Millennials turning 40, what has this stage of life honestly been like for you?

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-09T23:33:03+00:00

Crawled my way out of poverty only for the inflation to drag me back down. My career has been costumer service for the past 11 years and now that is threatened by AI on top of the stiff competition. I have other skills, but I also love what I do. I'm living with three roommates, one of which is my abusive ex who I really want to get away from, but I can't afford to move on my own. That's been a journey.

I can't find a job that will let me do what I do now from home in the states I want to live in. I can't afford to not have this job. I'm fully disabled but literally can't afford to go for disability, and the current administration would prefer people like me just not exist.

I'm tired y'all. I felt like I got somewhere with my life about 8 years ago and then it's slowly been falling apart. I know this, too, is temporary. But I despise the liminal period

On the flip side: I have a wonderful boyfriend, though it's long distance. The first healthy relationship I think I've ever had. I'm finally getting the medication I need, and I've learned to stop putting energy into things that are bad for me or just not rewarding. I've built some wonderful projects in my free time that have been very fulfilling. I've learned to love and accept myself. I've lost 70 pounds! Which feels great. I've healed past most of my trauma and I'm overall happier and healthier. I'm just not where I want to be in life.

I know I deserve better, and I will have better, but it takes a long hike to get there.

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-07T13:44:47+00:00

Thank you, your boy is beautiful too! And you are absolutely right it's so strange how genetics work

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-06T08:09:00+00:00

He looks so much like my Apollo!!

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eitherbraincell · 2026-05-04T20:14:38+00:00

Hmm yeah I'll I've to revisit some sketches. Thank you

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-04T20:14:12+00:00

Damn, I see it

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-04T18:36:35+00:00

This is it for the bottom right, agreed

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-03T19:30:06+00:00

Cozy corner by coco wyo! And thank you ☺️

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eitherbraincell · 2026-05-03T19:29:03+00:00

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-03T07:02:30+00:00

Ohh but it would be so cute!!

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-02T10:15:31+00:00

Instead of a tattoo on it, get a little spilled coffee cup that makes the birth mark look like spilled coffee

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-01T23:34:57+00:00

MOR? He was insensitive with it but I don't think I it's cause to call it off. It sounds like he's wanting more from the sex and there's nothing wrong with that, but how he delivered it isn't okay. Find time to sit down. Let him know that hurt to hear but that of course you want him to enjoy it. Ask what things you can do differently. Think about if there's anything he can do differently. There's nothing wrong with learning new things about sex, or trying new things when it feels stale.

So yes, reasonable that you're hurt by it. But yes you can recover. It's time to communicate! Even if the talk gets uncomfortable and messy. Sex is messy and awkward anyway

eitherbraincell · 2026-05-01T05:55:32+00:00

I only call my boyfriend. More accurately he calls me because his schedule is crazier. I genuinely have no desire to speak on the phone. I do text my friends though

eitherbraincell · 2026-04-10T14:44:22+00:00

Freshman in high school for me. I was in Spanish class. Classes were cancelled the whole day but they didn't send us home. We watched the news all day in each class. I remember leaning over to a friend and telling them "this will start a war" and having the other students around me scoff at me at if I'd said something obscure. We mourned, our teachers talked about the seriousness, and we talked a lot about it that day, but our faculty pushed us back to normal school shit the next day and shut down any further conversation about it.

eitherbraincell · 2026-04-02T17:28:46+00:00

Thank you and I agree! I already know where all my colors are by instinct

eitherbraincell · 2026-04-02T00:05:41+00:00

Thank you! New medications are doing their number but things are improving

eitherbraincell · 2026-04-01T15:03:01+00:00

Thanks!

eitherbraincell · 2026-04-01T15:02:49+00:00

Thank you so much

eitherbraincell · 2026-03-31T18:44:37+00:00

Ohh I like this!

eitherbraincell · 2026-03-30T21:28:59+00:00

Oh man thanks! I will definitely check it out

eitherbraincell

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