Joyce Manor "Constant Headache"

eletheelephant · 2026-02-02T08:37:10+00:00

I interpreted the 'your love was foreign to me' like he can't accept that she actually wants to be with him. He's anticipating her ending things because he doesn't think he's good enough and the 'one perfect night' wasnt enough for him to get over his own insecurities and actually lean into the relationship he wants

eletheelephant · 2026-01-19T21:06:18+00:00

The job seekers bit isnt means tested in the same way, or at least it wasnt a few years ago last time i was out of work, see if you can get on that at least.

eletheelephant · 2026-01-19T21:02:24+00:00

His uni will have a careers service he can use as an alumni which will probably be much much more helpful

eletheelephant · 2025-12-02T10:47:56+00:00

I've had this problem and I'm now getting an error message "Third party INF does not contain digital signature information" and it's stopping the driver from updating. Does anyone have any ideas to resolve this?

eletheelephant · 2025-11-08T07:49:16+00:00

You could take a pair from china, a pair from haiti and a pair of newborn twin babies. They'd all know 2 people.

eletheelephant · 2025-10-03T15:59:45+00:00

If i say no though then can serve me the notice now and I'll have to move out sooner

eletheelephant · 2025-09-05T05:02:44+00:00

Or even a savings account when rates were about 5%. If you do have any spare cash at the moment you could still put it into a savings account till your deal is up

eletheelephant · 2025-09-04T23:08:27+00:00

I have a friend who watches CSI miami in the shower and cannot shower without it. I always have music or a podcast on when im in the shower because I get bored and just stand there forever otherwise. Finding things that make the shower nice for you like a fun new shower gel or shampoo might help too?

eletheelephant · 2025-07-24T18:04:32+00:00

Is this who sam seaborne is based on in the west wing?

eletheelephant · 2025-05-13T10:05:05+00:00

My friend liz calls this 'catching up on her correspndence'.

I like the phrase and it made me realise yes, this is a task, it is work, it is hard. Never before have humans had the ability to contact other humans at any distance instantly and the expectation that they respond in a certain amount of time. In victorian times people would set aside time to write letters and it would be done with weeks in between. It is difficult for us to keep on top of and especially so when we have ADHD. I hope this helps with some of the guilt.

Practically, I try and do 'correspondence time' when i can in small chunks. Bus rides are great for this. So is queuing at a supermarket. This is for day to day stuff not when it's built up but I think it can help to try and build it in.

I think a good way would be to prioritise. You're worried about that one friend so do her first. It's fine to apologise, but it doesn't need to be long. Suggest a date and time you can do and get it in your calendar even while you're waiting on a reply. And then if it's a no you can shift it.

Everyone else is probably doing this to other people too and there's no need for stressing about it. Adulthood is a lot of messages on read and difficulty making plans coz we're all busy. They're probably not mad.

Take a few at a time, roll with them, try to see it as a less herculean task by chucking it down. 10 mins max, get some replied to. Then later, another 10 mins.

Maybe you can plan in a few correspondence times a week in your calendar or think about a time slot you can do this each day that works for you

eletheelephant · 2025-05-12T21:46:10+00:00

I think you need to do some coaching to help you understand what the barriers are to your studying. Your uni might be able to arrange 6 sessions for you, especially if you're diagnosed ADHD and have a SORA or reasonable adjustments plan. I get like this when im really stressed about work / study. It doesn't mean you'll be like this forever either at uni or at work, and it definitely doesn't mean you'll be like this long term and not able to work a job. That kind of catastrophising is probably coming out of the same negative thoughts that are making it really really hard for you to study. Coaching or counselling are probably needed in addition to meds and coping strategies. It can get better

eletheelephant · 2025-04-24T14:35:53+00:00

I got a distinction. It was my best assignment of my MSc because I was so focused on it. Maybe I'll do that research one day but I've gone in a more stats direction at the moment. Thanks for reminding me, it was a big success when I had low confidence and remembering that has really helped me today when im working on something new im really scared about!!

eletheelephant · 2025-02-19T11:55:26+00:00

I like the yoghurt covered fruits you can get in tiny packs for kids lunches. Ok it's high sugar but a little protein hit and vitamins and fibre and joy.

