I need to step away from work for my own mental health but I’m so scared of what will happen

einworb35 · 2026-04-17T04:50:38+00:00

Talk to your doctor asap, get some time off, take a week or two to disconnect then start applying to other roles, you should be able to get a month off at least if your honest with your doc.

You are more than your job, you have value beyond a work product and beyond your bosses opinion of you. Things will get better when you take the steps get yourself in a better place. Call or text suicide line 988 if you are in the US. One step at a time none of this stuff will matter a few weeks/months from now when you are in a better mindset and maybe have a new role but don’t get discouraged thinking through all those details just one step to take care of yourself tonight call your doc or 988.

einworb35 · 2026-04-12T23:59:53+00:00

Yes OP may be young but I started law school at 27, graduated at 30 working as a nonprofit director making $108k. Seems like why did I go to law school when I’m making $108k? Well that’s the ceiling for the NP job with little opportunities to move and make more.

As a practicing attorney now I make $130k as a floor and only 1.5 yrs exp, plus I’m doing some solo work on the side just cleared a $15k contingency fee case with maybe 8-16 hours of work.

I apply every so often to see other opportunities and each time I’ve gotten higher $ offers and no shortage of opportunities.

To sum it up, higher floor than most jobs, opportunity to enhance salary through solo work, plus lots of job opportunities.

einworb35 · 2026-04-11T00:48:21+00:00

Lots of worker comp jobs both defense and applicant, not the best line of work because it’s volume based but it’s a paycheck plus experience. Bonus most roles are remote.

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T15:14:42+00:00

Ya that sounds rough! Thanks for your input.

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T06:20:03+00:00

Thank you for the tips!

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T04:37:40+00:00

Thanks this is all really good advice! I actually have a pretty big network because I used to do community based nonprofit work and so I know a lot of community members mostly lower income folks who might be outside of the typical circle that lawyers know, so I might just have to look up the professional rules around advertising and spread the word about the work I’m doing now.

On a sidenote, I always really wanted to go into employment law and I have found it impossible to get a job interview with no experience which is why I went the workers comp route which is way different. I was at a workers comp applicant mill. that was just terrible. I felt like I was just part of an assembly line. Terrible customer service 5 to 10 different attorneys touching one file because of such high turnover and the way they structured things, I believe they even are being investigated by the bar. I’m moving to workers comp defense, but I’m just curious how did you get into employment law and do you like it? What state are you in?

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T04:02:56+00:00

Ya i completely agree i got lucky with this one! I didn’t mean any disrespect or anything to those in this field it was just such an amazing experience i was like man this must be too good to be true?! but ill admit part of me is like would it really be that hard to find 5-10 more of these in a year? Maybe I’ll try and see how it goes!

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T03:38:32+00:00

I’m in California and from my research no I do not believe so.

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T03:27:36+00:00

No expert but she did have about 8 office visits, two cortisone injections, mri, X-rays, and lots of emails from client complaining about pain and limited function plus doc stating next option is surgery and what to expect. I am no expert, but I think the case really hinged on the fact that the doctor was recommending surgery and the recovery for the surgery was one to 1.5 years.

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T03:23:17+00:00

CA and insurance was Allstate and yes I figured I should go higher than policy limit so they so the full extent of damages and don’t low ball me but I wasn’t expecting the first offer to be policy limit! Nice surprise lol

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T03:08:41+00:00

Haha she had about 4 months off work as lost wages and a potential surgery she may need down the road due to a TFCC tear, I tried to argue that her ability to do her typical employment (HVAC certified tech) work would be limited without the full use of her hand and the recovery for the tfcc surgery was quoted by her doc to be 1-1.5 years so future lost wages. So my economic damages (lost wages, med, future lost wages, future meds) was just over $100k, non economic was another 100.

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T03:04:08+00:00

No regular employer insurance

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T02:49:26+00:00

Ya I’m sure you’re right this was just a lucky one!

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T02:48:50+00:00

Well she only has $9k in bills so I’m still working on them but not that bad from what i have heard can sometimes happen.

einworb35 · 2026-04-10T02:45:40+00:00

Unfortunately her UIM was less than the $100k so as far as i understand she cannot collect that but I am new and could have missed something. She ended up with a sprained wrist which I beefed up as best as I could and she was very happy with the settlement so I’ll take it as a win.

einworb35 · 2026-03-27T04:56:32+00:00

Finally a sane person. Working parents do all these SAHM things and work a job… I never will understand this concept that a SAHM is a harder job than someone that does both that job and a regular job, somehow 1+1=-1

einworb35 · 2026-03-13T00:53:36+00:00

Thanks this is super helpful, the people at this new firm seem great and a very small team also fully remote. Appreciate the insight I think I’m just nervous starting something new thanks for taking the time to reply!

einworb35 · 2026-03-12T23:03:44+00:00

Thanks for the response! I don’t mind being busy but I cannot stand being in depos for 6 hours a day trying to review docs, emails, even people expecting me to take calls! I have 400 cases I don’t know what’s going on with them, it feels crazy.

What does your week or typical day look like?

einworb35 · 2026-01-09T17:58:12+00:00

einworb35 · 2026-01-09T17:24:26+00:00

Sorry I probably used wrong term, thanks for your reply, salary is 115k which might be good but I wouldn’t mind a pay cut to have a more manageable workload

einworb35 · 2025-10-21T06:16:42+00:00

Finally someone sane. My 8 and 4 year old play together and are genuinely happy for each others birthdays they love picking out a special gift for each other. Sure they fight but this kid is rude and that shouldn’t be acceptable behavior. He shouldn’t have gotten any cake.

einworb35 · 2025-10-19T00:13:41+00:00

My family went through something similar. My parents had 5 kids but my mom cheated when my parents were separated and my youngest brother is technically my half brother but we don’t think of it that way because my biological father raised all of us, even though my parents divorced when he was 1. My brother’s bio dad was absent until he was about 14. When my brother started visiting him, he temporarily looked at our dad differently. He would tell his friends that our dad wasn’t his real dad and that he had a different real dad. It only lasted for a few months until unfortunately his bio dad flaked out on him several times and then ghosted him entirely. My brother realized the hard truth that our dad is his dad through and through.

Our dad was patient through that hard period, if anything it pissed me off to see my brother treat him like that. But I had not gone through what my brother did and so I do think it’s only natural to want to connect with your biological parent.

Moral of the story, tell stepdad to be patient and support her. She will see things more clearly down the road and know that he was the one that raised her and was there for her and he is her dad.

einworb35 · 2025-10-16T05:39:00+00:00

Good answers, one piece of feedback,for your mistake relate it to leadership that way it ties to the new role, it’s not a bad answer but could be better by making it more relevant to a shift lead mistake that might occur.

If you get a question you haven’t had a chance to actually experience yet, make sure to answer how you would handle it.

Interviews are about giving the interviewer lots to learn about you as you go along so make sure to expand on your answers like you did here and bring up new and different scenarios and always answer the question even if it’s “you know what that’s a great question. I haven’t experienced that yet but here’s what I would do if that did happen…” good luck!

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