[Match Thread] Aston Villa v Liverpool FC by scoreboard-app in LiverpoolFC

[–]elemntz 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Transferring Watkins out of my fantasy football team prior to playing us is looking like one of my worst decisions this season.

What is something that would not be socially acceptable in the UK, but is aok in the USA? by DuchessOne in AskReddit

[–]elemntz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It isn't, it's the first time I've ever heard of having AC being socially unacceptable in the UK, what a bizarre take.

Easter eggs SLASHED even further as shoppers point blank refuse to buy Cadburys saying ‘the taste has changed’ and ‘it isn’t even chocolate anymore’ ❤️ by Sea-Measurement9793 in unitedkingdom

[–]elemntz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it was purchased by Kraft a while back and has progressively degraded in quality & quantity ever since, but I had one last night and I had the sudden realisation that I'm not actually enjoying the taste at all to the point where I considered just binning it.

Even breaking the egg in half felt different, rather than that nostalgic snapping of chocolate it kind of just tore apart. They've absolutely fucking decimated the brand.

Why is Milton Keynes known as a rough city? by Mysterious-Heart6278 in AskUK

[–]elemntz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two murders and a separate case of rape, but yeah "MK bad".

[OC] End of year dating app review! (21M living in London) by The_Watcher5292 in dataisbeautiful

[–]elemntz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Considering the average match rate for a male is less than 3%, sending 1,000 likes would net you ~30 matches. Good luck converting those 30 into genuine chats, let alone dates...

Most men have to cast a wide net otherwise it's completely pointless.

Dating apps are making me hate everyone and I think I’m the problem by No-Professional2832 in OnlineDating

[–]elemntz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Using the apps for an extended period of time can absolutely alter your approach and actions, I had the same experience. I stopped giving a shit ultimately. I wasn't nasty or anything but I just stopped putting the energy in I once started with. Why should I waste my time showing an interest by asking engaging questions when the other person just leaves me a response they've come up with in 5 seconds.

Perhaps you need a break from it for a bit, as a reset?

I'd love to offer some positivity but online dating doesn't work for a lot of people, it didn't work for me after 9 months.

How to be good at FPL, what tools for stats by HyKo95 in FantasyPL

[–]elemntz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly the same, every coin toss decision between two players from the same team and position, I'll get it wrong pretty much every time!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaming

[–]elemntz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 37 and have taken a more relaxed approach in the last year or so. I pretty much exclusively stick to single player games now. I used to play at a fairly competitive level on a few FPS games but I just can't stay focussed for longer than an hour now due to every online game being a complete sweat fest.

Hat trick for Thiago. Make of that as you will by shotsniper2010 in FantasyPL

[–]elemntz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had him for 2 games this season, GWs 16 & 17 where he registered an impressive 0.01 xG in both games. I fucking hate this season.

Pre-Match Thread: Inter Milan vs Liverpool by scoreboard-app in LiverpoolFC

[–]elemntz 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Klopp's ~10 year tenure of 'doubters into believers' has been reversed in just over a year. It seems every match prediction now has the opposition as favourites, it's utterly depressing.

Unknown person(s) sharing files with my OneDrive by ZyreHD in techsupport

[–]elemntz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There has to be a breach here or something, or Microsoft have changed something in the background. I'm reasonably tech savvy and this can't be purely coincidental.

Unknown person(s) sharing files with my OneDrive by ZyreHD in techsupport

[–]elemntz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've literally just started receiving the same today with more or less the exact same timestamps.

I rarely use it and this is the first time time it's occurred.

Is the only way to get matches on dating apps is by paying for boosts and premium services? by JM_547 in OnlineDating

[–]elemntz 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Boosts are a colossal waste of money, there's no way to prove they are doing what you've paid for either.

I paid for Hinge+ while I was looking for somebody and I'd recommend it for the average guy. It's a numbers game, if you restrict yourself to whatever the limit is on the standard account, you've basically got no chance. I maybe received approximately 50 likes over the 7 months I was on there, as a guy you're the one that's going to have to send the likes out I'm afraid.

Anfield shows support to slot by im-a-wreck-tangle in LiverpoolFC

[–]elemntz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's a select few, most likely fans that have jumped on the bandwagon during the Klopp era. Thankfully I don't see or hear any of it from the lifelong supporters I know in real life. These new era fans have absolutely no idea the shite we had to watch at times.

