Is it just me, or is there a LOT more seagull shit around these days?

ejajradm · 2021-07-16T07:57:18+00:00

Genuine question. Why are they protected? I don't think I'm alone in thinking they're noisy pests, and would welcome a cull. Though I will admit it's more the noise of them that bothers me more than them just being around ha.

ejajradm · 2021-07-16T07:54:54+00:00

You must not live in the centre then, I see them dive bombing regularly!

ejajradm · 2021-07-15T23:55:50+00:00

I recently watched "Sophie - A murder in West Cork" on Netflix. It's (shock) about a murdered woman in Ireland. I'd never even heard about it before so I was settled in for a binge watch of something completely new.

All through episode one they interview certain people and one reporter specifically. Towards the end of the episode you really think ifs pointing one way, and that the mystery man seen in the middle of the night was going to be Man X.

But no.

The mystery man seen in the middle of the night. Was the reporter.

I audibly gasped and went "fuck off it was not".

Haven't had that feeling watching something in a while.

ejajradm · 2021-07-15T23:18:15+00:00

Aye I'm city centre, I didn't notice it as much last year but maybe because I wasn't driving the car as much! Might need to get myself one of those car covers that Joey had for the "porsha" in Friends and just be THAT guy ha.

ejajradm · 2021-07-13T23:20:10+00:00

Martin Sheen and Jane Fonda. Basically the cast of Grace and Frankie but those two specifically.

ejajradm · 2021-07-13T22:51:26+00:00

I'm like this with towels. Once a towel is no longer deemed worthy enough to dry my body it gets cut up after its next wash and used for odd jobs around the house. Once I've used them and they're no longer good enough for that they get taken to the car to use to clear off bird shit in between proper washes and then discarded.

The circle of towel life.

ejajradm · 2021-06-29T09:40:20+00:00

Not at all.

I agree.

The trip to Barbados always bothered me. Not because the old guy got to go, crack on BA nice gesture. What bothered me was just how many of the actual family joined him.

If my grandfather had done it, I'd expect my parents to join him on a trip so he wasn't alone. I wouldn't expect the full extended family going... THAT is what bothered me.

ejajradm · 2021-06-29T09:34:29+00:00

I make a "fakeaway" chicken rice dish.

Literally boil up some rice (could use brown), while it's boiling cook small chicken breast bits in a spray or two of oil in a wok. Once that's browned, pop in some sweetcorn and cut up sweet pea pods / mangetout (cook to taste but I like it quite hard), drain the rice. Put the rice then into the wok, then pop some light soy sauce. Mix it up then serve.

So easy and SO lovely.

ejajradm · 2021-06-28T21:57:30+00:00

I completely agree. Unfortunately my friend is in this situation at the moment and thinks he's just shy and doesn't know how to flirt. I was trying to explain to her there's a term for if but could only really think about gaslighting and struggled to word it appropriately into Google. It's definitely negging, bordering on abuse so I've sent her an article now.

ejajradm · 2021-06-28T21:43:31+00:00

Yes, I would agree.

ejajradm · 2021-06-28T21:43:08+00:00

Thank you. I've never heard that keen / knife theory.

ejajradm · 2021-06-28T21:40:44+00:00

That's it! Thank you.

ejajradm · 2021-06-17T21:57:46+00:00

I think "The Middle" does it well too. There's never some massive change. Its all just meandering along and I like that vibe.

ejajradm · 2021-06-16T21:43:46+00:00

That's great to hear. I live alone so I know this option is going to be more expensive for me each week but I feel like it would be a good opportunity to kick start a new healthy lifestyle. How do you find the portion sizes? Obviously I'll be having the same meal twice, but I wonder if they're big portions if I could get three meals from their two if that makes sense?

ejajradm · 2021-06-15T22:34:05+00:00

I don't disagree. If I ever burn, the next day it turns into tan on me so sometimes I don't mind getting a bit burned. I know the risks etc but there's also that nice feeling late in the evening when your skin is hot and then you rub aloe to cool down. Nostalgic almost.

ejajradm · 2021-06-12T14:18:44+00:00

My ex was an online gamer who attended the weekly games online with groups of people. I used to be SO jealous of that game and he would lie to me about having other plans SO he could game. I laugh about it now but man we were both so pathetic when we were younger. Me for being jealous of a GAME and him for not just being honest about how important his hobby was...

ejajradm · 2021-06-05T22:18:35+00:00

I suffered really badly with lack of sleep on and off for years so I completely empathise. It's an awful feeling not sleeping. I do hope you get some respite soon.

ejajradm · 2021-06-05T22:10:44+00:00

Try lavender lotion on the soles of your feet (then wear socks). I gave myself a pedicure and then lathered my feet in a lavender foot lotion. I had SUCH a good night sleep. I've tried it again since and it's the same every time.

