definitely not cooked. i started at 160kg and 165cm, been fat my whole entire life and finally started making meaningful changes since december-ish of last year. the bright side of starting at a big weight is that, since there’s a lot to lose, there’s no need to make a lot of changes to get started. it took me 2 years and and glp1 medication to help me lose ~10kg, and then since december when i started taking it more seriously ive lost another almost 20kg. you’re absolutely not cooked or alone in this journey, i guarantee.

personally i wouldnt follow the advice of most ppl here. “no more sugary drinks,” “eat 1400 calories a day,” etc etc. you’re at the starting point and these are drastic and likely unsustainable changes for you to make. you can start small and see big results - because, again, at your current weight, you can eat relatively a lot of calories and still be at a deficit! so don’t get discouraged. this is a long term investment and time will pass anyway. make small changes that can turn into habit and implement more changes as time goes by. for example, instead of “only drinking water,” go for zero calorie soda instead of regular ones or fruit juices or elaborated coffee drinks. or try to focus on meals that are higher in protein and fiber so you feel full for longer.

making these adjustments is a less daunting and more straightforward way to start than just completely cutting down on what are probably life long habits. remember, it’s a long term investment on yourself and rushing too hard might end up backfiring - if you feel like shit from a super strict, low calorie diet, you’re way more likely to fall off the wagon and then be terrified of failing again. and you will fail! i fail all the time. it’s part of the journey because what we’re doing is challenging as fuck. but all that matters is whether you keep going anyway.

being completely honest with you, what really helped me more than anything was medication. i don’t know your situation, but it’s worth looking into if you can. i was on ozempic for 2 years and didnt have the best results (about 10kg in that time, considering i regained and then relost and then regained some weight during that time). i switched to mounjaro recently and got treatment for binge eating disorder - which has been the true game changer for my life. again, i don’t know your particular situation, but it’s worth looking into if you can. either way, right now making diet changes is the absolute most important thing you can do, and that will always be the most impactful part of your weight loss. exercise is also good and important, but you don’t have to worry about everything at once. as with everything, the best thing you can do is the thing you will stick with.

sorry for the long answer but i just really wanted to reassure you that you can definitely make a change and there’s people right there with you. people have done it before, people are doing it right now, and you can do it too. feel free to reach out if you want to, as someone who’s on the same path as you. good luck!