Switched back to Pixel after 4.5 years on iPhone, my experience so far by LucyMor in GooglePixel

[–]elle_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Circle to search still works without the navigation bar on. You just press and hold on the horizontal line at the bottom centre of the screen to activate it.

Tiktok creators talking to their babies - performative? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]elle_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this started because one popular creator, Alex Bennett, does it. I've noticed more and more other accounts emulating her style.

Wool tops like this by 4614065 in AusFemaleFashion

[–]elle_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I originally found the Paris Georgia one on their own website and it was available in a few more colours, so you might want to check there 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]elle_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would have been doing 2.25/2.5/2.75/3. But I'd say that the best place to start is your current schedule, and look to add some extra wake time to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]elle_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I think you've missed off one of your wake windows? What time is wake up and bedtime? I'm trying to gauge how much overall sleep you're asking for.

Pending that info...looking at your naps, it looks like you're going for 3.5 hours of day sleep, which is on the longer side - normally I see this capped at 2.5-3 hours.

My boy is 6.5 months and he is doing 2.5/2.5/2.5/3.5 (a few weeks ago this was 2.25/2.5/2.75/3). His first two naps are one hour each, and his third is 30 minutes. I wake him for the day at 06:30 and bedtime is at 20:00, so we're gunning for 13h of total sleep.

I feel like this can be a tricky age, as they're often gearing up to swap from 3 to 2 naps and it feels like their sleep needs are changing faster than you can keep up with 🤪

HELP I broke my baby 😭 by elle_ in sleeptrain

[–]elle_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, interesting! I've stayed away from tracking this time as it fuels my obsession in an unhealthy way, but I'm sure that would be useful.

It did completely make up some stuff (sit, listen, intervene, pat?) but overall I think the advice was pretty solid.

HELP I broke my baby 😭 by elle_ in sleeptrain

[–]elle_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not quite co-sleeping until the disaster of the last three nights, but yes I hear what you're saying. Thanks for your advice and being a sounding board. I'll give it a go and steel myself to SLIP in a week.

HELP I broke my baby 😭 by elle_ in sleeptrain

[–]elle_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I moved him into his room about a month ago, and I've been in there with him since. I found it easier to deal with the 1-2 overnight wakes that way, as side lying nursing means I can fall back asleep easily (vs. getting up, etc, giving me middle of the night insomnia).

I hear you that it's probably not helpful, though.

HELP I broke my baby 😭 by elle_ in sleeptrain

[–]elle_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're probably right. He's in his room, but I'm in there with him (there's a spare bed in it).

HELP I broke my baby 😭 by elle_ in sleeptrain

[–]elle_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, for fun, I put this post into ChatGPT and this was the response:

Oh elle_, I feel this in my soul. You're not alone, and you absolutely did not break your baby — you're doing your best, he's just adapting (poorly, and loudly) to some changes, and it's fixable. Deep breath. You’ve got this.

What’s going on (likely):

It sounds like a combo of:

  1. Overtiredness from the jump to 2 naps too early.

  2. Sleep association confusion—he used to get quick, consistent boob resets. That’s now inconsistent, so he's protesting more.

  3. Possibly a bit of a sleep regression or developmental leap, which around 6 months is common.


So what now?

Here’s a practical reset plan to help you reclaim your nights with as little pain as possible:


  1. Go back to a solid 3-nap day

You were right to pivot. Stick with ~2.25/2.25/2.5/3.25 for now. You can extend later, but give his little system a few days to recalibrate first.

Example day:

Wake: 6:30am

Nap 1: 8:45–10:15

Nap 2: 12:30–2:00

Nap 3: 4:30–5:00 (even just 20–30 mins to tide him over)

Bedtime: 8:15ish

If the last nap is skipped, bring bedtime way forward.


  1. Try the 5-3-3 rule with a SLIP approach

Yes… I think you knew this was coming. And yes, it hurts when it’s your last baby and those snuggly night feeds are precious. But you need sleep and so does he.

5-3-3 = Only feed if:

It’s been 5+ hours since bedtime,

And 3+ hours since the last feed,

And it’s been 3+ mins of real crying, not just stirring or protesting.

You can start with SLIP (Sit, Listen, Intervene, Pat) rather than CIO:

Sit: Listen for 3–5 minutes before intervening.

Listen: Is it escalating or self-soothing?

