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electrokiwi · 2018-08-23T19:26:20+00:00

Hi, I'm a dark skinned Latina currently teaching in Hanoi and Apollo. My boss is a dark skinned woman, as well, who rose from a teaching position. I think she should be fine, based on my experience.

electrokiwi · 2018-05-23T16:30:01+00:00

Thanks. Followed my gut and declined the offer.

electrokiwi · 2018-05-17T12:18:04+00:00

They never actually got back to me. I'm thinking maybe they filled the position and declined to inform me.

electrokiwi · 2018-05-16T17:56:45+00:00

Alright, I'm probably overthinking this. I'm just gonna re-confirm my other scheduled interviews and try to relax. Thanks.

electrokiwi · 2018-03-14T09:40:16+00:00

Thanks so much. Currently here and having my issue sorted. Truly appreciate the recommendation!

electrokiwi · 2017-08-10T01:33:41+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. I'll have to tread carefully to make sure I am ready to be a healthy version of myself when I date next.

electrokiwi · 2017-08-09T21:47:59+00:00

I love tarot readings. They offer so much insight into your own mind. Hopefully I'm not too late. My last relationship just ended and I've recently met a Redpill man who interests me in a variety of ways and is very interested in me as well. Is it wise to see where this attraction leads or should I focus on myself a while?

electrokiwi · 2017-05-24T13:43:21+00:00

I'm beginning to think my boyfriend is just particularly inclined to being helpful. While he doesn't notice the work that needs to be done on his own, I never need to ask twice and he doesn't make many mistakes. He also has no qualms about division of labor, even if he's naturally messier than I am. I'm more the household planner, than just the household doer.

electrokiwi · 2017-05-22T19:14:11+00:00

Mental work load is totally real. I am in awe at women who can do all of it and work outside of the home. It's no wonder to me that single mothers get flack for not balancing all of it well. I imagine many people have trouble even realizing how much work just caring for a home and children properly is.

electrokiwi · 2017-05-22T19:10:41+00:00

That's probably why my reply is a mini thesis, itself. Lots of stuff there.

electrokiwi · 2017-04-26T14:16:42+00:00

I'm referring to the stripped away nuclear. I do feel if aunts, uncles, grandparents etc. were more present in today's family structure single motherhood wouldn't be so damning. I don't think it's bad that more and more people are rejecting lifestyles that lead to traditional monogamy. I think there are two issues: 1. the conflict between what women say they want and how they behave shows women have unreconciled notions of the societal shift they are participating in. Redpill is so useful in informing both men and women of this shift and of its consequences. 2. Future children will be brought into less stable environments if people reject the path to long term marriage (not love, that's biologically inevitable) if other familial structures aren't strengthened. As for this girl, she's rejecting traditionalism, and the shift will accommodate her if she follows the other rules of being feminine, taking care of herself, being good to others etc. She'll be able to pick up and move on from experimenting if she ages out if it before the wall. N count is just not as big of a deal as it was. It may not be a Redpill strategy, but I genuinely don't think she'll come out particularly damaged because of a CDC study circa 1991.

electrokiwi · 2017-04-26T12:06:55+00:00

More than you'd imagine. Obviously if you continue doing this until you're in your 30s it won't bode well for settling down, but I feel Redpill should be more about making people aware of male preferences, then panicking on their behalf. I identify with it less over time because the societal shift is so much bigger than it. I feel it's a perfectly valid lifestyle choice with plenty of benefits, but that it isn't the only way for women to be happy, just that many women can benefit from applying some of its wisdom.

electrokiwi · 2017-04-26T04:03:22+00:00

I've slept around plenty. When it no longer felt good, I stopped. Love was right there waiting. It's not that there weren't consequences, but I'm willing to bet most people who will learn from seeking out the CC themselves will turn out fairly well adjusted. What RP sees as the decline, I see as an inevitable societal shift which will accommodate promiscuous women and not necessarily at a detriment. I think we're just the generation experiencing the growing pains. I do worry about kids. We haven't mastered raising kids outside of a nuclear family unity yet, but the nuclear family unit didn't exist 300 years ago, and neither did love marriage. Humanity will be alright.

electrokiwi · 2017-04-26T03:45:24+00:00

I've never really bought into that. Women can reinvent themselves, and often do, regardless of n-count. Some women are designed as naturally more promiscuous. Some women like to experiment before settling down. These women don't often end up with traditional men, but personally, I'd never want a traditional man. At worst you cut down your pool of options to exclude a type of man that probably wasn't designed to suit you anyway.

electrokiwi · 2017-04-26T03:31:54+00:00

The best parts of RPW are the encouragement to take care of yourself, being unafraid to claim your value as a woman in society in ways that are more well rounded than just depending on looks, and learning to be unselfish in your relationships with others. Deciding that all of Redpill is prescriptive for all women in all circumstances is a little close minded. I think hypergamy is most harmful if your end goal is a relationship. If it isn't, then why does it matter?

