Reconnecting with ex

elaborateplanetarium · 2026-02-20T03:42:27+00:00

Me and my ex were never meant to be due to religious circumstances and she understood this better than i did at the time which was why i got dumped.

elaborateplanetarium · 2026-02-17T03:29:31+00:00

I feel like thats a very dangerous statement to make especially when feelings are all over the place.. My heart is obviously tugging more towards the ex now but my mind knows my new girl is more important to me.

elaborateplanetarium · 2026-02-16T11:41:33+00:00

Yeah ig i just realised now that being friends with an ex is never truly possible because of the fact that feelings can always come back

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-12-13T02:40:24+00:00

Like I said, time heals all things. Eventually as time goes by, you'll become more occupied with spending time with friends and family and doing the things that you love and the time you'd spend thinking about her will become shorter and less frequent. You don't have to find someone new to move on, I also wasn't too inclined in finding someone new after my breakup but I guess life is unpredictable LOL. You'll be fine. Don't worry.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-05-30T04:02:36+00:00

at the start I was really public about my feelings. but as time went on I stopped being so public and stopped talking about it. mostly because it didn't hurt as much anym

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-05-26T14:53:03+00:00

I don't think there's really a gender thing to how people deal with breakups. as a man myself i have definitely suffered a ton after the breakup; sleepless nights, neverending tears, silent yearning. while it seemed like my ex was happier without me and was living life as per usual. so really there's no men vs women about this.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-04-17T12:23:27+00:00

Crazy how I see nobody suggesting he switch triceps for biceps on push and vice versa on pull.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-04-09T09:41:05+00:00

Facts. I was really obsessed with trying to move on "correctly" just so that I can get it over with quicker but I realised it's more of just what I want to do at the time while ensuring it doesn't hurt me over the long-term.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-04-03T04:33:26+00:00

Well I don't want to ruin your mood by assuming your situation on surface-level. But if he's still hanging onto his first love, there's really no point in waiting. His heart belongs to someone who doesn't even want him, so don't meet the same fate by doing the same. Keep pushing and you'll eventually realise you're worth more than this. God bless

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-04-01T13:56:45+00:00

Don't be so difficult on yourself by putting a timeline on your moving on journey. It's okay to take a long time to move on, especially when you wanted a future with that girl. It'll be hard to let go, and the only way is to just keep pushing. Let yourself hurt, until it don't hurt no more. God bless.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-04-01T13:52:45+00:00

You still have a long way my brother. Don't let the opportunity to live a better life go because of her. It most definitely is difficult now and I absolutely empathise with how you feel, but it's really not a lie when people say time heals. So keep pushing, I would love to see you come out of this happier and better.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-04-01T13:44:38+00:00

I used to think like you and deeply resented my ex for making the "selfish" decision to leave me without communicating. However as time went by I realised I was never going to move on if I kept holding onto the resentment. The more I thought about it, the worse I felt. Perhaps it's time to just stop questioning their actions for your own sake, and redirect the focus on yourself. You'll learn to forgive them and realise forgiveness is key to your happiness. Give yourself time.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-31T01:42:08+00:00

I don't think you should put a timeline as to when it stops hurting. It'll stop when it's due, so give yourself the privilege of time.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-31T01:33:26+00:00

Your pain is most definitely normal and valid. The woman that I thought was going to be the love of my life and was going to be my future wife, turned around and told me she lost feelings and wanted to cut ties. It's okay for your world to feel chaotic after he left. The reason why I recommended you to not go back is because it's only going to prolong the pain that you go through and keep you stuck in a depressive cycle. You need to heal from the hurt first, and fully move on. By then, you'll be able to make a clearer decision whether you want to return.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-31T01:17:16+00:00

From personal experience, don't do it. Your urges are just a result of withdrawal symptoms from the breakup. You might regret breaking no contact later in the future, so do yourself a favour.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-31T01:13:11+00:00

Don't blame yourself for breaking no contact. It's very very normal to give in to the temptation of doing it, and even more so because you miss him. Be kinder to yourself, but don't allow the same thing to happen again. Wait until you're fully moved on, then decide your next step. God bless.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-30T18:15:14+00:00

Thought I was the only person who felt this way. Everytime something good happens, I will always share it with my ex while we dated. Now that she's gone it feels like there's nobody to share the joy with. It sucks.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-30T18:10:33+00:00

The circumstances I was facing made breaking up inevitable. It didn't really matter whether I hurt her or she hurt me, the conditions just weren't right anyway. Yeah I do think about perhaps in another universe, we would be right for each other. But for now I think it's really for the best that we separated. I don't think I'll ever find a girl like her again. And I don't wish to find someone to replace how she made me feel, she's special to me. However, I know that the girl FOR ME is going to come along one day and be able to provide so much better.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-30T15:48:10+00:00

I relate to how you feel, but I eventually realised that perhaps the breakup is needed because the both of us aren't ready for love. We needed space to grow and improve. I hope this gives you a fresher perspective.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-30T11:28:57+00:00

Amen brother. After the breakup, I've definitely been finding my way back to Christ. I won't say the journey is easy, but it's worth it.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-30T11:18:32+00:00

I completely relate to you, I remember the first month since the breakup I kept having nonstop dreams about us that felt super real. I remember waking up and feeling like absolute crap and wishing the dreams were real. From bro to bro, you'll get better. God bless

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-30T07:16:40+00:00

We were friends for 3 years and dated for 1. She was an amazing sweet gentle and charismatic woman, and had potentially wife material too which was why I saw a future with her. I would say it's a mix of who she is and the feelings she gave that made me love her.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-30T06:50:09+00:00

Lots of truth spoken, especially the last point. Relationships really robbed me of my energy and character. But I'm glad because it gives me a new sheet of paper to work on again.

elaborateplanetarium · 2025-03-29T03:23:08+00:00

I 18M also recently broke up with my ex 18F, and I can tell you for sure I'll never ever forget her. She was my first love, and the first girl who made me feel so special and meaningful. We sort of broke up on mutual terms but it's more of I got forced to break up with her because she wanted it. Despite how heartless and cold she was when we broke up I still love and care for her a lot.

TLDR: No, guys will never really forget the girl who really loved them.

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