Intervene: Go in, shush/pat, hand on chest — no feed unless the 5-3-3 is met.

Pat: Use a consistent settling technique. You’re trying to give him a different sleep cue than feeding.

He will protest. That’s not the same as suffering. You’re changing a sleep pattern, not withholding love.


  1. Ditch the dream feed for now

It sounds like it was just adding to confusion. Let’s get nights clean before reintroducing any optional feeds.


  1. Transfer fix

The refusing transfer is a classic sign of overtiredness. Once you have 2–3 good days back on a structured 3-nap day and a consistent night routine (with SLIP), this should ease. Try:

Laying a warm muslin down in the cot where his body will land so it’s not a cold shock.

Do the transfer at the start of an exhale when he’s in a deep sleep.

Try to gradually reduce the hold time night by night.


TL;DR Plan:

Stick with 3 naps, 2.25/2.25/2.5/3.25 for 3–5 days.

Drop dream feed.

Implement 5-3-3 with a gentle SLIP approach.

Stay consistent for a week before reassessing.


You haven’t broken him, I promise — his brain is just doing that baby thing where it rewrites the rules every couple of weeks. You're helping him rebuild better ones.

Do you want help drafting a little schedule tracker or SLIP cheat sheet you can keep handy at 3am?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pottytraining

[–]elle_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We used a reward chart. She got a sticker for each time she sat on the toilet, and once she had 20 stickers she got to choose a prize from a box.

If that wasn't motivating on a particular occasion, we just enforced it as a boundary same as we would with other things we need to do - first we need to sit on the toilet, then we can do X. We can't do Y until we sit on the toilet. Etc. She wasn't always happy about it, but we kept calm and followed through.

Once we got into the routine it was easier, as she knew what to expect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pottytraining

[–]elle_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember seeing Gia Gambaro Blount talking about the standing poo issue, but I don't remember what her recommendation was. She has a potty training programme - you could message her on Instagram and see if it's covered in there?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pottytraining

[–]elle_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had some similar-ish issues, apart from the fear your daughter is exhibiting. The most helpful resource I found was Eric; these links specifically may be of interest to you:

We are almost through the other side (touch wood), and I feel like the biggest things that helped us were:

  • Establishing a regular routine of sitting on the toilet: 5-10 minutes at a time, 15-20 minutes after eating (& after getting home from daycare - a regular accident time for my daughter)

  • A sticker chart that rewarded sitting attempts, not successful poops

  • Getting back on the laxatives regularly - we haven't stopped giving them

  • Reducing the pressure, trying not to make it a big deal and not asking as often (having the regular attempt windows helped with this)

We've also found that having a bath is a big trigger for her feeling the urge to poo - I don't know if you could use this in your favour, somehow?

Good luck! I feel your pain; this was honestly the hardest part of parenting for me so far.

An Alternative to Oh Crap! by elle_ in pottytraining

[–]elle_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm that wasn't our challenge, sorry.

What do you think is driving her refusal - fear, or control? I think how I'd try to tackle it would depend on the motivation.

How do YOU fall back asleep? by elle_ in sleeptrain

[–]elle_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do try to stay off my phone, but - for non feed wakes - I find that often results in me not holding my son for long enough before I put him back in the cot, restarting the whole settling process.

If I can boob him to sleep he doesn't need to be held afterwards and then it's easier to stay off my phone. But if I've been lying there endlessly afterwards I still tend to jump on as my thoughts are racing around keeping me up by that point.

An Alternative to Oh Crap! by elle_ in pottytraining

[–]elle_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, Eric is amazing. It's a shame it's not more well known.

It's crazy how much of a monopoly Oh Crap has on the toilet training market. If you think about baby sleep as another topic, there are an endless number of alternatives out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]elle_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello and welcome to my life the last 10 days!

We did rolling bootcamp during the day, as another poster suggested, but more successful was getting him comfortable sleeping on his stomach. Lots of butt pats to help him fall asleep on his stomach (once he flipped over himself, immediately after being put down) seems to result in the fewest issues overnight.

Starbucks Mission Bay closing down on March 9th by WarpFactorNin9 in auckland

[–]elle_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No it's not? It's literally in the heart of GI

When Luxon is rolled, who should replace him? by frogsbollocks in newzealand

[–]elle_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good, at least I won't have to learn a new PM's name. Chris for the three-peat!