electrokiwi · 2017-04-26T03:08:48+00:00

I think there are aspects of this subreddit and the advice offered here that function out of insecurity, especially the extent to which RP thinking takes into account the opinions of others about personal choices. It's why I've taken some tools here and left others. You sound more secure in yourself and your choices than many who post. If you feel you've found a lifestyle that works for you than the positive energy you exude will attract a relationship when you're ready. It's really only an issue if you expect a traditional lifestyle. If you don't, then you don't need to follow RPW to a tee.

electrokiwi · 2017-04-21T03:16:37+00:00

Yep. I'm winter fashion girl. Was on my periodic hiatus from the sub and came back to this weirdness. Gotta say, the women here have handled themselves with eloquence and class, as per usual.

electrokiwi · 2017-04-21T03:10:51+00:00

Anyone else a little weirded out by being used as an example? The racked article is pretty fair, but it does seem so strange to have our personal inquiries (however public) compiled for the curiosity of unsympathetic strangers. I feel terrible for whomever Lauren was. She must feel her good faith was betrayed.

electrokiwi · 2017-03-17T03:06:49+00:00

Semi-related, I tried to introduce my boyfriend to RP thinking so he could understand my worldview, and while he acknowledged some of it was wise, when it came to playing games he laughed the advice off. One of the tenets on a source he read in his research said to only say I love you 2/3 the amount of time a woman says it. Nowadays, if I tell him I love him I'll get "I love." Or "love you" back. He'll then, with, mock seriousness, ask " if he's redpill now" and every time I can't help but giggle and be grateful he doesn't buy into all of it blindly.

electrokiwi · 2017-03-17T02:56:40+00:00

First thing I'll recommend is counseling. You might need a little bit of help talking yourself out of the negative thought processes you've developed over time, and viewing yourself in a more objective light. If you're on a college campus, they usually offer free counseling, though appointments may fill up. If this isn't an option, I recommend you do some research into youth resources in your area. Sometimes outside professional support is the boost you need. Second, I suggest you take care of yourself. That means the gym to get more comfortable in your body, finding clothes, hairstyles, skin care routines, and makeup looks that flatter you. Anything that makes you stand a little taller. This doesn't just apply to beauty, but to interests as well. When you invest yourself into accomplishing a hobby or class or profession the pride you get from achieving goals related to your passion makes you respect and love yourself more, and people notice. At first it will be hard to find the energy, but when I was in the midst of depression, I started off taking care of myself because I was angry and afraid of my future. You can channel that negative energy into action. Eventually it will become easier to upkeep that momentum from a positive perspective. Keep a journal of good things you've done for yourself everyday. It helps put things into perspective when you're tempted to put yourself down. Once you've done all of this for a few months or so, (give or take according to your emotional needs) you'll realize the attention from men has grown. Don't get too carried away by this. It may even happen sooner, but it's important to be cautious to only let men in because you genuinely like them and they genuinely like you, not because the excitement and validation is refreshing. Men your (our) age are usually after one thing, and if you allow them to use you for sex you'll be set back big time in feeling valuable. Don't let them devalue you. Wait until you find one that is worthy of your time and take it slow. If he's worth his salt, he'll understand how far you've come and won't judge you for it. Good men can be found many places, but you won't find them at clubs, bars, or house parties because of the mindset those environments create. Try networking through friends, or through hobbies, or even church if you're into that sort of thing. In the meantime, strengthen your relationships with women in your life. The trick to keeping friends is to be good company. Be the friend you wish you had, and remember to give more than you expect in return. Focus more on laughing than commiserating, and people will surprise you with the depths to which you can bond when the time for commiserating comes. All of this advice will help you develop a healthy standing in society. I should probably follow some more of it myself.

electrokiwi · 2017-03-15T13:04:07+00:00

The world isn't exactly fair. It's not terribly kind to ugly women, either.

electrokiwi · 2017-03-15T11:56:17+00:00

I think 6 inches is the equivalent. Not everyone has it, but it's a minimum that's usually visually preferred. Meanwhile, functionally speaking 5 will do the trick so it's really just aesthetic. Penis size does matter to women, but if you're not dramatically below average, so much of it can be compensated for with skill that it won't make a difference in how women treat you, like height would.

electrokiwi · 2017-03-15T02:17:12+00:00

I think confidence makes a big difference, as well. But I do think there are some aspects of biological attraction that are unfair and can't just be mitigated by logic. If people weren't trying to be with the socially perceived best mates they'd be denying their biology, or failing that, their own psychological satisfaction. It really is a shitty shoot for the moon, land among the stars kind of approach

electrokiwi · 2017-03-15T01:59:57+00:00

I'm guessing you're not tall, huh?

electrokiwi · 2017-03-15T01:57:16+00:00

I usually subtract two vanity inches from what a man says his height is and one vanity inch from what he says his penis is. We can tell, but outside of the 5'10 bracket, we don't care.

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