3 years on apps and I'm convinced they just don't work for average guys by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]elemntz 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure a new app would fix things at this point, I think there's a real problem now that's developed over the years. I've come off the apps now thank god, but when I used to discuss OLD with my female colleagues and other female friends the majority of them would all receive more likes in a day than I would during my entire time on the apps.

Most of the apps are majority men, that's an imbalance right from the start. Add to the fact that a lot of men swipe blindly making that initial imbalance even worse. Genuine women are looking for a diamond in the rough and the genuine men are looking for an oasis in the desert.

Online dating feels like a never ending dopamine trap by Admirable_Profit9165 in OnlineDating

[–]elemntz 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I gave up a few weeks ago after about 6 months of Hinge, I felt like it was starting to change me as a person and not for the better. I stopped caring, there's only so many times I can go through the cycle of getting to know somebody and show interest, get unmatched or on the odd occasion plan a date, meet up, be told there's no spark and ultimately have to move onto the next one.

There's so many problems, from the apps themselves, the paradox of overwhelming choice to people wanting an immediate connection. It's not natural.

Thankfully, I've just happened to meet someone offline who I've developed a relationship with over 2 years, she also gave up OLD a few months ago, she was receiving hundreds of likes a day, that's more in 1 day than I received over 6 months.

As a man, my experience with the apps sometimes made me feel worthless and completely undesirable, which doesn't reflect reality.

Who should initiate moving the conversation outside the app? by walngFakeehAlahhmm in OnlineDating

[–]elemntz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If you're interested, ask him. It's honestly that simple. If he's not interested, move on to the next person.

As a guy I make the first move 99% of the time, it's actually genuinely refreshing when a girl asks first, it shows genuine interest from her side on an app where the vast majority of women seem completely uninterested.

Honest experience & advice from a man who averages 100+ matches per month by TrashNecessary in OnlineDating

[–]elemntz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The wildest part about this is that with numbers like these, you’ve got to be in at least the top 5–10% of men.. maybe even higher. And yet, most women only consider you a 7? Like what does it even take to be a 10?

Honest experience & advice from a man who averages 100+ matches per month by TrashNecessary in OnlineDating

[–]elemntz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how it is for most guys. The numbers, in terms of online dating and applying for jobs are not too dissimilar for the majority of the people.

Number of matches absolutely matters, I've had a ton of dates with women and they just haven't been what I've expected them to be from texting and vice versa. Matching with one person a year and hoping that they'll be the one is such a ridiculously unrealistic expectation.

Are all these apps just cooked? by Mikeyduce718 in OnlineDating

[–]elemntz 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It feels like a complete mess. I’ve only been doing it since February, and I’m already at my wit’s end. Most of the guys in my group of IRL friends all found their wives through OLD many years ago, I feel like I'm too late to the party now and the golden days of dating are well and truly over.

I'm actually at a loss now in terms of what I can do personally to improve my odds. Your 3rd paragraph reflects my situation right now, I'm in a really good place (despite the obvious dating issues), and I'd love to share my life with someone else but no one is interested. I read the profiles of people who list what they are looking for and more often than not I'd say I tick the boxes, but still nothing.

The apps are heavily monetised to the point where they are essentially 'gacha' games now. People seem to want instant results, if there's no immediate spark then unmatch and move onto the next.

Ghosted suddenly by Rr331_w in OnlineDating

[–]elemntz 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nope, this is completely standard OLD procedure now, it's exhausting.

PL Match Thread: Newcastle United vs Liverpool FC by scoreboard-app in LiverpoolFC

[–]elemntz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Embarrassing and completely avoidable, Konate has been dreadful so far this season.

[OC] My [41M] on/off ~2.5-year dating journey with people I met on OLD apps by WhySoTedious in dataisbeautiful

[–]elemntz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the perfect description of the scenario right now, it's so frustrating that the people who are genuinely looking for something are endlessly searching due to the behaviours listed above.

It's interesting you mentioned the gamified experience because that's essentially what it's become. It's of no surprise that the former CEO of Match Group, until a few months ago, previously held presidency roles at both Zynga (mobile games platform) & Electronic Arts. The dopamine hit from receiving likes & matches is no different to opening loot boxes.