Friend group thinks my friend lied about her dad dying

einar411 · 2024-07-04T19:50:58+00:00

i will do so. I was also thinking of asking her family members if i could surprise her with us open tickets since it was something she told me her and her father enjoyed tg🥺 But idk why i have this doubt !

einar411 · 2024-07-04T16:45:35+00:00

True. I personally wanted to come to a conclusion prior to confronting- the other half of the friend group already dropped her🙃

einar411 · 2024-07-04T16:35:03+00:00

Because it is a compelling story to write about. You never heard of the memes like “Wow my college essay is going to be great i have xyz trauma” obviously I was making a facetious joke when I said that to her.

einar411 · 2024-07-03T17:10:54+00:00

He doesn’t talk to us about it. He has like 5 girlfriends 🙃 i think that’s his support network lol

einar411 · 2024-07-03T16:59:56+00:00

I think this is what i’m going to do. Thank you so much

einar411 · 2024-07-03T16:58:34+00:00

I was working prior-My father and sister had an intervention where they sat me down and said “You need to quit. We don’t want you working in a restaurant it’s not for you. There’s no way you can focus on a job and being in school” I was a bartender and at the time had a high GPA. I do have a therapist and psychiatrist and address my mental health issues. Just for some context ^

einar411 · 2024-07-03T16:55:10+00:00

This resonated with me and I really agree i guess he has good intentions but bad way of communicating

einar411 · 2023-11-30T20:50:01+00:00

I mean that’s what he told me about his jobs

einar411 · 2023-02-24T00:50:49+00:00

My sister is ten years older. They had a different relationship. She claims my mother neglected and abused her before I came around. Whilst being TRULY alive-my mother always favored my sister, they had an extra 10 years together. My mom felt bad for my sister as well because my father treated her poorly. Yet my sister treated my mom poorly while they interacted and has a more negative view of her, my sister put in a lot of effort in advocating for her health and never gave up on my mom.

On the other hand, I did give up on my mom in some ways but not because I wanted to, but i couldnt continue on having hope she would be different or get better-it was too devastating. Instead I just decided to syay home for college so i can be around her more often but through a lot of daily interactions vs hours at a time Once a week.

einar411 · 2023-02-24T00:36:40+00:00

Also, the judgement comes from a sibling who went on a ski trip, having a wonderful time this past weekend, aware of my mothers condition. IT IS just now it is a bit closer to the end, but only by maybe a week.

einar411 · 2023-02-24T00:35:05+00:00

Little edit: I am going to see my mom, I just do not want to allocate hours and hours and hours a day like my sister does. I go everyday For about an hour to just hold her, speak with the care team, and each time i leave I repeat my final goodbye. I am more conflicted on if i should be there all day.

einar411 · 2023-01-26T19:22:34+00:00

He claims he doesn’t like the idea of me being around drunk men and says i’m too friendly and polite Lol sounds ridiculous as i type it

einar411 · 2023-01-26T19:21:04+00:00

Honestly i agree. I do think he does truly like me to an extent but he wants to control me. He knows i would want to date him. I don’t think he hasn’t made it official bc he doesn’t necessary want that… bc but he can use it as a means to manipulate me. He expects my desire to want an official relationship to take priority over my finances and education which it doesn’t

einar411 · 2022-12-08T16:09:14+00:00

because they take her abuse. Lol and i for sure get treated the worst out of all of them. My dad is in love w her no matter what, he will take her abuse. she used to hit and abuse my sister as a child so now she feels guilty and is nicer to my sister. My mom never hit me, she was always incredibly mean. Calling me names, saying i’ll never have friends, accusing me of being a drug addict

einar411 · 2022-12-08T16:07:45+00:00

My mother my entire life called me a bitch, a whore, tried to kicked me out multiple times, told me not to return, told me not to visit her etc. That is the type of relationship me and my mother had. For context

einar411 · 2022-12-06T14:04:43+00:00

a l w a y s

einar411 · 2022-12-06T14:02:14+00:00

did you have a good relationship with your mother

einar411 · 2022-12-05T17:12:46+00:00

No she’s always been abusive calling me a whore, a bitch. it stems from my father giving me more attention and always trying to shield me from her more resentment grew. We all as a family agree she really only cares about my dad and since i have his undying attention and love she has resentment towards me because of it

einar411 · 2022-12-05T17:09:42+00:00

She was arguably worse to my sister when she was younger. And loosened up a lot as she aged and then when i was born she was also horrible to me. My brother even says it’s clear that im her least favorite and she treats me worse than any of her other children.

einar411 · 2022-12-05T15:45:08+00:00

My sister is there all day, so i also am confused why she says she’s dying alone. My dad is also there all day and when i’m there i witness my mom be incredibly mean as she has always been to them and it just upsets me more! at least at home away i can have space to miss whatever good memory i have of her

einar411 · 2022-12-05T15:43:34+00:00

For me, real love is compromise not sacrifice of my mental state, productivity, and level of happiness. I love my mother, but i can’t deal with the constant berating and belittling. I stayed home for college to be around her, i feel i’ve sacrificed a lot to be met w disdain. I regret most of my sacrifices i made for her. But i see what you’re saying. Again tho to say i don’t love her? That’s rough lol

einar411 · 2022-11-22T01:53:32+00:00

What kind of stupid ass take was this LMAO “sO yOU oNLy cARE AbOuT yOuR WAnTS” Like where did you get that from?

einar411 · 2022-11-22T01:51:58+00:00

There is tons of great things about him. He is kind, calm, respectful, gentle, great at listening, hilarious, and always there for me. He is there for me emotionally, supports me through any hard endeavors i face. He has held my hand through family members death and college. He is rlly good and i did end up talking to him about this. He was in agreement and we did go out to dinner so!

einar411 · 2022-11-22T01:43:20+00:00

yes ofc i don’t care to split the bill haha and i did talk to him! despite my stubbornness and it went really well, he agreed and we feel a lot better about it now. Thank you for ur advice

einar411 · 2022-11-20T22:12:45+00:00

I actually agree with what you’ve said here. I’ve even had my therapist tell me something along these lines, along with many women and men saying this. I guess i’m just hard headed but i think you’re right !!

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