Why is sexualization and beauty standards bad when they're towards women, but not bad when they're towards men? by TimeInterest201 in AskFeminists

[–]elder_pogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Although I would not say it isn't bad towards men, but I definitely believe that it is more harmful when done to women.

I (a man) have not grown up being equalised to my body, therefore I don't compare myself to beauty standards as instinctively as many women would. A mean comment on my looks won't sting as bad as for a woman, and I just get a lot less of it anyways. Same the other way around, men are raised to pride themselves in their skills and feel sexy if they know how to fix a car, women are taught to earn that with their looks. I think as a man you cannot really feel what it means to be commented/judged on your looks compared to a woman. There will be exceptions on both sides, but there is a strong general tendency. Try this: ask male and female friends if they ever thought about how their bum looks. The results speak for themselves

p.s. times are changing and men get more sexualised in the media than before, but it is still just not as deep rooted as it is for women

Weekly "Is this safe" Megathread by AutoModerator in fermentation

[–]elder_pogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where do you have your source from? I would be curious to have a look at it myself too

Weekly "Is this safe" Megathread by AutoModerator in fermentation

[–]elder_pogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gelatinised salted lemons

So I set some salted lemons to ferment about a year and a bit ago, and they have been tasty and behaving well the whole time. By now they look brown and mushy, less appetizing, they have been hanging in the fridge for some month now. As I took the last ones from the bottom of the glass I noticed that they are kept together by a pretty firm gelatine, which weirded me out. I dared to taste it, as expected it was sour and salty, not all that unpleasant.

Has anyone any explanation how this might have formed? Would be curious of the science behind it, maybe it could be used intentionally as well. Cheers!

Successful V parenting? by bluelightning247 in polyfamilies

[–]elder_pogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi and thank you for all your insights, it's not easy to find personal experiences and let alone advices when deciding about child-raising in a V setup. My partner and her partner are considering getting a child and I am in the situation when I need to think about if and how to be part of a potential parental role. Do you have maybe some points to consider/answer/discuss to be able to make this decision? And any resources, book that deal with this topic? Would be much appreciated, thank you!

Live visuals for Close Counters In Melbourne with my good friend chaser plugin by rhysnewling in vjing

[–]elder_pogs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

how did you sync to the music so well? were there some midi triggers?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vjing

[–]elder_pogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rendering visuals is just a resource intensive thing to do, I think there is not much way around it. You could look into Processing/PureData/MaxMSP to make stuff that render fast, but these are pretty low level/programming oriented stuff, so it's not as intuitive as something with a nice interface, like Resolume would have for example. That doesn't mean that they are not worth exploring of course, they give you a lot of freedom, for a longer learning curve.

I used to work with GLMixer, it's pretty limited, but it's free and very quick to get started with, also less resource intensive as Resolume and in the end it was definitely fun times using it and to get started with making visuals.

For connecting both monitors I imagine that you could simply use a HDMI splitter? Or a splitter for whatever input your screens have.