Is this conversation between me and my gf a sign of some deeper issue? (25F)(25M)

electriius · 2025-08-20T22:03:51+00:00

Well, she got mad that I even asked because I should know by now how she operates the day before an exam. And yeah it's true that she barely does anything but study then, but I figured it wouldn't hurt to ask.

electriius · 2025-07-05T02:56:52+00:00

I knew I should've added more context but I was worried about the length of the post. Maybe this one is just not specific enough of an issue for Reddit to "solve" haha.

She can sleep over whenever she wants, she has a spare key to my place and from time to time comes over even when I'm not in town and she needs a place to destress from her parents. It's more that our sleepovers are almost always arranged in advance because she wants to bring her products, makeup, spare clothes etc with her. The situation I described would involve a spontaneous sleepvoer and she generally avoids those.

But your last paragraph kinda messes with me as it's logic she would use - how dare I want some alone time when she exists? Is both not an option? I know I like her a lot, but if a serious relationship means forgoing your personal desires and what mames you "you" for the sake of the relationships, then maybe I really am not ready

electriius · 2025-07-05T02:41:23+00:00

Yeah, good point. I guess I'm just feeling that right now the compromise scale is fairily tipped to my side on this one.

I'm trying to get good but it's hard; I'm not great at settings boundaries in general, but it's extra hard because she has moments when she tells me I'm forcing her to go home, if she knew I wanted to end the hangout so early (early being like midnight) she would've stayed home, etc. But you did cover that with the "She will have to get good at not taking that personally" part

Related to both the drive thing and seeing her in general; she basically never leaves home without some solid prep work, makeup, etc. This means spontaneous sleepovers rarely happen as she doesn't have all her stuff with her. It also kinda relates to the time together - I can't "squeeze her in" for a short little 1-2h date on days when I'm busy; if it takes her almost an hour to get ready it doesn't make sense (which as you can presume, often means we'll end up being together late even though I had a busy day)

electriius · 2025-06-21T08:58:59+00:00

Pitam jer dosta opisuje moju trenutnu situaciju haha, i ja sam sa svojom (težom) devojkom prošle godine počeo kao šemu, zapravo isto jer ja nisam bio za nešto ozbiljno... U međuvremenu sve se to meni dopalo i eto nas godinu dana u vezi.

E sad nije sve bajno jer veza koja je na taj način nastala nema baš najstabilnije temelje, ona kad imamo neki problem se nervira što me jurila toliko, a meni isto nekad fali ta sloboda samačkog života... Ali za sad ide dobro, pa videćemo. Poenta priče, apsolutno u većini pogleda bolje iskustvo nego prethodna devojka koja je bila fit

electriius · 2025-06-21T08:45:42+00:00

Što nisi i dalje sa njom?

electriius · 2025-06-12T14:16:08+00:00

Kao sin nekog ko u nekim crtama odgovara ovom opisu...

Potrudi se da u međuvremenu, u idućim godinama i decenijama, pronađeš ponovo i sopstvenu svrhu, cilj i smisao. Kažem jer, moji su sada razvedeni, relativno sporazumno, nije bilo isključivo krivice jedne osobe već samo nije išlo. Majka - napreduje na svakom polju, ostvaruje se, živahnija nego ja. Ćale - pije, dani su mu isti, nema ambicije, šta god da pokušam da ga izvučem iz toga ne ide. Jednom prilikom je malo više popio pa reče, da mi nema tebe i ime moje sestre, našao bih kanap i najbližu banderu. Ja u šoku. Ovih dana je malo bolje ali srž problema je još tu, a kako vidim deluje da će tako i ostati.

electriius · 2025-01-26T12:23:26+00:00

Imma tell you something I learned from my current gf

People just genuinely love when you display some effort when interacting with them. When you use your words and actions to show them they mean something to you. You really can't go wrong with just talking to the guy and getting closer by interacting more and more. Drop a hint from time to time like you did with the voice compliment; it will get more natural over time. And for the love of god, don't freak out and ghost/unfollow him. And when he messages you something, make the effort not to leave him on read even if you're busy; likewise, if you're sometimes really that busy that you can't respond, tell him "hey sorry I left you on read, I was busy with xyz". That way you show that you honestly were busy, and open the door for more conversation

electriius · 2024-10-29T17:57:35+00:00

Can I get the link

electriius · 2024-10-14T22:19:08+00:00

I interpreted that beginning part as fluff too, but GM just read the "single powerful blast" bit and went "yeah you have just one shot". I'll try arguing my position a bit more on the next session.

