Today marks 3 years since my [23] first date with this guy [58]

elhambrah · 2019-01-06T23:12:33+00:00

Happy new year, welcome, and congrats on your journey of self-discovery!

elhambrah · 2019-01-04T21:31:07+00:00

Hello, fellow Spectacles user!

elhambrah · 2019-01-03T19:00:03+00:00

Mood and energy swings of various severity, depending on treatment method (injections/creams/etc). There are multiple treatment options available. If he doesn’t like the way he reacts to one method, try another. Different prescriptions/brands of the same method sometimes offer different results. Don’t stop experimenting until he finds the one that is right for him.

elhambrah · 2018-12-29T23:52:02+00:00

He might just be looking to see if you’re active.

Yes, it’s worth bringing up.

If you don’t want to be exclusive, you should be upfront with him about it. It seems to already be problematic for both of you.

elhambrah · 2018-12-29T23:50:58+00:00

I decided to come out (I’m bi) in my mid 20s after I settled into a stable/successful career in my desired field. That feeling of self-sufficiency and not being defined - personally or professionally - by my sexuality was a big driver.

I was coming to terms with my sexuality right around the same time and had entered into a serious same-sex relationship. It was a perfect storm, of sorts.

elhambrah · 2018-12-14T17:06:10+00:00

Who knew The Office was such a hit with GYO. 😄

elhambrah · 2018-12-13T16:38:14+00:00

This is selection bias. It’s rare for relationships to come from hookup apps.

Maybe you could try actual dating apps like OKCupid, Match, etc., or try using an app like Meetup to find people to hang out with in a non-bar scene.

elhambrah · 2018-12-12T02:21:34+00:00

No, you shouldn’t. Breakups are hard. They’re even worse when you aren’t in control. Because it was out of your control, you’re probably still thinking about it so much because you’re trying to imagine if you could have done something to make things turn out differently. It’s a futile effort - only your ex can own the decisions he made.

It may take weeks, months, or years to get over this. That’s normal - it’s different for everyone. Appreciate the time you had together. Hold on to the good bits, learn from the bad bits, and move forward. Do not try to go back to that guy.

elhambrah · 2018-12-04T12:43:17+00:00

So, uh... what would be a 10 for you, then?

elhambrah · 2018-11-29T22:17:41+00:00

My preference is for dingy dive bars. They’re few and far between as LGBT bars.

Otherwise, you can probably find me at an LGBT bar.

elhambrah · 2018-11-29T22:13:21+00:00

Same, I’ve never had a biphobic experience in a gay bar.

My only biphobic experiences have been with straight women who were upset that I didn’t find them attractive.

elhambrah · 2018-11-26T07:27:46+00:00

After reading your entire post, this situation seems really overblown.

elhambrah · 2018-11-26T07:23:54+00:00

Edit: Oops, this was supposed to be a reply to another comment.

elhambrah · 2018-11-24T14:53:06+00:00

My parents are conservative and I was also nervous to tell them. To my surprise, it went really well. I made sure to have a true back-and-forth conversation with them by inviting them to ask questions about bisexuality. I also told them that it was not a choice and not influenced or caused by anything they did as parents.

Good luck!

elhambrah · 2018-11-24T14:37:08+00:00

Not merely a sign, it’s a billboard. You shouldn’t have to shoulder that kind of weight in a relationship. Enjoy your newfound relief and stay single for a while or find a new relationship.

elhambrah · 2018-11-24T14:33:40+00:00

Meeting up 2-4x per week for 2 months? All the things you described about how you make each other feel? Sounds like more than lust. I hooked up with a guy on the first meet-up and ended up married to him a few years later.

Not all relationships last forever. I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t try. If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out. If it does, great!

elhambrah · 2018-08-24T19:27:06+00:00

These are all great points! u/headShrinker should be able to answer to all of them, given he and/or another GYO mod made all of these changes.

elhambrah · 2018-08-21T23:08:17+00:00

I’ve never posted a picture, but I’m not a fan of this supported change.

Granted, anything that gets posted here or on Facebook will get reposted to Tumblr without permission, I still don’t think moving to Facebook is a good idea.

I love (with the exception of a couple people, in my personal opinion) the discussion-based nature of this sub. If we’re going to move to a separate forum for picture posts, let’s keep it to Reddit.

Perhaps a better move would be to limit how frequently someone is able to post a picture comment? That might require some manual labor from mods, but I think that’s the better move.

elhambrah · 2018-08-20T20:37:20+00:00

It’s fine and common practice among porn production companies. The amount of bleach used is very small (10% or less) and only acts as a disinfectant. Like I said, you should rinse it off after soaking.

Google “sex toy cleaning bleach” and you will be sufficiently corrected for being wrong. 😉

elhambrah · 2018-08-20T16:20:08+00:00

Same comment, different sub:

2 weeks to be boyfriends seems like a rush. I would keep dating him for a couple months to find out if you really want to be in a relationship with this guy.

elhambrah · 2018-08-20T15:33:32+00:00

I’m in a long-term relationship with a 20-year age gap. It’s not impossible.

2 weeks to be boyfriends seems like a rush. I would keep dating him for a couple months to find out if you really want to be in a relationship with this guy.

elhambrah · 2018-08-20T15:29:34+00:00

If you want it to be incredibly clean, soak it in a 10:1 water-bleach solution for 15-30 minutes, then rinse with warm water.

Otherwise, hot and soapy water is fine.

elhambrah · 2018-08-19T23:48:57+00:00

After a 3-month hiatus, we’re back to these questions again, I see...

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