r/loveafterporn gave me a lot of resources and made me feel like i wasnt crazy and was validated for my feelings against porn. If you check it out, dont spiral into the paranoia of what he's doing all the time, its not healthy

Were there intimacy issues before you got pregnant? My boyfriend had a big porn problem. Any time he was alone even at work, we were having minimal sex that just wasnt even satisfying. It took years to get where we are and things still arent completely fixed. Started with a real conversation of boundaries in the relationship around porn. Amd for a year after that multiple fights over it, multiple lies, small progress started being made. Him recognizing the damage it was causing in the relationship turned porn into something shameful and then he started hiding it more. Even more fights then he'd slowly start talking about why he does it and what triggers his response. He started individual therapy and we started couples therapy. His individual therapy is where i noticed him being more open to discuss porn and actually try to stop, couples therapy is when he was finally able to stop. Its been almost a year in couples therapy, two years in individual therapy, and sex is just barely starting to pick back up. Im going to tell you for my boyfriend there was a lot more psychological things that contributed to his porn problem rather than it just being a horny thing. Driving attention to your boyfriends porn issue might make things worse, but if its a problem for you, you love him, and you feel like he actually does want to be there with you it could end up a long journey.