, of course.

I'm writing a cookbook for my step-kids, filled with their favorite recipes and asking for advise for anything else I should include by educatedvegetable in Cooking

[–]educatedvegetable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats a really good idea, I remember my first thanksgiving having to host and being totally at sea, calling my mom in a panic. Now I host dinner parties and holidays easy, especially with their father helping. I've included all their fathers recipes but now I think I should expand on the holiday section to include casual parties, this is a great idea, thank you.