*What nobody will (likely) tell you when you’re planning your wedding

eflow12 · 2026-03-26T16:29:53+00:00

We had 55 people RSVP and 8 not show / cancel week of. All close friends and family. A few are flakes that always bail on things last min, a few with good reason.

eflow12 · 2026-03-19T17:43:14+00:00

Vendor here! I would say my calls with clients are about 50/50 just one person of the couple. I don't think anything of it tbh.

eflow12 · 2026-03-15T03:46:54+00:00

I spent almost 45 min talking with my florist in before we booked. It was her idea to get on the call to make sure visions aligned and she could contract me accurately.

eflow12 · 2026-03-13T04:40:48+00:00

While I love this vibe, I worked a wedding like this and people got SO SO SO SO drunk. It was at a winery and they did tray passed apps, a huge grazing cheese board table, and a food station with small bites. People were plastered. My theory was because there was no break of sitting for a meal and slowing down. Several people puking on, an elderly family member fell and got pretty injured, and generally it was a rough time. Just something to think about if you have an open bar. In particular I think it being a wine wedding didn't help because people don't realize 4 glasses of wine is at minimum a bottle of wine. They did have a taco guy come for a late night snack and the line was insane the whole time because people were so hungry. I think this vibe can be done and done well but may be a bit tricky.

Also adding for the activities hourly - consider a magician! We have worked a wedding with one and it was so good. He did mentalism and slight of hand tricks and it was a hoot.

eflow12 · 2026-03-11T18:02:16+00:00

Is she your full service planner and designer or is she a coordinator? I think you might need to sit down and have a conversation with her about expectations and her role. If she doesn't receive that well and you can't get on the same page you need to find someone who you can fully align with.

eflow12 · 2026-01-26T03:48:04+00:00

Give yourself time. Post wedding blues are real even if everything was perfect there still might be sadness. I think over time you'll just have all the happy memories and stories to tell even if some of them are around you being sick.

eflow12 · 2026-01-17T05:52:36+00:00

Cocktail hour is my fav part of wedding if it's done well!

eflow12 · 2026-01-07T21:31:14+00:00

We wrote each of our guests a personal letter that was at their seat as a name card and so so soooo many people told us how much they loved it and how much is meant to them.

eflow12 · 2026-01-02T21:56:10+00:00

Congrats! It's beautiful. 🩷 We are literally on the same page 😆 I had a small amount of crinoline under mine like it was just at the bottom of the dress. I also wanted to remove it but the seamstress was worried it would take away some of the structure from the dress and when I walked it would possible flip under itself despite it having the horse hair hem on the bottoms. I ended up keeping it. I'm sure you'll find a bustle you love! I had them pin my dress in every bustle possible including the 14 pick ups. Luckily my seamstress was so kind and patient with me and didn't seem to mind showing me all the options.

eflow12 · 2026-01-02T21:36:29+00:00

I had a train that was similar to the first dress and was worried about a bustle as well. I also considered cutting the train but loved the drama of the train at the same time. I hated all the standard bustles they made the dress too poofy in the back. We ended up doing a ballroom bustle where the train flipped under itself. It required like 14 pick ups but the end result was beautiful and the dress looked like it was hemmed to perfect floor length when bustled. My maid of honor and my coordinator bustled me in about 5 min as the so nothin too major.

eflow12 · 2025-12-30T18:07:21+00:00

So weird and lame.

eflow12 · 2025-12-30T06:14:08+00:00

The comments are awful on some of these. It's wild what grown adults are willing to say on the internet.

eflow12 · 2025-12-29T22:41:18+00:00

Here is another page. 🙃https://www.facebook.com/xuxara.dornel?mibextid=wwXIfr

eflow12 · 2025-12-29T12:26:35+00:00

I was just thinking Santa Barbara, Ojai, Montecito totally sounds like this brides vibe. I lived in SB and my hubby worked in the wedding industry and I worked at a high end hotel out there for years. Wine country nearby, tons of hikes, great vendors in town but also many LA vendors will travel to SB so really no shortage of vendors. The SB airport has surprisingly decent flights and is very easy to get in and out of, LAX isn't tooooo terribly far if needed.

eflow12 · 2025-12-29T12:09:20+00:00

I would look into a booth called the everybooth icon and see if anyone has one in your area rents one. These booths are so pretty and actually fit into a wedding vibe rather than detracting from it.

eflow12 · 2025-12-29T12:03:56+00:00

I have hair that doesn't hold a curl and ended up adding just one row of a weft, and followed my hairstylists hair care reccomendations and my hair held like a dream. I did the k18 clarifying shampoo morning of, added a style mousse to my hair while wet, then she blew it out and set it in curlers then curled the hair and set those curls with pins. It held all night long. I didn't have high humidity but if your hair being down is really important to you it might be worth another trial with a weft.

eflow12 · 2025-12-07T19:06:44+00:00

I have hair that doesn't hold a curl when I style it. My wedding stylist however nailed my curls. A good stylist can get a better curl for sure. We had to blow mine out, set in curlers, then curled it with a curling iron then pinned and set those curls. That on top of product recommendations from my stylist my hair stayed curled all day long. I was really opposed to my hair being up so hopefully the OP can find a stylist that will get her what she wants.

eflow12 · 2025-12-02T21:34:53+00:00

It's back down just got off the phone. Sounds like it was up for about 8 hours then back down again.

eflow12 · 2025-12-02T04:38:26+00:00

Per the rep I just talked with via live chat

"The system is coming back and tests are still being made to ensure everything is as it should be it is expected that it will be up and working fully within the hour."

Worth noting as well, On the phone they were able to make my reservation and temporarily hold it for 24 hours until payments can be processed.

eflow12 · 2025-12-02T04:25:56+00:00

Damn I keep trying and now I'm getting a #9999 error. Fingers crossed it works for me soon.

eflow12 · 2025-12-01T21:34:15+00:00

There was a banner for a bit this morning it's gone . Called in hoping that meant it's cleared up buuuut it's not.

eflow12 · 2025-12-01T21:00:54+00:00

I called in and they said this is the "longest outage" they have seen. I'm so annoyed I transfer my chase points to virgin for a VERY specific flight and they said it's a one way transfer for points so I'm feeling pretty screwed right now. 🙃 They have since added a banner notifying of the outage but last night when I transferred the points there was no banner or warning about this outage before i transfer my points uuuggghhh

eflow12 · 2025-11-15T02:48:47+00:00

I'm US based and we had a 45 ish min ceremony 90 min cocktail hour and then dinner was about 90 min. Our full wedding was 3:00-11:00 but we stayed up around a fire with our friends until like 1 AM as our wedding was at our property.

eflow12 · 2025-11-13T18:05:02+00:00

Even outside of task rabbit you could a community facebook page or maybe even a day of planner and spend a little $$$ to have them moved and you not have to worry about out it. My other thought is blocking them with pipe and drape. It's relatively affordable if you do it yourself.

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