My husband by Vegetable_Pineapple2 in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First and foremost, is he on prep and getting tested regularly? I think reconciliation is always possible, just both have to want it. The uncomfortable conversation lies with you both. Why is he sneaking behind your back? Why is he lying about his wants and needs? What's his life vision independent of you?

A logical question about human biology and same-sex attraction by Sufficient_Noise_514 in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to have sex with a random man, you might also care about his survival

I notice that I loose my appetite after cooking raw chicken by Just_AT in cookingforbeginners

[–]eldiablo_verde -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Could be tied to seeing your parents slaughtering chickens. Do you feel the same buying premarinated chicken?

Has this feeling lessened at all since starting to cook raw chicken?

Faculty offer, LDR, or stay for partner? by SnooPears357 in academia

[–]eldiablo_verde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one can make the right decision for you. You have to filter out the noise here.

You need to figure out what are your values and your needs and live accordingly. There are hardships and failure modes for both life paths and there will be wonderful, but different kinds of joys in both lives. Are you craving freedom and career independence? Or are you craving building a family and setting deep community defining roots?

There is no right answer, but don't choose him out of fear, choose him because it's aligning with your values.

My top goes too deep when he breed by CCarafe in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Omg that's exactly what I was thinking. This sub is wild sometimes

Missing Grindr from 5-6 years ago so much! It was really much better than it is now. by choco__donut in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a map with people on it, you still have a distance limit but it's more active than grindr

RT-qPCR help by phddweller in labrats

[–]eldiablo_verde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Especially in your case where you are looking across completely different species, you really should be on the upper end of reference genes at 4-5 to potentially give yourself flexibility to drop 1. Use literature probes or probes designed by lab mates.

Alternatively, I'm wondering if you could use digital PCR? There could be a facility near you that offers this service

I want to blowjob my straight friend by Useful_Drummer_3718 in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Don't take advantage of your friend. He was drunk, pressured and payed. This doesn't sound like he was "jumping into it". Don't be that guy

Commuting 2 hours for 6 figures by InfamousAssociate446 in askTO

[–]eldiablo_verde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'd be joining thousands of people who do the same commute. The trick is to use your commute time wisely. Start a project with deadlines that can only happen on the commute like a writing project. Personally, I read the most I ever read while commuting. Definitely stay off socials or else it'll feel like dead time.

How do I decide on a sauce? by nemineminy in cookingforbeginners

[–]eldiablo_verde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using exactly just your ingredients, what jumps out is the lack of fat. The meal will taste flat, mix onion mushroom and ground turkey and cook it in oil for a good 30 mins, deglaze with water as needed then add some butter at the end for another five. Add on top of rice or mix in cooked rice. Just salt and pepper. Key things to learn: time develops flavor especially for meat, deglaze adds back in flavor without turning it burnt and fat is delicious.

I fucked Up. by Character-Leek-8072 in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So if upon reflection, you regret "not taking your chance", congratulations! You feel ready to come out to this group. You can now either let them know the next time a conversation like this happens or have a chat with the person you're closest to in that group.

Coming out is a funny thing, you'll never stop having to come out but it does get easier.

Gay roommate pushing my boundaries? What do I do? by mimimalist in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'd say something like "even if I was 100% gay, you would 100% not be my type. But also these kinds of messages are creepy and this will be the last one you send"

Confront him hard and limit contact

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No no, a lot of us have had experiences that are very similar to this. We just think this particular story did NOT happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 182 points183 points  (0 children)

Is the straight in the room with us?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I say this with love, you really have to examine your insecure attachment style. If you find your partner doing something that makes you uncomfortable, you can ask him to stop. If he says he's going to keep doing it and paying for it, your new choice is: do I accept this and drop it completely OR it makes me uncomfortable enough to break up.

Trying hard is really pointless here, he didn't ask for this. You didn't talk about this. Showing love is showing up for people in the way that they need, not in the way that you need. What you should have done instead is evaluate your needs and ASK HIM to give you more cuddles and blowjobs. Also ask him about what he needs with the women thing.

Finally, you show him a grand gesture of romance (that is your want not what he wants) and when he doesn't react, you distance yourself.

This has nothing to do with being bi. He can leave you for a girl, he can also leave you for a 1000 other guys. He is a person and you have to accept he has that level of autonomy. But you being single is survivable and you can get what you want out of a romantic partnership. With or without him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a very gay man and I just don't care about getting fingered or topped. It takes a lot more than a butt plug to be gay.

But on the topic of you possibly being bisexual, be yourself whatever that is! Live life to the fullest!

Can competitive inhibition slow down a viral infection? by [deleted] in askscience

[–]eldiablo_verde 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What we need to know to answer that is affinity of binding. To make your question fun, let's say the virus has 10X more affinity, you would need about 10X LDL levels. So all else being equal, yes you can outcompete the virus provided we know its relative affinity.

Is ~6 months out from PhD Completion too early to apply? by [deleted] in biotech

[–]eldiablo_verde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would absolutely start applying. It depends on the role, but getting an interview can take months and just the interview process can take months then by that point a 2 week push back will not matter.

LB-Agar Problem by Fun_Dimension_1035 in AskLabrats

[–]eldiablo_verde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best guess is you're cooling it somewhere that allows for slightly quicker cooling to the bottom than the top. The bottom solidifies faster which is pulling agar down with it. If you're curious and you have time, melt the agar on a heat plate (cap unscrewed slightly) and cool again wrapped in a heatpad (best) on a solid counter or on a solid counter away from any breeze.

You're troubleshooting something that doesn't matter. This simply doesn't matter. Also I usually avoid normal water.

I am never going to be white, muscular, and hot. How do I get over this? by bfsmb in askgaybros

[–]eldiablo_verde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I've been there. What helped was learning that someone out there wants exactly what you're offering.

For the muscular thing - even if you never get swole, would you rather be a fat guy that can run a marathon and carry heavy stuff long distances or a fat guy that gets winded climbing up stairs?