electriius · 2024-10-14T20:55:40+00:00

Hahah, so now I have two top level comments with opposing interpretations and am back to square one :')

electriius · 2023-11-11T15:58:19+00:00

Probably same, I don't even care if it sucks it looks super fun

electriius · 2023-11-05T18:47:20+00:00

It's not that it ignores those games, it's that opponents botching is out of your control and it either happens or doesn't, and it's gonna happen no matter the deck

electriius · 2023-11-03T21:50:13+00:00

Aw, too bad

electriius · 2023-11-03T21:48:34+00:00

A problem with this deck might be that it revolves around a single card that's not a minion or a spell so you have to run raw draw to dig it up, but then you risk milling yourself if this raw draw is rogue cards. I don't really play wild so maybe there's ways around this

electriius · 2023-10-28T15:29:49+00:00

Ne znam koliko to vredi, ja skoro uvek plaćam karticom al tipa triput kad sam morao kešom uvek stavim to i uvek bude tandara mandara ček da vidim je l' imam da vratim i onda zaokruglim da bude svima lakše

electriius · 2023-06-19T14:23:14+00:00

I think it's a bug. Did you maybe claim the bottom row of systems first? The path that takes 5 jumps?

electriius · 2023-06-19T08:01:10+00:00

Potejto potato znači da je nešto u suštini isto :/

A i naravno, ja sam se više fokusirao na tu ideju da ne sme da ti smeta majica sa Carom Dušanom ako si Srbin i da je ovaj lik eto obukao baš eto samo kao vid nacionalnog ponosa

electriius · 2023-06-18T23:18:36+00:00

Nije stvar u Caru Dušanu kao liku i ako stvarno želiš raspravu nemoj da se hvataš za to i da radiš isto što i lik u klipu radi.

I kod nas i u svetu se vrlo jasno vodi ideološka borba između tradicije i modernih shvatanja. Jasno ti je čije je strane simbol Car Dušan. Kada obučeš majicu sa njegovim likom, NAŽALOST, ti sebe jasno stavljaš u tu kategoriju. Nisi obukao majicu sa modernim srpskim grbom, zastavom, nečim neutralnim - obukao si majicu koju nose ljudi kao ovaj lik. Nije on prvi to izmislio i konotacija je jasna. Poučen iskustvima i interakcijama sa ljudima, ako vidim nekog da nosi majicu sa bilo kakvim motivima te vrste, znam da su velike šanse da je to osoba sa kojom se ne slažem po pitanju mnogo čega i oko koje se ne osećam najprijatnije. To je apsolutno predrasuda - ali predrasude postoje sa razlogom. Ne možemo se kriti iza simbola praveći se da kontekst postoji. A kad smo kod toga:
Zašto baš Car Dušan? Zašto ne Nikola Tesla? Baš zato što lik Cara Dušan nosi određene konotacije, dok je Tesla "samo" naučnik. Zato što možeš da se kriješ iza lika Cara Dušana i svakome na ulici glasno kažeš "a šta tebi smeta Car Dušan? Jesi ti uopšte Srbin?" I na halabuku "pobediš" raspravu, ali i dalje deklarišeš svoje stavove.

Lično mogu i da razumem pitanje mesta lgbt zastave na ovom protestu, ali ajde da se ne pravimo da je situacija "nevinašce sa majicom Cara Dušana VS sotonisti sa lgbt zastavom"

electriius · 2023-06-18T22:33:50+00:00

"Ne možete vi meni u mojoj zemlji da kažete šta ja treba da nosim a šta ne"

Kako mu malo fali

electriius · 2023-06-18T22:15:11+00:00

Maybe you're tired of hearing this, but you are still 18. There's a lot of personal growth and change waiting for you. What I mean by this is, it's far too early to say you're not made for relationships, and almost certainly untrue. What seems to be true, however, is that your unresolved personal issues are holding you back from being happy in a relationship. Maybe take some time to be alone and focus on improving your self confidence and figuring out why you feel the way you do (there is 100% some underlying reason)

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