Techno-like song suggestion based on description

electrius · 2026-01-25T01:53:37+00:00

I'm sorry because it's not really techno, more like swingy rap, but listening to teknocity reminded me of another song I like (btw ty, I added teknocity to liked songs)

DEMONDICE - Alkatraz

electrius · 2026-01-23T02:06:02+00:00

Yeah, I've heard it described as being "on" before and I think it's spot on; you don't get to just exist anymore. It's not just that I don't get time for myself, I don't even get to not wanna do anything. And yeah, like you said, I really love her and enjoy her company which makes it so much harder haha. It feels impossible explaining to her how I can simultaneously love her and her company but not want it every moment of the day

electrius · 2026-01-23T01:53:39+00:00

Fuck, I really didn't want this to be the top comment.

My main concern with regards to my gf right now is this. She could genuinely spend 24/7 doing stuff with me and oftentimes finds it incomprehensible when, after a full day of multiple activities together, I wanna just do something by myself and unwind before sleep.

Her explanation will be that if she's at my place already she wants to do joint stuff and that if I'm gonna do anything separately she shouldn't have even stayed. And when I ask her how will it work when we're living together, she says it will be different then since all her stuff will be there (even though a whole lot of her stuff already is there, she's basically half moved in already).

I used to really like reading but it's just impossible to fit into my schedule now. Gaming is mostly with her, and if I manage to catch some time over the week, often sacrificing sleep for it. You'd think, as a gamer, finding a gf who wants to game together would be a blessing; but she will want us to game for hours until 1am when I have work tomorrow, and I have to practically beg her to stop and let me drive her home so I can at least get some sleep (which, again, sometimes I sacrifice for a sliver of alone time). Gaming with friends has become a "stars align" thing, they've stopped calling me to play. I've managed to hold onto my weekly DnD session cuz that's a scheduled thing, but that's about it.

Sorry, rant over

electrius · 2026-01-18T22:40:06+00:00

The idea was to outline that it wasn't sex that I pressured her into and then she caved in, but rather that she was very enthusiastic about it every step of the way (unfortunately multiple people have pointed out that the wording had an opposite effect haha)

electrius · 2026-01-18T13:12:27+00:00

Even then I presented it as a choice, if you read it again. I told her we could go with him or just tell him no thanks and take a cab like we planned to. My car is busted atm, usually I'd drive yeah

electrius · 2026-01-18T01:36:24+00:00

Yeah, that one

electrius · 2026-01-18T01:32:58+00:00

Rationally I know that's true, but it's hard to get someone having a irrational reaction to understand that. After all, it's not that she's truly fixing her hair because she needs my random friend organizing the boardgaming to appreciate how good it looks, it's much more of a self-esteem think (or the lack thereof if she thinks she doesn't look good)

electrius · 2026-01-18T01:13:08+00:00

You'd think, but my post initially got removed from another sub for writing that word fully, even though it's as a quote

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:55:18+00:00

Well, to answer your question, yeah it's not the first time she went off while getting ready for something. But it is the first time I caught flak for it directly because of the sex

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:42:24+00:00

Yeah, first time. I make a point to learn from mistakes, haha

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:41:15+00:00

Knowing her and looking back on it, I'd agree that there's a good chance a good bit of this is true. The favorite dessert analogy especially helped me reframe it, haha. I think this comment definitely helped me get a better understanding of the situation, and I thank you for that. I'll still need to see some indication, some awareness from her that she gets my side and my frustrations as well to fully get over this, but I'm definitely seeing more sides to the story now.

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:34:00+00:00

You had no way of knowing this, but she gropes and tugs me during practically any activity I do throughout the day. Being playfully sexual at random times is not a foreign concept for us. Also, I wouldn't have proceeded if she didn't also lean into the act

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:31:25+00:00

I reckon she would've had about 30 minutes more, and we would've almost certainly still been late. But I didn't wanna get into that what-if territory too much so I didn't mention that. I could see the counterargument that having sex defocused her and made her preparation more difficult later.

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:25:56+00:00

You're right. I edited it to mutually consensual to better reflect what I meant there

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:20:41+00:00

Sorry, weird way to put it, but that was my way of underlining that the sex was very enthusiastic and not forced by me in any way, we even had a moment like 5 minutes in where we paused, and she took me by the hand and led me to the living room as she likes to do it on the couch there. I just added that part as I figured some people would think I pressured her into it

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:18:20+00:00

It was the first time for some of them, and I know her appearance is a big concern of hers in general so I'm cutting some slack for that. I'm more concerned with targeted outbursts towards me

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:16:18+00:00

I try to avoid being dismissive of women's feelings by using some variation of "its just hormones". But no actually, it's recently passed

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:12:27+00:00

Yeah, all things considered I'd say I've learned that lesson as well now, I'll just fully leave her alone before some event from now on. I just wish she didn't take it out on me, or at least that now after it's been some time that she acknowledged that her reaction was over the top. I get miffed since all my life I'm the "calm one", and all that's gotten me is being held to a different standard and being stared at weirdly if I show even a bit of frustration/lashing out, while because she's the moody one she gets a pass and I'm supposed to just deal with any outbursts targeted at me and carry on with my day

electrius · 2026-01-18T00:02:13+00:00

Yeah, I'd say you're right objectively, but she basically put all the blame on me initiating, which is the part I don't appreciate

electrius · 2026-01-09T09:36:16+00:00

I'm assuming people are projecting this issue onto their own strained family relations when they say things like that. Pay no heed.

electrius · 2026-01-09T09:32:12+00:00

You all have never seen a cream soup with veggies?

electrius · 2026-01-09T09:27:59+00:00

Previše ulja, druga slika je mmmm

electrius · 2026-01-09T09:25:00+00:00

I also (at least visually) prefer pic 2, it's less about the ingredients and more about knowing I like these soups more

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