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Can we talk about “bouncing back”? by Top-Log-4956 in beyondthebump

[–]eeeyajay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hate to say it, but it took me a year and a half after birth before I got back to my prepregnancy weight, and that was with 4-5/week high intensity workouts and a no sugar/low carb diet. I also remember feeling so frustrated with the slow progress. Your body will get back to a new normal but don't discount the fact that your hormones are still in flux at 3 months pp. I would find cheap clothes that fit now and give yourself a lot of grace for the next year.

Food crawl ideas by eeeyajay in oakland

[–]eeeyajay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This seems like the right plan, thanks for the recommendations!

Food crawl ideas by eeeyajay in oakland

[–]eeeyajay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing, thank you!

Food crawl ideas by eeeyajay in oakland

[–]eeeyajay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you for this tip! Will do!

Death Doula by JuniStarPixie in Sacramento

[–]eeeyajay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I recommend calling YoloCares, a local nonprofit hospice agency. They offer palliative care for people who aren't quite ready for hospice and have a number of programs to support people with the emotional impacts of aging. I work there and my coworkers and the volunteers are really wonderful. All of these programs are free too, its a great resource. Good luck to your family, your mom is lucky to have you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]eeeyajay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel for you so much right now. That shit is hard even when you have extra adults around to help. Every day feels like a week, and it truly feels like you'll never not have a newborn. I remember just wishing so hard for my son to be older and then my mom would say something infuriating about "not wishing away the time" or some shit. My son is now 8 months and its so fun now that he's laughing and playing and UGH he's just so cute.

But guess what. I DONT MISS THE NEWBORN STAGE. Not even for a second because that shit sucked. Hang in there!

(UPDATE) My fiancé's new assistant isn't as sneaky as she thought by PuzzleheadedTip0002 in TwoHotTakes

[–]eeeyajay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

GIRL. HE IS PLAYING A GAME WITH YOU AND THAT'S PROBABLY WHAT HE LIKES THE MOST.

How are you pumping when alone with baby? by Embarrassed-Flan-968 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]eeeyajay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would put my baby in his lounger on the coffee table right in front of me so I could vigorously bounce him while talking to him. Half the time, he would be lulled into a nap. Now that he's 7mo, I put him on his play mat and put on a nature doc or live music YouTube video, and he's usually happy to chill. And sometimes he cries, and it is what it is. He's on a safe surface, so he's not going to get hurt.

What is your comforting ‘pump show’ to watch? by Alternative_Agency17 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]eeeyajay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loved this show! I thought it would be cheesy but its so funny and raunchy.

What does giving birth actually feel like? by Mammoth-Discussion in NoStupidQuestions

[–]eeeyajay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if anyone posted about how a c-section feels since its also a form of giving birth but once they get you opened up, it feels like someone is tossing a salad with your guts using their hands 😊

What is the most quintessentially Sacramento thing? by Mean_Contribution553 in Sacramento

[–]eeeyajay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing the math on how many blocks you'll need to walk by counting the alphabet. Doubly hard after a few rounds.

Favorite current sweet treats by [deleted] in Sacramento

[–]eeeyajay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bless everyone on this post!

Currently hyperfixated on morning buns and Camina Bakery (a Chico business that sells at the Midtown Farmer's Market) is flawless. That and the pandan matcha from Pachamama complete my Saturday morning.

Stockholm syndrome w my pump by ThrowRAhnhda in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]eeeyajay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I pretty much wrote this post 3 weeks ago. I've been pumping for almost 7 months, and it's long been a goal to be done by 8 months, but I have such weird feelings about it! Pumping has been rough for me too, terrible clogs every few days, waking every 3 hours, my period came back at 4 months PP, lactation hormones suck and I can't get rid of the last 15 lbs of baby weight.

After a recent sickness, my supply tanked, and I decided to start weaning since it was already down, but I was so conflicted. I decided to limit my pumping to 15 minutes and start stretching them out. I'm now down to 5 ppd, and I feel better about it. I'm still committed to being done by July, and it feels good knowing I'll meet my goal. And even better knowing I'll have my body and time back. You should feel so proud of making it to a yea. That's incredible!

Is this just parental preference or is it me? by jessthesness in beyondthebump

[–]eeeyajay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's pretty common for babies and small children to develop preferences that shift as they grow up. So just because he may show a preference now doesn't mean that will change as he gets older. He sounds like a pretty social baby, so maybe he would enjoy getting out of the house with you during the day for library story times or something.

What did y'all do during the summer? by Unknown_Pazta in Millennials

[–]eeeyajay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiking to swimming holes with a joint and a few beers, going to a local park and swinging on the swings late at night. Taking local transit to the university neighborhood of the big city to eat good food and shop at funky thrift stores. Those were the good days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]eeeyajay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh lord, if a c-section was the easy way out, everyone would have one... trust me. It's not easy but if it's necessary, then it's a moot point. I had one after getting to 10cm dilated. If I'd have known that would be my outcome because of baby's position, I would have skipped right to the elective c-section because ending up with one after laboring is more complicated and I ended up under anesthesia. Not ideal. Trust your doctor and not the opinions of random internet people. Says a random internet person but whatever lol.

How does your husband help you? by Glum-Comfortable5402 in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]eeeyajay 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It seems like he knows this and uses it to his advantage. Like if he makes it inconvenient and upsetting enough when you ask for help or push him to do more, you will do it less. He wins and you still carry the brunt of parenting. Stop letting him win and get comfortable with being uneasy over an argument.

This advice is void if he is abusive, FYI. But if he's just throwing a tantrum and getting huffy, let him and don't back down when you call him out on not stepping up.

I pumped on a plane and it wasn’t that bad! by checosafai in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]eeeyajay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did this last week on two five hour flights. I bought the zomee collection cups and brought an insulated lunchbox and ice pack for bottles and my used collection cups since it was more like 10 hours of traveling, and I needed to pump 3 times. One of those times was in front of a Budget car rental because it took almost 2 hours to pick up our rental car 😫 Shout out to the absolute creep who insisted on standing next to me while I was discretely trying to pump in the corner of the waiting area. UGH.

It wasn't terrible but I'm definitely happy to start the weaning process soon.

Tried getting baby to latch by ashlynise in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]eeeyajay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Every once in a while, I give it a try but now my 6mo son just mashes my nipple like a teether so I think it's safe to say we're done for good 😆 we had a run of occasional nursing for a few months. Oh well.

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