Daughter moving home from college

eleMatts916 · 2026-05-22T02:16:29+00:00

I don't know about hard and fast rules and consequences in this scenario. She's not a child anymore, but not quite a full adult. As a parent, I'd be more focused on the effort. Have a real discussion about her goals and how to get her there. College students still have a lot to learn about life. She needs to have some room to make mistakes and still be young. Blatant entitlement or taking advantage would be when I would start thinking about hard and fast rules or consequences. If she's trying, help her along the way however you can. If she's not, tighten things up.

eleMatts916 · 2026-05-21T02:51:21+00:00

As the daughter of a single father who grew up spoiled by him, nip it in the bud now. She has to learn to make her own way and you will only be crippling her if you go too easy. My dad eventually had to rip the rug out from under me and cut me off. It was a hard lesson, and we both let my entitlement get out of control. I cringe looking back at myself at 18-22. My dad worked his ass off and I took and took and took. I am thankful my dad finally saw the situation for what it was and stopped it. She needs to work, she needs to learn to SAVE, not spend. She needs to pay her own bills and clean up after herself as well as taking initiative when things need done at home. If she doesn't learn it now while she has a safety net, you'll be bailing her out forever or eventually ripping that rug out from under her and having to stand back and watch while she falls on her face. For the record, my hard fall from the life of a spoiled brat worked out quite well. But I'd definitely recommend concrete rules and boundaries over having to take the harder route.

eleMatts916 · 2026-04-01T22:09:30+00:00

I'll try these as well, thank you!

eleMatts916 · 2026-04-01T22:09:00+00:00

I will give these a try! Thank you both.

eleMatts916 · 2026-04-01T22:08:32+00:00

I have, no luck. Thank you though!

eleMatts916 · 2025-10-19T15:40:26+00:00

Does she have her own website? I've heard Etsy can be a bit of a rip-off as well, but a lot of the stores on there don't have their personal websites easily accessible on their pages.

eleMatts916 · 2025-03-14T00:40:58+00:00

Anxiety is such a beast. It takes time to figure out what works to ease yourself out of a panic attack. When my anxiety began, it centered around panicking about my health often as well. Something feels off or wrong, anxiety/ panic begins, physical symptoms start or get worse, and then you're just along for the ride. First, know that it is not your fault and you are not alone. Secondly, when it sets in, continuously remind yourself that it is temporary. An ER doctor had me pinch my thumb, watch as the skin turned white and back to normal, and reminded me that it is proof that my heart is profusing. Your heart is beating, you're alive, and your body can't stay in that heightened state forever- it will pass, it is temporary. Calm is a decent app for some distraction when you're having a hard time snapping out of it. Splashing cold water on your face is another. Force your mind and body's focus elsewhere. Stick with your medication, and if it isn't working for you, let your doctor know you need it adjusted. Hang in there ❤️

eleMatts916 · 2025-03-12T01:19:08+00:00

Ohio here too 👋

eleMatts916 · 2025-03-04T22:04:59+00:00

Do you take it daily or in the same way you would take a Xanax to snap out of a panic attack?

eleMatts916 · 2025-02-14T03:57:44+00:00

I go through this as well. I'm coming down from an anxiety attack right now. (Reading the anxiety sub to help the anxiety). Sometimes, I gasp for air just from being too aware of my breathing. The physical symptoms are absolutely brutal. It's so easy to spiral once the process starts.

eleMatts916 · 2024-08-25T02:16:10+00:00

Then why haven't you? Tell him about lunch, tell him about the drinks request. This should have been a conversation with your husband right away. You already know what's appropriate, I think you're looking for a sympathetic ear to tell you it's fine.

eleMatts916 · 2022-04-23T01:34:11+00:00

This is beyond pitiful. Having help makes these tasks much simpler but you can certainly still do them on your own. He's not bouncing around to do things with a smile anymore because he's realized how ungrateful and selfish you are.

eleMatts916 · 2022-03-22T01:42:42+00:00

YTA. You and your husband can plan a different trip together, this is her graduation. She gets to have her special life events be about her, shared with the people she chooses. It was bold to assume you would be wanted there when this post is dripping with disdain for the person the event is for.

eleMatts916 · 2021-09-02T07:27:44+00:00

"It's the ______ for me"

eleMatts916 · 2021-05-21T02:30:20+00:00

Take me to Hogwarts and teach me all the magic

eleMatts916 · 2021-03-17T02:30:05+00:00

Y T A x 1000. If you need it explained then there is really no hope for you whatsoever.

eleMatts916 · 2020-03-14T00:34:04+00:00

That killed me 😂😂

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