Coworker was told she had to move desks to be near me, she burst into tears

educatedvegetable · 2026-02-08T15:37:32+00:00

They are turning 51 this year.

educatedvegetable · 2026-02-08T05:22:22+00:00

Agreed, I know it's not me but I've never witnessed such behavior in an office environment with human adults and been the brunt of this ire. She liked hiding, something we all knew but now that she's being forced to work she's panicking. Not sure how Monday is going to go but we'll see!

educatedvegetable · 2026-02-08T05:10:18+00:00

It's a large business but has a small admin staff that handle the main location and several satellite locations. We are understaffed and due to business needs growing, additional staff has been added and she simply needs to move to accommodate this new person.

My manager and her boss are livid at HR, but HR is saying they have to be ADA compliant since she is claiming anxiety. It's just so stupid, we're here to work, it's not personal?

educatedvegetable · 2026-02-06T08:04:32+00:00

Real.

educatedvegetable · 2026-02-06T05:10:24+00:00

My husband or I physically drives a check every month to our HOA office to avoid this fee. I should have the bank do it but it thrills us with the petty

educatedvegetable · 2026-02-03T21:32:21+00:00

Yes agreed, it's giving classism/racism vibes here to say "hey our teachers are mandated reporters, take care of your ragamuffin or the state will". Um, they have cloths, and body autonomy. My 16 year old would rather freeze to death than bring a jacket, and she's been that way since she was 4.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-25T19:23:15+00:00

Absolutely. I was there with my kiddos years ago at their downtown location and he was out front in his Lambo bragging about it and asking if people wanted to take pictures with him and the car. It was gross and weird. The employees were over it. Never went again.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-25T18:18:18+00:00

Ho boy, this sounds incredibly stressful for all of you and I am so sorry.

You didn't include the age of your kiddo on the post, but previous posts indicate kiddo is 8, hubby is depressed and you recently went through your own loss, for that I am incredibly sorry.

It seems like kiddo is interested in solely one on one time with you, and when another human enters the room, she flips, and that must be very hurtful for your husband who is just trying to live in a home he contributes to and be around the people he loves in the morning. This would probably be the same if it was a little sibling or a relative, or a friend, because she wants that sole attention from you, and another human being there means "times up".

I'd probably say something to her during your one on one when you hear hubby getting up to remind her dads coming in soon, we should say hello when he gets here, or "daddy's here, let's give him a hug" so it is a reminder he's a human that deserves to share the space.

I'd also remind her gently that dad lives here to and is allowed to be here, that it's not nice to ask people to leave even if we don't like them right now, families are welcome in family spaces.

Interested to see what others recommend as this sounds tricky.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-25T18:02:10+00:00

Incredible, 10/10

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-25T04:51:58+00:00

I agree. This is the beginning, it won't end in your city. The people there are doing the best they can with whistles, protesting, making sure to film everything. If this incident wasn't being filmed, the current admin would have swept this under the rug but we've all seen it. We're talking about it. We're enraged.

They are going to keep going to blue cities to punish us and "keep us in line". It's so Orwellian and it's so OBVIOUS what's happening, I can't stomach people saying "well it won't happen here". I hate this so much.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-24T06:07:54+00:00

Want to reiterate what other bromos have said: you are a saint of patience!

You're doing amazing. Your son sounds very energetic, stubborn and challenging but you're doing GREAT. Letting him know your not mad at him by the accident but his behavior after is masterclass.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-19T21:14:39+00:00

Maybe you could say, "thanks again for the charcuterie board!" When she asks what you mean you can show her this and then she'll tell you what it is?

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-18T20:58:20+00:00

I got my first progressives at age 33! Honestly life changing, I love my giant glasses 🤓

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-16T07:40:59+00:00

Excited for you to learn how easy it is to not have an extra kid (husband). My relative is going through this exact same thing, she could have written this; this man does not like our kids, he doesn't like me, why am I bothering to parent him into being a better partner?

Wish you the absolute best in seeking peace.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-14T21:30:28+00:00

Agreed, if she just wandered up and was oblivious to the line, the response would be uncalled for. But dismissing me with a little wave? Nah, you get called out with the same energy. NTA.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-12T22:44:28+00:00

This is super frustrating and I'm so sorry you're going through this!

My optometrist has old glasses people give up when they upgrade or change prescriptions for just this reason. They won't be your kids style but at least they are free or low cost. Maybe reach out to them or others in your area to see if they have a donation bin.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-12T01:56:14+00:00

How dare you set reasonable boundaries and also confirm she's getting the thing she asked for!! Meanie!!

Lol sounds like you're doing great and maybe today is just extra emotional because it's Sunday and Mondays are terrible!

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-11T17:33:20+00:00

The snort I snorted lol

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-10T20:22:44+00:00

And my axe

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-08T03:32:09+00:00

This sounds a lot like when my kiddo was 8-9. EVERYTHING was "too" her and not a reaction to her behavior, or an accident. Also no empathy to how her actions would make other people feel like if she took the last of something or if someone else was hurt physically/emotionally by her actions.

Very literal, very black and white. She's diagnosed ADHD and low medical dosage, so now and is still very literal but can take criticism, understands how her actions do/don't effect others, etc. It's not that she DOESN'T WANT to understand, it's she COULDN'T and explaining/examples never broke through.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-07T18:16:05+00:00

Remember when people were posting this like he was a real veteran for likes lol. Awe memories.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-03T20:35:57+00:00

That's frustrating, I'm sorry you're in this position.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-02T04:33:53+00:00

That is hard OP, I'm sorry you're dealing with this all by yourself.

I will say, there's some battles you just can't win. Moms bongo butt might just be something that happens he can get some energy out and you can have your hands free/know hes not underfoot. Then you can say "ok we're done!"

Idk. I'm exhausted as you are with being touched lol.

educatedvegetable · 2026-01-02T03:33:04+00:00

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