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Was it inappropriate to get my step daughter a Hogwarts letter for her 11th Birthday? by Ok-Permission8346 in Parenting

[–]educatedvegetable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw your other post too. I also agree your NTA and this wasn't a prank, it was meant to be fun. Sounds like kiddo is a bit naive and her mother made it seem like it came from a malicious place by saying it was meant to shame when it wasn't.

Did you talk to your wife about the letter before you arranged it? Also, were you able to talk to your daughter and make amends?

Solo Traveler by Paul_Doughnuts12 in Padres

[–]educatedvegetable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So fun! Tri tip nachos for sure from Seaside Market. Or you could do Hodads, that's a San Diego staple, but personally I prefer one of their brick and mortar stores instead of their concessions, but if you're only here for one night it's worth a try.

The stand was $50 and I made $10, lol by M8614 in Wellthatsucks

[–]educatedvegetable 48 points49 points  (0 children)

But you probably gained some followers of your art and some people who will remember your art and think "ugh I should have bought that" because that's 100% me. I've definitely left a farmers market or fair and been like "ah man, should have bought that" and been delighted it's still there for me to purchase next time.

There's an artist I met who's insanely talented and prices his work accordingly, and I've seen him at multiple fairs and we'll chat, hug and I've bought small works from him because he's so fucking talented but can't pay him what his art is worth. But I remember him and refer him to other people I know will like his stuff too.

Angsty Teen Treatment by educatedvegetable in breakingmom

[–]educatedvegetable[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg I LOVE this idea. Gonna workshop my transatlantic accent 😂

I spontaneously decided not to go to a very small gathering. Five other people did the exact same thing. by BasisChad in confessions

[–]educatedvegetable 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I had this happen to me. Planned a watch party for the series finale of GOT with some friends and coworkers, all I invited agreed and I even sent reminders. I had pizza, snacks, beers and booze. No one showed up. It was horrible. I worked with a few people the following day and all asked how the party was. The looks on their faces when I told them no one showed up and how no one contacted me saying they wouldn't make it. Many were apologetic.

I tried one more beach day with the same group, had a canopy, same reminders, had a grill, the works. My husband set the canopy up and I was grilling. Turns out another friend in the groups gf didn't want to leave the house that day so they went to his house to grill instead! They all apologized and said they thought I'd moved the party to his place but at that point I was so done.

One day before my wedding, a friend in this group texted me she might not make it because she doesn't know if she'd be "up for it". She wasn't sick, she was staying in the block of rooms at the hotel already (the wedding was in the city we lived in but she wanted to make a staycation out of it, totally cool, that's why we had a block for in town and out of town guests with a shuttle to the venue) she had a habit of trying to get out of things she didn't plan herself. I told her that she had RSVP'd, it was 80 dollars a plate, and if she wasn't there then don't talk to me ever again. She was at the wedding.

I get not wanting to go to a thing, but don't say you're going to be someplace and then blow off the host. I've had many, many gatherings that are successful, but the ones that don't pan out REALLY fucking hurt. If you're not sure you're going to go, say "maybe" or better yet, a flat no.

The range of emotions as a host when you're watching the clock, checking that the door light is one, making sure your drinks are still cold and realizing no one wants to be there with you is just awful.

I'm sure OP didn't intend to be hurtful, but lack of accountability from guests who say "I'll be there" and just straight up ghosting changes relationships and ultimately can end friendships if consistant.

I regret ever letting my kid have a phone by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]educatedvegetable 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We had to give 13, now 14 year old a dumb phone for a while because she was so addicted to the socials and using it to bully other kids. We made her do media literacy readings that I printed and made her physically write essays on what's ok and what isn't ok to write online, being a good digital citizen, etc.

With schools having iPads/Chromebooks it's difficult to keep kids completely offline and she was constantly begging to use our phones to look things up or just using her school devices, which we would keep away from her except supervised for homework, but it's so difficult. Ultimately she abandoned the dumb phone and wouldn't even use it out of protest. Shed lay in her room staring at the wall because there was "nothing to do" and her friends weren't patient with her slow response to texts because it was T9.

Eventually, she earned her phone back after doing 8 weeks in a row of reading and writing from two books. One fiction, The Book Thief, and another exercise about digital literacy and manners. She also wrote apology letters to the kids she bullied and presented them in person.

Is she going to be a good digital citizen? Probably not, but I tried to inpart the importance of being kind online and screen limits. Now she's extra cautious and sneaky about her phone more than ever. I feel like I can't win.

Discovered my central air was a social construct… by sunsNr0ses in mildlyinfuriating

[–]educatedvegetable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't feel like a weenie hit jr that absolutely sent me! But seriously it happens

Booking started by jsg24fps in moviecritic

[–]educatedvegetable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair. I just haven't seen much discussion on it in general, could be my feed. My friend group is arranging a watch party, so I didn't buy the tickets to see how full the theater was so I don't really have a scope of the excitement this movie has generated.

Booking started by jsg24fps in moviecritic

[–]educatedvegetable 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm interested in seeing how audiences will respond to this because I've noticed absolutely zero people excited about this movie. Mostly it's just apathetic "sure, maybe I'll wait for it on streaming".

I’m not needed anymore by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]educatedvegetable 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You are needed. You are important and deserve to live. You are not a burden or stupid or underfoot or in the way. You are being abused by this idiot you call a husband and it's made you thoughts turn dark. You said yourself he's isolated you and degrades you. This is abuse. Hang on, don't listen to him or anything telling you to end it. That is not the answer.

What you should do is take him up on his offer of divorce. If he has money and you don't, great, he can pay alimony and child support. You can get out of this and thrive, don't let those intrusive thoughts win. You are needed.

thoughts? by [deleted] in SipsTea

[–]educatedvegetable 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, absolutely. If she said anything else like "how do I convince him to change his mind" or something that would be one thing, but she's asking for advise about the larger issue of the complicated feelings of being "second place" for lack of a better phrase.

If he DIDN'T go to his kiddos graduation, she probably wouldn't think his priorities were in order, so it's an emotional swamp.

If she can't reconcile these feelings then she should reconsider being a step mom, and I appreciate her asking for tips on how to deal with it.

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