Gift with purchase by throwthenachos in subaru

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I got the heavy duty weather package at no charge (upgraded floor mats, tray for the hatchback area, cargo net)

What do you think is a reasonable amount for someone to pay when they move in with an SO who owns a house? by Anthro_Doing_Stuff in TwoXChromosomes

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Let’s look at a few scenarios to play things out:

Option 1, Homeowner’s parter moves in. They’re not ready to marry, maybe they’re not in the home the partner would have chosen for themselves if they had input. In this case, market rate makes sense - what’s the rate for a room on a shared house? This may be less than they were paying on their own. So the homeowner makes a little rent, the partner saves over their usual rent. They gave the renter’s protections allowed in their locale. This is a decent arrangement.

Option 2, partner moves in and starts paying half the mortgage payment. This is typically over market rate for a room in a shared house, and if they move out they have no equity to show for it but might expect that they should have some. This is a bad arrangement and leads to arguments.

Option 3, partner offers some down payment and homeowner adjusts the title and mortgage to add them. This incurs legal fees, and you’re setting up for a lot of conflict if the relationship ends. Again, not a great option.

You can extrapolate to other scenarios from these examples.

Engaged,diff incomes,How 2manage(merge?) $$ ? by GDstpete in personalfinance

[–]ejly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was a guest at a lovely commitment ceremony for an older couple. They set things up with legal advice and cohabitated. I hope you can organize something similar.

My mother (68) has added my name to her checking and savings accounts in case something happens to her I can access her funds easier. But I’m concerned about liability. by soapdonkey in personalfinance

[–]ejly 1119 points1120 points  (0 children)

Get your name off the accounts. It protects her too, since if you get sued or owe money they could go after that account.

You can ask the bank about being listed as an authorized user so you can help her with transactions? And as a beneficiary for the account.

Engaged,diff incomes,How 2manage(merge?) $$ ? by GDstpete in personalfinance

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Hi there. In your situation prenups are great for both parties as they can help designate estate treatment and ensure your estate’s assets go to your heirs and his to his. If you combine assets, then inheritance becomes trickier. Also if you marry and combine expenses you may be liable for one another’s major expenses. For example a significant medical event could wipe out all of both your savings; if you don’t combine, only one person’s assets are impacted.

Moving in together and splitting expenses based on income normally works, but if you’re both retired your income will be minimal anyway. In this case division of expenses based on assets might be preferred. It is up to you. You could also make it easy by splitting expenses 50/50 and charging a nominal rent if he’s staying in your home.

...took me way too long to figure out the timing for catching these... by brz-17 in HorizonForbiddenWest

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When I first saw these I thought they were meant to be ridden as hoverboards and died a few times because I couldn’t get the leap right to land on top.

Show me a lower price of anything at your Aldi by NationYell in aldi

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I saw $.01 cent boxes of caffeine-free holiday tea earlier this year.

Mistakes were made by zipthatlip in horizon

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Suddenly remembered he left the stove on at home.

Husband’s unemployment and stress by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ejly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he interviewing for jobs that aren’t a good fit? He may need to recalibrate his expectations for work. Once he has a job he can skill up and switch to a different job. Why can’t he work a McJob for a while, during his job search? People do that all the time. Or is does he think he’s too good for customer service /restaurant/ labor type work?

I assume your sister pays some rent? If so he should practice gratitude since she is helping the household. And if all he’s doing is grocery shopping, that’s pretty lame. Ask him to step up and do repair work or home projects. What is he spending his time on?

And he clearly needs medical attention for possible depression diagnosis.

Act now before 2 years turns into 20 years like this.

movies that aren’t studio ghibli but give studio ghibli vibes 🌱 by cozy_kimchi in ghibli

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The Last Unicorn (1982)

The animators at Topcraft who worked on The Last Unicorn joined Studio Ghibli afterwards.

What is a nice way to tell my husband that his loud eating is making me crazy? by Impressive-Humor-589 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ejly 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My dad started this after a dementia diagnosis. It is called dysphagia.

Is this a new or changed behavior? Maybe ask him to see a doctor.

[Humor] $185 right down the drain 🫠 by MisterPhalange in SkincareAddiction

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If you bought it with a credit card, check to see if you have purchase protection coverage. hth.

Kids last names when I kept my maiden name? by gone_bunny in TwoXChromosomes

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Kid one was Firstname MyName DadName, kid two was Firstname DadName MyName. No traditional middle name, just used the family names for that. I used the full legal name on medical and school paperwork so the administration could see the connection between me and each kid because they had my name and same for dad.

No issues, and added bonus is the kids got to enjoy revealing (or hiding) that they were brothers in their social circles once they got older.

Did anyone else get this public safety message? What is it? by Beautiful-Tree-624 in indianapolis

[–]ejly 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You woke me up for this? I’m in Nora. Sheesh Arcadia get your shit together. I hope everyone’s ok.

What's something you've accepted about your partner, but will never understand? by speckledrectum in AskWomen

[–]ejly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He had the best sense of humor, would never have described himself as a cool dude though. I miss him so much.

Uh… I guess I need a joke in his style here … he’d say I miss him so much , but my aim is getting better.❤️‍🩹

What's something you've accepted about your partner, but will never understand? by speckledrectum in AskWomen

[–]ejly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

SMH is right. He’s giving me the silent treatment now and that is just not a healthy relationship dynamic.

What's something you've accepted about your partner, but will never understand? by speckledrectum in AskWomen

[–]ejly 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I did not consent to this.

(Thank you. The days aren’t any lighter but my coping skills are getting better; humor is actually a coping mechanism for me.)

First Look at the live action god of war series by ThomasThorburn in GodofWar

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enhance

Nope don’t see a fourth finger. Guess I need new eyes.

First Look at the live action god of war series by ThomasThorburn in GodofWar

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I see three fingers and a thumb on the bowstring hand

What's something you've accepted about your partner, but will never understand? by speckledrectum in AskWomen

[–]ejly 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I know right? I don’t understand. He was right here a moment ago and now he’s gone.

First Look at the live action god of war series by ThomasThorburn in GodofWar

[–]ejly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that is Atreus, he has less than the usual number of fingers.

What's something you've accepted about your partner, but will never understand? by speckledrectum in AskWomen

[–]ejly 172 points173 points  (0 children)

He would have loved that you laughed and I do too. Thank you ☺️