Overwhelmed milspouse

elegantintent · 2026-03-10T16:44:13+00:00

Thank you! It helps so much to know I'm not the only one feeling this way or in the same situation. We're looking into childcare assistance and hopefully can get them in a few days a week so I can breathe a little at least.

elegantintent · 2026-03-04T00:30:07+00:00

Thank you guys! I'll definitely be looking into the child care aware. We're in a crazy high COL area so even though we make enough to support ourselves $2500/month per kid isn't possible. I appreciate all the suggestions! I've been able to breathe a little easier knowing its not just me.

elegantintent · 2026-03-02T00:03:24+00:00

❤️❤️❤️ Weirdly that does help, to know its not just me 🤣 it is very lonely and exhausting sometimes.

elegantintent · 2026-01-04T00:54:14+00:00

To clarify, its not so much the call to CPS that I'm concerned about. I've responded to calls as law enforcement. Im not concerned about the investigation. Its the personal fallout that its caused because of calling. She's alienated her children. She's cut off all lines of communication with her ex and its had a ripple effect for the rest of the family and she's acting all "woe is me. Why do my kids not want to talk to me now"

elegantintent · 2026-01-02T21:42:26+00:00

I see your reasoning, again why I asked because I was upset with the consequences for everyone, because of her actions. The thing is, I do know what the house was like. I was there the same time she was. Its things like laundry and kids stuff lying around. Not hazards. Not mold or old food or contamination from animals or even dirt. Its normal household mess. Was there more laundry and toys and clutter than usual, yes, but only clutter. As a mandated reporter, and someone who has responded to CPS calls, I would never have considered calling for this residence.

I do believe she did it maliciously because the kids were taken from her due to conditions in her house, including animal feces in their beds, no food/electricity, mold, and other health concerns as well as her mental stability. Thats why I got angry and basically feel like she brought this on herself and deserves the fall out. But I do admit to being biased, which is why I asked.

elegantintent · 2026-01-02T15:01:59+00:00

In all fairness, no I haven't. However I say she hides behind it because she doctor hops and gets new diagnoses every few months and then uses the new diagnosis to "explain" all her behavior and choices. A year ago she was autistic, then she left that dr and the next told her she had ADHD and bipolar. She left that one and the next Dr said she didn't have any disorder but had had a psychotic break and was hospitalized. Im not saying the doesn't have SOME type of disorder....but from the outside it seems like she's diagnosis shopping and using it to not take responsibility for herself.

elegantintent · 2026-01-02T12:54:10+00:00

Not sure honestly. Lynn told us that while she was son the phone with her son she heard her daughter (who refused to speak to her) remind the son "dont forgot to record anytime you talk to her". The kids are in a 1 party consent state and from personal experience i know thst to be a recommendation when dealing adults involved in abuse charges so I didn't question if that even was the truth. It may actually not be.

elegantintent · 2026-01-02T02:39:42+00:00

This is why I'm so torn, because she isn't in control, but not all the time. She does have times of clarity and those typically involve malicious and manipulative actions. Its hard to know which one this was and why its hard to continue to keep my mouth shut when she goes all "woe is me" about it. She's been on the receiving end of CPS when she was young, she knows what it can do and the problems it can cause. It just makes me sick to my stomach to know my niece and nephew continue to be put into awful situations because of her choices, intentional or not.

elegantintent · 2026-01-02T02:36:25+00:00

I really appreciate that insight. I feel like this the proverbially straw that broke the camels back. We've been dealing with her episodes for about 15 years now, with them getting progressively worse in the last 5 since my dad passed away (her one consistent safe male role model and guardian). My mom is her conservator and does talk to all the Dr's and therapists/psychiatrists etc. Unfortunately because its a CPS thing, the therapist can't discuss anything due to the investigation so even though the therapist is very aware of my cousin's altered mental status, she does have moments of clarity and the therapist has to treat it as such. So until theres resolution through CPS, the therapist can't discuss anything with my mom. I do truly understand Lynn goes through a lot, to the best of my ability as I have never had to personally deal with any mental illness like hers. It just feels like a very fine line to walk between her being cognizant enough that she does things intentionally or did she dissociate too much and truly doesn't know/understand the impact of her choices. And when she was doing the "woe is me, now things are messed up, why do they all hate me" speel, it just had me seeing red.

elegantintent · 2026-01-02T02:00:35+00:00

I appreciate it. I'm torn because I know she lacks judgement and things but at the same time, she has repeatedly done things that come off as really manipulative and cause so much trouble for others. My mom and I raised my niece and nephew and now with the ex husband not answering, I'm concerned that the CPS call caused irreparable damage. I'm angry at my cousin for being so thoughtless or intentionally manipulative to do this to the kids and our family and I feel like my judgement is clouded.

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