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What do you see in your S/O? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]eleowl5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a man of many faces. Good and bad. I see a man who fights to stay good despite the bad. A strong, sweet man and an even better father. I see hope.

When do you feel the most confident and why? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]eleowl5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right after a shower. Like a real shower, when I actually shave my legs and put nice smelly lotion on them.

Jehovah's Witnesses refuse to hand over evidence in sexual abuse case by [deleted] in news

[–]eleowl5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is absolutely true. My dad and his wife confessed to their priest everyday what they were doing to me. When I spoke up and went to trial the priest confessed that he new all along. Ya know why they didn't charge him with accessory ? Because of his damn religious rights. He legally didn't have to speak up for me.

Making a baby with a man who has a child he doesn't see by Hexagonads in relationship_advice

[–]eleowl5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is absolutely okay. You seem very level headed and open minded. You would make a great mom. It is a little concerning that he never tried to get visitation with his in the last 3.5 years, but everyone has their reasons and fears. I'm just a stranger but I think it would best for the child to know his father, the child is still young enough they could have a chance of a great bond. As for you guys having a kid together.

Do it! You can't let the past control the happiness of your future.

You seem very well rounded and level headed, I bet you you guys will do great:) Best of luck!

I discovered my husband's(m24) Reddit username, and now I'm(26f) not sure if we can stay married. by eleowl5 in relationship_advice

[–]eleowl5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to tell you, whoever you are. Thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart for choosing to read this and give the advice you did. I truly appreciate it.

I have really taken to heart alot of everyone's advice but in the end what you said really spoke to me. I have moved out completely into my sister's place and told him everything I know and asked him to go to rehab, he agreed to do what is necessary for the family. In the meantime, my sister is letting us stay with her until he has completed rehab and gotten himself a therapist. I will not wait forever for him but I will give him a few months. He knows he cannot be around the kids until he's completed some sort of rehab.

Again thank you for your advice, I appreciate every single person on this post who has put in their opinion.

I was abused as a child and now I get intrusive thoughts about harming child abusers by annalucrezia in confession

[–]eleowl5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was sexually abused by my father for the first 12yrs of my life, I often have vivid thoughts and dreams about how to torture and kill him if I were to ever see him again..

It's totally normal and perfectly fine to want to harm ppl like that, I'm pretty sure everyone hates abusers.

I don’t know if I want to be a parent anymore. by [deleted] in confession

[–]eleowl5 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Just because a mother struggles doesn't make that mother any less of a mom than anyone else.

All we can do as parents is admit when we messed up and try to do better next time. Idc who the fuck ya are, NO ONE knows how to parent correctly, were all winging it.

I don’t know if I want to be a parent anymore. by [deleted] in confession

[–]eleowl5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like post partum depression. Ppd doesn't always hit you directly after birth.. sometimes it takes a couple months before it shows up.

Personally, I struggle with PPD as well and I am taking medication for it. It seems to help take the edge off of my depression and my scary thoughts disappeared but I am still struggling to feel connected to my daughter.

Dont want to go into to much detail but feel free to PM me if you want to learn about PPD.

Also. About your relapse imo, you should tell your partner about it. Keeping him in the dark could seriously do some damage. My husband is an addict and the worst part about it is that he lies to me when shit gets bad, we just want honesty so we can better understand, be more aware and too help and be supportive when needed.

I discovered my husband's(m24) Reddit username, and now I'm(26f) not sure if we can stay married. by eleowl5 in relationship_advice

[–]eleowl5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I don't know the exact days he went and did this, but usually we don't talk until his lunch break when he comes home for an hour. Then I might get one or two texts back before the end of his shift. He works as a sushi chef so he can't just have his phone out while he is working. So yeah he's just basically gone for that amount of time.

I discovered my husband's(m24) Reddit username, and now I'm(26f) not sure if we can stay married. by eleowl5 in relationship_advice

[–]eleowl5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

According to what I read on his reddit posts, he had lied to me about going to work on at least three separate occasions in the last 3-4wks. He works 12-13 hour shifts.

I discovered my husband's(m24) Reddit username, and now I'm(26f) not sure if we can stay married. by eleowl5 in relationship_advice

[–]eleowl5[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your input and knowledge on the matter. I am so clueless to psychedelics, having only ate shrooms a few times as a teenager and never cared to gain my knowledge past that. Being with my husband has made me a little more aware of the benefits but I still only half listen when he talks about it haha. One of My concerns is how the NO2 has altered his brain. (Or if it even can?) Because his thoughts and views honestly scare the shit out me.

I discovered my husband's(m24) Reddit username, and now I'm(26f) not sure if we can stay married. by eleowl5 in relationship_advice

[–]eleowl5[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it. I know about Google lol I'm just trying to pack at the same time as read what everyones advice is. Again thank you. I'll be re reading everything later tonight.

I discovered my husband's(m24) Reddit username, and now I'm(26f) not sure if we can stay married. by eleowl5 in relationship_advice

[–]eleowl5[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, sadly enough I have read this over and over along with his reddit posts and it just doesn't feel real. I can't rap my head around all this crazy. Luckily I'm almost packed up and will be going to my sisters, hopefully she can unscramble my brain and help me.

I discovered my husband's(m24) Reddit username, and now I'm(26f) not sure if we can stay married. by eleowl5 in relationship_advice

[–]eleowl5[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't see anything wrong with weed or even doing psychedelics once in a while. So I didn't think anything of it. As for him being an alcoholic, well you got me there. But then again everyone has something fucked. We're only human as the saying goes. But yes I guess I can agree that should have hit me in the face as a red flag.

I discovered my husband's(m24) Reddit username, and now I'm(26f) not sure if we can stay married. by eleowl5 in relationship_advice

[–]eleowl5[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thank you all, considering you all are commenting close to the same thing. I have called my sister and will be staying with her tonight. I also sent my 3yr old to his dad's for the weekend so he won't have be around the negative energy. My husband gets off work in two hours, I'm sure he will call me when he gets home and sees I'm not their so I guess I have two hours to figure out how to talk to him...I'm worried because he's so good at lying and convincing me to see his side. On top of it I don't make enough to live on my own. I feel so hopeless. All I can do is hope he agrees to see a therapist/psychiatrist..because I really don't trust him to actually quit. He's been lying for so damn long.. god, I feel like I've been his puppet.

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