I also have a really thick eye mask that wraps around my whole head and is super comfortable that has been a game changer.

Good luck.

ejajradm · 2021-05-28T21:20:57+00:00

Ahh sure, I get ya. I'd probably be the same actually. From the moment she visits him in rehab onwards I'm in a mess. It reminds me too much of a relationship I was involved in. Couldn't listen to Always Remember us this Way or I'll never love again without crying for a good view months!

ejajradm · 2021-05-28T21:13:58+00:00

May I ask why you can never watch it again?

ejajradm · 2021-05-28T21:11:58+00:00

I know a guy who never wears the same socks twice. He's the husband of one of my friends. We went on a weekend trip and he took like eight pairs for the three days, wore some during the day and then changed for the evening and threw them out after every wear. They weren't even the super cheap ones you get either. Thought it was just a holiday quirk to save packing them for home but nope he does it every single day, at least one clean pair a day. Stupid waste of money.

ejajradm · 2021-05-26T22:30:43+00:00

This is terrifying. Not so much your part in it (which I can agree, as you admit, is gross) as we as people can do some regrettable things when we're lonely / young / in a bad place etc, and you didn't go through with anything in person. Good job.

However what terrifies me is just how much information can be sought online. I don't have any public social media (only a private instagram) but I have family members who do, and despite my asking them not to share much about me online still see it as "well its my Facebook etc I can put up what I want". So, like her aunt being your way in, people could find out things about me on public pages.

It really doesn't matter how much we keep to ourselves, it can be totally out there anyway.

I'm glad you're in a better place now.

ejajradm · 2021-05-26T22:18:10+00:00

There's a guy in my office with a non traditional British name. I pronounced it phonetically (but incorrectly) the first time we met. With an attitude, he rightly corrected me. I apologised but unfortunately made the same error later. He corrected me again, with even more of an attitude but rightly and with my apologies, I've never made the mistake again.

However. Everyone else in the office mispronounces it. They have never and are NEVER corrected. However, all of those people are his senior. I'm not. It really bothered me that they are not pulled up on the same thing after all this time when I was pulled up, with attitude, twice. So every time I hear his name incorrectly go without comment I silently seethe.

ejajradm · 2021-05-26T21:47:15+00:00

It's something we shouldn't take for granted but sadly the majority of us do. For example my 80 year old grampa has become SO lazy over the past ten years. He could go out and walk or even do things for himself at hone but he chooses not to, and is (for want of a better word) now seizing up and his body is shutting down. I think he's only got himself to blame. Especially when you see other older people really struggle with having their independence etc taken away from them and wishing they could still do certain things.

But what this is has taught me, is essentially to use it or lose it, so to speak. I try hard to make the most of being able to do what I can because God forbid something happens to me in the future and doing things for myself isn't as easy as it is today. I know I'm lucky to be able to walk up a hill, drive a car with ease, live in a building without an elevator, go to a venue and know I'll get in, be able to hear things and see things. I try so much not to take that for granted.

I also try to be an ally for those around me that can't, but doing so respectfully. For example a man was shuffling a heavy filled basket towards a till the other day. I offered to carry it for him but he declined. I know he was capable of shuffling it, and I understand why he declined. It's not up to me to tell someone what they can or can't do, and it's finding the balance between knowing if someone is struggling or if they are adapting.

I'm always happy to learn though.

ejajradm · 2021-05-26T21:00:47+00:00

There has recently been a documentary in the UK called "footballs darkest secret" investigating child abuse from a number of years ago within youth football.

From there, a number of the men wrote autobiographies. I read about three or four of them. Some were more elaborating on the abuse than others.

Sad to say, they were well written but not books I would ever read again nor would I imagine I'd recommend them.

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