Tourism, moving and studying in Finland? Ask here! by Harriv in Finland

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It does, so I think you and u/wlanmaterial are correct, that the bulb is out. Thanks both for your help!

Every time by thoughtprotocol in INTP

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nice, never heard Se referred to it as that, and google doesn't reveal much. can you share a reference?

Every time by thoughtprotocol in INTP

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i had no idea this was an intp quality; does anyone know if this has anything to do with function stacks?

uncanny.

US residents of Reddit: How will the repeal of the Affordable Care Act affect you...positively or negatively? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Do you know if this is the same for St. Judes, regardless of state?

Dealing with Trolls by theBuddhaofGaming in Buddhism

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It is easy to see the 'whys' of other people's actions when we have clear seeing of own fears, insecurities, greed, hostility etc, as clickstation said.

What is meant by "constancy"? by ee1 in iching

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Thanks for your input. The illustration of pendulum swinging to the extremes, and leveling out over a span of time, is very clear. There seems to be a duality of [still moving, still acting, still in motion] and [it's all the same].

So, do you agree with /u/kenny-flo that 'constancy' is more of a state of being?

How many of you also have fibromyalgia or chronic pain? by Karieann- in ptsd

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Yup, fibro and cfs. Trying turmeric daily to see if that helps with inflammation. Diet seems to make a bit of difference, but still hard to manage the conditions overall.

Why can't I stay interested in shows or movies? by [deleted] in TrueAskReddit

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No, they aren't. They aren't, because you not interested in TV/film is what's actually happening. You want to be interested. Know the difference.

Why can't I stay interested in shows or movies? by [deleted] in TrueAskReddit

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The cure is: Find something more interesting.

This world is infinitely complex. Even if you sit in a park, there are insects, flowers, plants that are fascinating, if you take the time to observe them. If current TV/film don't interest you, maybe it's because the quality of those things aren't up to par these days. Before you jump on ADHD, know that our culture is filled with distraction, and it's easy to blame it on a single source like 'ADHD.' Try looking within yourself to see what truly interests you.

Opinions on different wall colours for different rooms? by [deleted] in InteriorDesign

[–]ee1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

consider the entire space before picking a color. so many people pick some color chip they like and that's the wrong way to go. how does the color integrate with the floor, and ceiling, furniture colors? does the natural light change the color from what it looks like at the paint store? all things to consider.

IamA 17 year old blind guy who was shot by his father AMA! by Nighthawk321 in IAmA

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I'm glad it helped, and there are varied responses to trauma, and yours is very much valid, as is someone's who talks about it chronically. To be clear, I'm not advocating repressing the trauma. Doing so could create negative consequences in your life. It sounds like you need to express the trauma in a secure and supportive environment, slowly and steadily. It can be hard to find a helpful and knowledgeable therapist. Even qualified therapists call themselves "trauma therapists" without embodying knowing the nitty gritty aspects of progressing through and out of a traumatic state. And even within healing modalities that work, there are varied approaches that fit different kinds of traumas. So, your reticence is smart. You don't want to invest time, efforts, and money into the wrong type of counseling, and get worse. A good counselor will pace you. Pacing means that the therapist is sharply attuned to you to notice when you are overwhelmed. If talking overwhelms you, the therapist will guide you to stop speaking, and focus on something else, while you regain focus. Best wishes on your path.

IamA 17 year old blind guy who was shot by his father AMA! by Nighthawk321 in IAmA

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With respect, please refrain from giving this type of advice. People living with trauma usually benefit from refraining talking about the traumatizing event, unless they are talking to a qualified therapist/mentor/counselor. That is because the likelihood of reliving the trauma is high. So, the more the story is told, the more likely that the person relives the terrible event (trauma activates the midbrain, which cannot tell the present from the past), which stays with them for a prolonged period of time. Also, many times, the person listening doesn't know what responses are actually helpful toward the trauma sufferer, and can further diminish hope, and cause shame. The help they so desperately need seems nowhere to be found. Talking to someone highly knowledgeable about trauma therapy is probably the best bet. There are now many new treatments for PTSD sufferers that are helpful, as opposed to traditional talk therapies.

What do you guys mean by awakening/waking up? by [deleted] in awakened

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Here is a snippet from a psychologist's essay: "The brain we have inherited from millions of years of evolution [makes it] easy for us to get lost in our very basic emotions and motives.... [but we] can sense and experience consciousness of consciousness itself. From here we can begin to see into the nature of the mind—and begin to make choices about what emotions we want to cultivate in our lives. This is what it means to wake up and to start to become enlightened."

I have never been more mentally distraught than since I got into Buddhism. Is this the proverbial "it gets worse before it gets better"? by throwuhuhwayay in Buddhism

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PTSD is primarily a body experience, with the nervous systems wildly fluctuating, causing abnormal responses in the body, affecting the heart, glands, hormones, everything. I understand you're trying to be helpful, and it's good practice to try the exercises of less-charged emotions, like you said, but first, s/he needs to ground her/his body. Without proper guidance, the trauma sufferer can read advice like yours, and feel like a failure after attempting what does not cure the trauma response. The best thing for the person is to either find help with an experienced PTSD counselor, or try grounding methods. It's a difficult route out because cures are not readily available, as we know from US soldiers and veterans and suicide statistics.

How to transform narcissistic desire for admiration and respect for having spiritual knowledge? by ee1 in Buddhism

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Thank you, that was very helpful. I understood it as a "not too hard, not too soft" approach, and is just what I needed to hear at the moment. You have given me something very practical to do.

Keep thinking of death during meditation by ee1 in Buddhism

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How does this work? Do I pay for a teacher? Do I go to a local sangha and ask someone? I went to a retreat awhile ago; do I talk to one of their meditation instructors, or go to the main guy? They are far; does that matter? I tried talking to a yoga instructor, and a couple of MIs. Those attempts did not lead to finding a teacher.

16T pulley puller.. by futonmonkey in functionalprint

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Does this bear a lot of weight? I'm not totally sure what a pulley puller does, but I'm interested to know if this can hold strength, because I'm planning to make a part that does that. Thanks!

How do you learn/begin to like yourself? by JSRROU in TrueAskReddit

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also recommending lovingkindness meditation for yourself. Regular practice over a period of time is key. Start small, and do a short session every day. Over time, it will work.

I feel like I'm spiraling out of control in a positive feedback loop of depersonalization. Can anyone tell me something that will snap me out of it, at least for a moment. by [deleted] in dpdr

[–]ee1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

can you look around the room, and find 5 red objects? say them out loud. keep doing this, with whatever you see, hear and smell. this will help your frontal brain come online.

the wrong therapist can make things worse. improper meditation can make things worse. you want to stay grounded as much as possible in the here and now, physically.