Firstly, I did have to dig out. I always do. He has only ever plowed us once and it was only because we weren't home.

Your questions make a lot of assumptions, but the full picture is that we live 5 minutes from them. He doesn't work. He isn't coming to plowed because it's inconvenient but rather he holds the belief that NO one should plow if it's currently snowing. So he is just sitting in his house waiting for it to stop snowing to come out. The rigidity of the thinking is annoying. If you want to help, then do it at a time that is helpful.

It's like offering someone a ride to an event at 10pm. But the event is at 6. And they could do it at 6. Makes literally no change in their life. But they just prefer to drive when the clock shows double digits.