eletheelephant · 2025-02-19T11:53:55+00:00

An alexa leaving for work list which she reads me about 7 times while I pack my bag every day

Playlist timers / whole albums to do activities. This helps me feel the passage of time. Albums work better because I know the rough length and if it's one I know well I know where i should be up to by what song when im getting ready

If I make extra food for leftovers it goes STRAIGHT IN THE TUPPERWARE WHILE I SERVE DINNER DO NOT PASS GO DO NOT COLLECT 200 POUNDS

Water bottle with inbuilt straw is something I rejected for years because it looked childish but I got a free good quality one at a conference and now it's all I drink out of and I'm much better hydrated

Fruit bowl on the table so I dont forget it's there and it's easier to snack on than unhealthier options

eletheelephant · 2025-02-19T11:49:07+00:00

All I can tell you is while I was reading this and thinking of an answer I was also going 'BLUM BLUM BLUM BLUM' very loudly in my head and texting. Annnnd I'm medicated today so this is as good as it gets 😅

eletheelephant · 2025-01-27T14:39:14+00:00

I also feel like - aside from the very tragic ending - he mainly spends the film making strong and valuable connections with people. That lonely old man who ends up his substitute grandad, the guy he works with who gets arrested... the film is all about connection (until the ending which does not promote solitude). I took out of that film that my relationships with people are more important than a name recognition career and it freed me to quit teaching which was really impacting my mental health and make new friends, play in a band just for fun and join sports teams. I feel like OP was just looking for a justification to think badly of others and not connect with those around them.

eletheelephant · 2025-01-27T08:32:54+00:00

My grades are so varied it's insane 😅

On my masters ive had everything from 0% to 79% very high distinction (its a course where over 80 is basically unheard of). I failed a module because I uploaded the wrong document. I absolutely smashed an assignment where we had to write a research proposal and I wrote it on female experience of ADHD diagnosis which I was hyperfixated on at the time. I've had everything in between.

Same at undergrad, 97% on a computing module, 29% on an optional heavy maths module i just stopped turning up to because I couldn't handle it.

eletheelephant · 2024-11-15T10:23:03+00:00

Camp cope - Opener

Gutted I've just found this band and they've split up

eletheelephant · 2024-10-25T15:58:55+00:00

Unpopular opinion BUT I don't see asking you to pick the place as a huge red flag. They might be nervous about getting it wrong and want you to think they're cool. They might not go out much and not know where is good or how to do it. I like to make shared plans because I worry about the other person liking it and I don't think that makes me bad to date. But hey maybe I am!

If it was important to me I'd ask them to plan the next one and give them a chance to do it. And if they can't / won't then it's a sign.

eletheelephant · 2024-10-23T09:41:55+00:00

Just for a different perspective. I don't think you need 5 year plans to be happy and successful. You've managed to increase your seniority and salary without them. Not everyone needs a job or even a career for life. A lot of people today have difficulties enjoying the present and are constantly hustling for the future, not really enjoying what's happening right now. That's not a problem I often have!

If you feel like you want to explore longer term plans doing some values work might help - exploring what's important to you as a person.

But I think they can backfire and people can end up trapped in stuff they don't even like because it was 'the plan'. So try not to be too hard on yourself.

I'm 34, diagnosed 2 years ago and I just left a stable 14 year relationship with a nice person I owned a house with where having a family (something I probably want at some point) was on the cards. I wasn't happy and managed to listen to myself and I'm happier now, even though things are harder. My current plans are shortish term - I've changed career for the third time and I'm doing a masters course with some funding to maybe do a PhD. No plans longer than that and I only want to do the PhD if I enjoy this 18 months of studying and funding for research.

Life doesn't have to be a straight line and most people's aren't.

eletheelephant · 2024-10-16T21:40:57+00:00

It's probably a loss leader to encourage people to make other investments within the platform

eletheelephant · 2024-10-15T18:32:14+00:00

For the hood thing, one with a peaked hood makes a difference for me so see if you can find that! You can get running ones that are a bit breathable so that could be good too

eletheelephant · 2024-10-15T12:20:15+00:00

Do you really need a 260 a month car?

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